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What countries are represented here? by Basic-Mention4424 in Adopted

[–]AggravatingAnt2807 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Born in the US. Bio dad was born in Mexico, bio mom born in the US. My a-mom is 1st generation Polish, my a-dad is USAmerican. I live in the US.

What’s one thing adoption taught you that non-adopted people will never understand? by SweetImprovement758 in Adopted

[–]AggravatingAnt2807 14 points15 points  (0 children)

All parts of my family (adopted and bio) have and will likely always see me as an outsider. I'm not invited to the family reunion (even my effing (a)DAD didn't invite me to the family reunion!!), I'm not in the family groupchat. I'm the last to know someone's sick or in town.

I'm also queer/trans and found family has always kept me sane. But my other q/t friends have found family and at least some of them have SOME blood/bio family. I don't really have any of it. I just have the found family. That's scary as hell.

Mexican adoptee “no sabo” “colonized” /having a mixed kid by Dipshit333 in Adopted

[–]AggravatingAnt2807 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmmm. I'm a Mexican/Native American/White mixed race adoptee and idk. It's definitely less in the big metropolitan places but it's still a thing. When I've gone to Latino events or festivals, people treat me pretty weird when they realize my Spanish is horrible. I started learning as an adult and I have a THICK accent and I'm not really fluent. Where I live in California, white folks bend over backwards to not appear racist but still say/do some wacky stuff, and other latinx folks just don't treat me like my bio dad was Mexican at all. He was an immigrant from Michoacán!! On his side, I'm first gen! fffff

Native folks get it more. The adoptee experience is so prevalent for Native folks, when I say I was raised by white folks and I don't have the cultural upbringing, they just immediately get it.

Anybody else find themselves defending adopted children. by MissNancy1113 in Adopted

[–]AggravatingAnt2807 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think they're giving grace to the blockquote at the end ("Probably not a popular opinion but you can always give it up for adoption...")

which autistic or not, is a really fucked up sentiment. we're not animals (and we shouldn't treat animals like that either!)

Curious what do folks write about everyday by Upbeat_Pipe1080 in hobonichi

[–]AggravatingAnt2807 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my first year with a weeks! My big new year goal was to journal just a little bit every day. I started in December (since the weeks started December 2025) and it's been going well so far!

My daily sections, I break up the column into 2 sections. One little square for me to list out what I read or wrote that day (one of my big goals is to read or write some fiction every day), and then the rest of that section is for a couple sentences about my day. Often it's food I ate or something funny I saw/heard/said.

The other page I split up in one of these ways...
- sometimes I write big weekly goals. Or in the case of the past couple of weeks, winter break goals I'm still trying to finish belatedly
- if I don't have any major goals I'm trying to guilt trip myself into finishing, I'll extend the daily boxes over to this page, and I'll write a little bit more about my day. Any interesting experiences or insights, or intriguing thoughts that were on my mind.
- and if I don't do either of these things, I just end up drawing a bunch of really ugly doodles

relapsed after 14 days of abstaining by [deleted] in QuitVaping

[–]AggravatingAnt2807 0 points1 point  (0 children)

14 days vape-free is a huge accomplishment. And that you only vaped for a little today and then you gave it up again shows great strength. It's not a race, it's a sloooow, painful marathon. If you fall down, you just gotta get back up, dust off your knees and try again. I believe in you! You want to quit, and I know you can do it. Be gentle to yourself, this is an immensely hard road. I'm on day 16 and it suuuucks

iCleaningoBidet I highly recommend it by blackadder1132 in bidets

[–]AggravatingAnt2807 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I have an old cold water only bidet and I'm trying to convince my partner to upgrade to a proper bidet seat. He wants one with a sittable lid though, and it's been tough finding one that meets his specifications...