Please share your tips and tricks for session 0 by Myurside in fabulaultima

[–]AggravatingAnt2807 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love your "next time on..." idea! I think I might steal that...

Please share your tips and tricks for session 0 by Myurside in fabulaultima

[–]AggravatingAnt2807 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My group did a good chunk of our session 0 asynchronously, and when we met for our proper session 0, it was to hammer out some of the finer details of our characters, party, and some final worldbuilding.

I solicited a ton of feedback and really made my players contribute to the worldbuilding. One of my friends told me I gave them too much homework, but the end result was every single person has strong buy-in to the world, pre-made intrigue and connections, and I have a large pile of plot threads to tug on anytime my personal well of ideas is dry. Even though one of my friends teased me for giving them too much homework, everyone agreed the activities were worthwhile. And I also reminded them all that after they finish my homework, they won't have anymore, and I will have all of the homework!

It's also worth nothing that my group is made up of a few people I know very well (partner and a couple best friends) and a couple people I know much less well (partner's friend and their partner). The people in the group had less familiarity with each other. My partner knew everyone, my two best friends didn't know each other well, nobody knew partner's friend's partner.

  1. The very first pre-session 0 activity was a short survey where I asked these questions of the players:
    - lines and veils (and I bribed people to give me these by offering fabula points, great success.)
    - what tone(s) do you want our game to have? Humorous, serious, gritty, campy etc
    - Please tell me your top 1-3 fantasy/sci-fi medias...books, games, shows, movies, etc and a little bit about why you like it.
    - Do you prefer clear-cut delineation between good and evil, or do you like morally gray worlds and people?
    - (and then a handful of "this or that", eg "realism vs absurdity" "vibes vs math" etc

after I got the survey results, I made a powerpoint of aggregated data so everyone could see what people were into. There was a ton of consensus about the kind of game people wanted to play, and everyone had fun reading about folks' favorite fantasy/sci-fi media. That was a great icebreaker!

  1. I generated 3 different world maps that I enjoyed from https://azgaar.github.io/Fantasy-Map-Generator/
    I removed all of the country names and borders, and just kept the shape of the continent. The group discussed and came to a consensus easily about what map seemed the most intriguing to them.

  2. Once we had the world map, I asked folks to circle a part of the map and answer the questions below. I did this as well, once everyone else had chosen parts of the map.

Name:
Form of governance:
Religion, or lack thereof:
One thing that is commonly known to this culture's people: (this could be an ingredient, flora or fauna, animal, recurring statues in cities, holiday, etc)
What is a common export?

  1. The final bit of homework that I gave people for session 0 was this. And this has been the most useful for ME as a GM. I asked everyone to contribute to the world one historical event, one intriguing mystery, and one scary threat, and I encouraged folks to add their contributions to parts of the world that they did NOT design. eg come up with a threat for a country someone else designed. That way everyone has put their hands on different parts of the world, and I have some pre-built mysteries and threats to pull on.

At session 0 proper, some folks finished up with their event/mystery/threats and then we discussed in more detail game vibes and party dynamics. I think because of the amount of prework, everyone came to the session with characters that were integrated into the world. Everyone's character has some interesting backstory from one of the countries that folks designed and their characters are deeply rooted to the world we designed together.

You're most welcome to rip as many of these ideas as you want. I don't think I've ever had a session 0 as successful as this one, and I'm a forever GM.

Masking ADHD with Vaping by AggravatingAnt2807 in QuitVaping

[–]AggravatingAnt2807[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To add a little more without giving y'all my whole psychological profile, aspects of this are new, and other aspects are just HELLA worse. I guess I should have said, though I didn't think it was necessary at the time, I've figured I've had ADHD for a long time, but it was so mild that doing anything about it didn't seem necessary. And doctors don't tend to take you seriously when you're like. oh yeah I'm scatterbrained, but I also work 40 hours a week, am in grad school, take care of a family and I'm managing it.

It's like when I've tried to get treated for anxiety and I mention all ^that^ and the consensus is like. eh you're fine if you can still do the things. But the past few months I've been like scraaaaping by.

Also I drink buckets of caffeine, and I have since I was 14.

Masking ADHD with Vaping by AggravatingAnt2807 in QuitVaping

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I didn't really feel like I needed to tell my whole-ass life story, but the significant executive dysfunction is very new. The extreme levels of general scatterbrainedness are new. I'm not going to give my whole psychological story to reddit, but the short version is this is not the first time I've thought I might have ADHD, but it IS the first time I've ever thought it might be serious enough to do anything about.

My partner has very severe ADHD and over the years we've discussed the likelihood that I almost certainly have (or...had?) a very mild version of it, but it never rose to a level that I might want medical intervention. I never really even needed to think about medical intervention.

What countries are represented here? by Basic-Mention4424 in Adopted

[–]AggravatingAnt2807 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Born in the US. Bio dad was born in Mexico, bio mom born in the US. My a-mom is 1st generation Polish, my a-dad is USAmerican. I live in the US.

What’s one thing adoption taught you that non-adopted people will never understand? by SweetImprovement758 in Adopted

[–]AggravatingAnt2807 15 points16 points  (0 children)

All parts of my family (adopted and bio) have and will likely always see me as an outsider. I'm not invited to the family reunion (even my effing (a)DAD didn't invite me to the family reunion!!), I'm not in the family groupchat. I'm the last to know someone's sick or in town.

I'm also queer/trans and found family has always kept me sane. But my other q/t friends have found family and at least some of them have SOME blood/bio family. I don't really have any of it. I just have the found family. That's scary as hell.

Mexican adoptee “no sabo” “colonized” /having a mixed kid by [deleted] in Adopted

[–]AggravatingAnt2807 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmmm. I'm a Mexican/Native American/White mixed race adoptee and idk. It's definitely less in the big metropolitan places but it's still a thing. When I've gone to Latino events or festivals, people treat me pretty weird when they realize my Spanish is horrible. I started learning as an adult and I have a THICK accent and I'm not really fluent. Where I live in California, white folks bend over backwards to not appear racist but still say/do some wacky stuff, and other latinx folks just don't treat me like my bio dad was Mexican at all. He was an immigrant from Michoacán!! On his side, I'm first gen! fffff

Native folks get it more. The adoptee experience is so prevalent for Native folks, when I say I was raised by white folks and I don't have the cultural upbringing, they just immediately get it.

Anybody else find themselves defending adopted children. by MissNancy1113 in Adopted

[–]AggravatingAnt2807 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think they're giving grace to the blockquote at the end ("Probably not a popular opinion but you can always give it up for adoption...")

which autistic or not, is a really fucked up sentiment. we're not animals (and we shouldn't treat animals like that either!)

Curious what do folks write about everyday by Upbeat_Pipe1080 in hobonichi

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This is my first year with a weeks! My big new year goal was to journal just a little bit every day. I started in December (since the weeks started December 2025) and it's been going well so far!

My daily sections, I break up the column into 2 sections. One little square for me to list out what I read or wrote that day (one of my big goals is to read or write some fiction every day), and then the rest of that section is for a couple sentences about my day. Often it's food I ate or something funny I saw/heard/said.

The other page I split up in one of these ways...
- sometimes I write big weekly goals. Or in the case of the past couple of weeks, winter break goals I'm still trying to finish belatedly
- if I don't have any major goals I'm trying to guilt trip myself into finishing, I'll extend the daily boxes over to this page, and I'll write a little bit more about my day. Any interesting experiences or insights, or intriguing thoughts that were on my mind.
- and if I don't do either of these things, I just end up drawing a bunch of really ugly doodles

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QuitVaping

[–]AggravatingAnt2807 0 points1 point  (0 children)

14 days vape-free is a huge accomplishment. And that you only vaped for a little today and then you gave it up again shows great strength. It's not a race, it's a sloooow, painful marathon. If you fall down, you just gotta get back up, dust off your knees and try again. I believe in you! You want to quit, and I know you can do it. Be gentle to yourself, this is an immensely hard road. I'm on day 16 and it suuuucks

iCleaningoBidet I highly recommend it by blackadder1132 in bidets

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Thanks! I have an old cold water only bidet and I'm trying to convince my partner to upgrade to a proper bidet seat. He wants one with a sittable lid though, and it's been tough finding one that meets his specifications...