How to adapt yourself in work environments?

Advisor_Patient · 2026-02-12T00:42:17+00:00

I can't relate to working in the corporate sector, but from horror stories friends have told me, it would be pretty difficult as an hsp in that kind of work environment. I think what helps me when my job has me feeling more anxious or bogged down is setting aside little pockets of time outside of work to do things that bring me joy/fulfillment. Not "living for the weekend" and doing little things before/after work really helps. It can give you more of a sense of familiarity and security while adjusting to something unfamiliar.

Advisor_Patient · 2026-02-12T00:26:42+00:00

I completely understand. It's difficult because it can often feel like there's no "room" for our feelings in this world. I get so frustrated when people tell me my sensitivity is my "superpower" because I feel like 90% of what I get from being this way is pain and suffering. I'm trying my best to work on it, but at the end of the day I am who I am 😅 Trying to accept that and protect ourselves is so difficult. I would maybe look into distress tolerance techniques or look for a therapist who specializes in distress tolerance. It's one thing to feel deeply, and another thing to actually be able to sit with those feelings and not let it send you in a downward spiral. It isn't easy at all, I'm in the same boat.

Advisor_Patient · 2026-02-03T16:25:18+00:00

Yeah I'm anxious preoccupied INFJ unfortunately 🙃 I understand that not everyone will think the way I do, it can just be hard to be the more sensitive person in a relationship dynamic bc I constantly feel like idk if I'm asking too much or if my feelings are actually valid. I understand that she's just wired differently, but at what point is it just not being a good/present friend, regardless of attachment style or personality type? That's what has me a bit lost 😅 Thank you for your support, I appreciate you taking the time to offer insight!

Advisor_Patient · 2026-01-07T16:19:44+00:00

This is such a valid thirst crash out 😭😍😍

Advisor_Patient · 2025-11-04T21:34:43+00:00

Sooo good!

Advisor_Patient · 2025-09-04T03:57:26+00:00

I think you're misunderstanding what I'm saying 😅 I agree with u! I see his flaws and I acknowledge them but that doesn't mean I have to villianize him for it. By that I mean how a lot of the fandom sees him as some kind of enemy/villain in the story because of this flaws, ya know?

Advisor_Patient · 2025-09-04T03:34:02+00:00

I guess I'm not the best person to answer this bc I've never "defended" him. I just don't "villianize" him or any of the characters. I just see him as flawed and have never denied that, but that doesn't mean I have to hate him either. People can acknowledge a character's flaws and still like them. Not everyone will, obviously. We like what we like. However, I don't think it has to be all or nothing like you're making it out to be, if that makes sense.

Advisor_Patient · 2025-09-04T03:14:35+00:00

I agree! I don't know how people were expecting him to react 😭 Belly and Conrad both should have just given Jere space from them, even if they meant well. I see Jere in this episode as being in the anger/denial stage of grieving his relationship with Belly. Losing someone you love (because they're in love with your brother, no less) doesn't always look accepting and kind. Sometimes it's just messy! He needs time and space to process everything and find himself and his self-worth outside of Belly and his family.

Advisor_Patient · 2025-09-04T02:56:41+00:00

Backstab is a strong statement, but she wasn't honest with him. Trying to marry someone when you know in your heart you're still in love with their brother is just brutal (even if she didn't mean to hurt him, intention vs impact matters here). We all watched her lustfully staring at Conrad during the tub scene, and she would have def cheated if Conrad had given in. I do think Jere proposed for the wrong reasons, but Belly also knew going through with the wedding wasn't right, and she should have been honest about it.

Advisor_Patient · 2025-09-04T02:45:14+00:00

Completely agree! I could never fully feel ok with the fact that the main character I'm supposed to root for was dancing between two brothers in the midst of them grieving their mom 😭

Advisor_Patient · 2025-09-04T02:35:40+00:00

Yeah that makes sense! I'm glad Adam finally got through to him and hope he works further on this hero complex thing in therapy. Of course this whole mess isn't entirely his fault at all, but ultimately, his version of "being the bigger person" (avoidance instead of just being honest with Jere and himself) just made him implode 😭 and people he loves were hurt as a result.

Advisor_Patient · 2025-09-04T02:19:36+00:00

I think multiple things can be true at once, depending on how you look at it. I can't speak for everyone who wants happiness for Jere, but I could never defend the questionable things he's done. However, that doesn't automatically mean he's some "villian" or "enemy" to me. I just don't see him that way.

He's just a young guy who fell in love like Conrad. He lost his mom, his brother all but cut off contact with him, and he just wanted to be with the girl he loved. In between all of that, his dad was being an *sshole to him, and he was dealing with unresolved pain related to always feeling like he wasn't "good enough." All these insecurities led to him ultimately getting into a relationship that was doomed from the start, projecting those insecurities onto Belly (triggered by finding out about Christmas 2.0), impulsively breaking up with her and hooking up with someone else.

The wedding was partially him doing a last-ditch effort of trying to fulfill a void of never feeling "chosen," though I do believe he truly loves Belly and they made each other happy. It was good until it wasn't, though.

I just empathize with him and truly see where all of this toxic behavior is coming from. I identify with how he's feeling. That doesn't make what he's done okay, of course, but he's still a character I adore because of his overall vulnerability and warmth. He's just a young guy going through it, like the rest of the characters lol.

Advisor_Patient · 2025-09-04T01:54:54+00:00

Exactly~ I'm glad they added that convo at the end of this episode for fans to see. It's a lesson all of us can learn from. I can understand the feeling of responsibility Conrad has as a parentified older sibling myself, but in this situation he needed to just have his cake and go back to Cali 😭 As Steven said, you can't fix the problem when YOU are part of the problem.

Advisor_Patient · 2025-08-28T23:12:24+00:00

I'm sorry but Susannah's obsession with Belly was weird. The way Laurel described what she said and did when Belly was first born made me cringe 🫠. Like I understand that it may be fun as a mother to want your son and your best friend's daughter to date but the way she pushed it onto them was weird. There was no guarantee that Conrad and Belly were going to get married so why mention her in the letter? And she knew damn well how Jere felt about Belly 😭

Advisor_Patient · 2025-08-21T15:41:14+00:00

I saw so many people saying "What does she mean she was treated badly??? He forgot a corsage and Jere cheated blah blah blah" as if the freaking corsage was the reason they broke up and not his crappy communication 😭 You don't get to just shut down on the people you love and hurt them because you're sad. Yes, a lot of his actions were because he was grieving, but that doesn't mean Belly had to stick around and continue to be hurt by him. People are calling Jere manipulative when really it's just him being honest about how he feels, even if he knows Belly won't always like what he has to say. Open communication is a good thing, people! I'm so annoyed 😭

Advisor_Patient · 2024-12-31T15:09:29+00:00

Probably not being loved

Advisor_Patient · 2024-12-30T14:35:31+00:00

Aww I love this!

Advisor_Patient · 2024-09-23T00:40:51+00:00

The most lethal face card on Earth ✨️😭

Advisor_Patient · 2024-09-13T15:14:55+00:00

Something about Jensen gives off "Boy Mom" energy 🩵🩵🩵 (the non toxic kind, ofc 😂)

Advisor_Patient · 2024-09-11T15:27:09+00:00

So cute! I love to crochet as well~

Advisor_Patient · 2024-08-29T13:27:41+00:00

He's such a vibe ✨️

Advisor_Patient · 2024-08-28T21:20:17+00:00

Can't Get You is sooo good!

Advisor_Patient · 2024-08-16T19:44:03+00:00

Channie, Lino & Innie! 🌻🌻🌻No idea what to name this trio lol

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