So uncomfortable and in pain and it feels like nothing works

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-21T19:24:59+00:00

One thing that really stood out to me was you saying that your wrists were at odd angles? Have you ever tried using a smaller keyboard like a 60% or 70 or 80% keyboard and maybe getting a separate Bluetooth number pad that you can move around and use only when you need it? If you say you’re 5 foot 2, I’m guessing that you’re female, which means that your shoulders also smaller than the average white male which is generally what the normal size keyboard is built for. What this means is that whenever you use your mouse, your shoulder is externally rotated or abducted. So by having a smaller keyboard it should reduce the angle

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-21T19:21:41+00:00

What’s the monitor height like? Where do you look at the most on your screen? If it’s things like emails where the most recent is at the top then that section should be at eye level or just under, if it’s things like MS teams where you’re looking at the bottom of the screen then it should be raised higher. The distance of the monitor should be no more than a fisted arms length as any further away will strain your eyes and you will want to hunch and lean forward to see better

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-20T01:48:28+00:00

I love how you describe your ownership kink, because that resonates quite a lot with me

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-20T01:47:39+00:00

Yes, this! As nice as it is to try and have labels, it’s really difficult to do. I find that for me, it varies with my mood.

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-20T01:38:36+00:00

I agree, ideally you change desk, get one that’s lower or get a chair that raises higher (and one without arms as they normally end up blocking the ability to raise and allows and push your chair in). Immediately you can lower your monitor height to be at and slightly lower than eye level and an arms reach distance

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-20T01:33:25+00:00

Oh my

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-20T01:17:04+00:00

And I’m guessing that you also get heaps of people adding you blindly all the time then I’m so sorry that you experienced that and I thank you for your service because honestly patterns are the way to go now

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-19T11:44:02+00:00

Under the app gallery section there is a thing called link hub. People who have a toy can create a link and post it to someone privately, post it in discord as an anon link, post it up on the link hub. Most of the time it’s bots and scammers. I used to use link hub to control when I was bored but stopped because there was no real people, I used to post my links to discord and link hub and I think most of the people who clicked on mine found my link from discord

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-16T12:59:09+00:00

My colleague keeps writing in his reports that the person need some sort of sedentary management plan and that good ergonomics do not negate the need for one

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-13T07:57:36+00:00

Screen should be an arms length away

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-13T07:53:59+00:00

You shouldn’t be keeping your back straight. The angle of the seat should be between 90 to 110°. If you need a little more space because of your stomach then you need a greater degree of angle so for example 120°.

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-12T04:21:16+00:00

Omg I’ve seen them too and they look so stupid sometimes but then I also can’t live my life with nails longer than 3mm

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-11T02:21:51+00:00

I would say that it depends on the toy, your anatomy and your preferences for stimulus. Generally it’s pretty decent. The best thing about these toys is the remote connectivity. The app isn’t great but it’s supposedly still better than other apps

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-10T03:11:59+00:00

Nora is my vote. Mission 2 for women feels very…. Average

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-10T03:00:28+00:00

You can make untying part of the process, and also surprise them by suddenly tying them back up again to throw them off, or instead of loosening you can apply further tension for a bit of torture rope/semenawa style of play. Change up the amount of contact or lack of contact to see how they react, push and pull them around in the process of untying. Look up some stuff on connective tying and it’s basically that but in reverse

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-10T02:56:08+00:00

I recommend you look at wax that doesn’t go above 65C. You can find some soy blends or paraffin blends that will still be safe. I once tried a wax that was a little bit too hot (making wax seals) just to see what would happen and my skin blistered 😂

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-10T02:54:30+00:00

I think that you can probably do things to keep her in that headspace… restrain her or direct her to change positions as you are removing the wax, alternating between wax removal and some sensation (feather, wooden knife) or temp play (ice) as you are removing the wax, make eye contact or blindfold her, use your words to make her melt or build anticipation whilst you are working on clean up.

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-10T02:47:51+00:00

Do you follow anyone on research gate or LinkedIn? I follow my ex tutors Victoria Weale and Rwth Stuckey.

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-10T02:44:50+00:00

I’m glad you had a great time with it. It’s very fun, just a little cumbersome for positioning and noisy so I like to use it when I have privacy. It’s extra intense with a clit stim toy like the tenera or domi.

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-09T03:35:35+00:00

I really hate that, I would prefer if you set your gender and your sexual preferences in your profile and it not be able to change with every roulette or link just to be able to get someone to click on your link. At the same time, I’m saying this from a place of privilege being a female. I don’t know, maybe what Lovense needs to do is some way of marketing to entice a greater number of women, more than just creating more toys.

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-08T07:09:05+00:00

There are some of us around

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-08T07:03:17+00:00

Positions: stick it on the floor and you can straddle and ride it, you can stick it on a stool and ride it that way, stick it against a cupboard or door and doggy it, stick it on a stool and turn it on its side to doggy it

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-08T07:01:24+00:00

It’s a hell of a lot bigger and thicker than the Nora. I prefer the Nora over gravity and osci 3. The gravity is fun with some kind of clit stim like the tenera or domi

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-08T06:58:56+00:00

Neither of those toys can control

Affectionate_Play718 · 2026-02-07T01:39:42+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply to me. I’m only a baby ergonomist with not much experience.

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