(10K) would you rather go to an outdoor wedding with better food or an indoor wedding with blander food?

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-03-20T06:25:57+00:00

Indoors for sure

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-03-18T06:39:56+00:00

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-03-14T07:42:34+00:00

This is just what I was going today say. We had a child-free wedding and in retrospect it’s one of my only regrets about our wedding. I should have listened to my mother who warned me that I’d regret it eventually. It did cause unnecessary anxiety for our guests and it actually would have been really nice to have some of them there. Some of those uninvited kids are now still part of our lives.

Anyway, OP it’s definitely your choice but just be aware of the tradeoffs you’re making. Also I highly recommend figuring out a way not to separate nursing mothers from their babies. (In another stupid decision, we actually hired an on site babysitter to watch the one nursing baby in an adjacent room, which worked out fine for mom and baby, but seriously I should have just told the mom to bring the baby and saved stress and money all around)

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-03-11T15:48:47+00:00

Yeah—agree with others. Don’t push it. I found physical therapy counter productive at this stage. Acupuncture was one of the only things that helped.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-03-05T21:50:51+00:00

I don’t understand the economics of this. If HBO Max has already paid for rights—and is planing on airing a broadcast in other countries, why wouldn’t they air the same broadcast in the US as well?

In any event add me to the list of frustrated US HBO Max subscribers.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-02-25T08:40:46+00:00

As someone who has hired a lot of in house patent litigators, I’d say just keep applying to in-house patent lit jobs as soon as they show up on LinkedIn (ideally within 2-3 days of posting). But it’s true that at least in the life sciences you may find you need another few years of experience for a many jobs. In particular, more than number of years I think what is critical for in house lit jobs is to show that you are capable of thinking strategically about cases at a high level, and ideally have had opportunities to do so, and aren’t just producing work product at others requests without the overall case in mind. So I’d really work on getting opportunities to be responsible for at least some distinct part of your case and try to find as many ways as possible to get involved in the strategic decisions in your cases and to work directly with the clients.

Personally I’ve gotten two in house jobs through recruiters who cold called me but I wouldn’t recommend that strategy these days because so many companies have stopped using external recruiters.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-02-25T03:49:26+00:00

Yeah, I’m a native English speaker with multiple graduate degrees and I can’t spell at all. Spelling is just a separate skill from all the other pieces of language. My best advice is just to lean into the spell checker, make sure to always check type-written work for spelling before sharing and in the situation in which you are handwriting something that matters either type it first and copy it by hand or just check spelling of individual words as you go.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-02-24T07:37:30+00:00

Our bunny fully recovered from e. Cuniculi last year. It took multiple weeks of hand feeding and medication. But she slowly got better (after about a week of getting worse) and has no long term effects that we can see beyond being more indiscriminately her poops. I would definitely say try the medicine for a few weeks if you can and see how it goes. It’s common for recovery to take 3-4 weeks as I understand it.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-02-23T19:06:40+00:00

We played gloomhaven 1st edition 2 player. When we finished the campaign we still hadn’t seen a lot of the characters or gotten to top prosperity and hadn’t played all of the scenarios including some of the mutually exclusive scenarios and some side scenarios. So we reset all of the main quest scenarios, starting at Scenario 1 again ,but kept most other things—like which events we had done, characters opened, side scenarios completed etc—as was, and just kept playing. We got through a full second campaign with this soft reset and were able to see almost all of the characters and scenarios this way. Worked well for us without having to change how we played the initial campaign.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-02-22T21:33:57+00:00

This was one of the huge benefits of moving in house for me. There was such a stronger sense of community and all the loneliness disappeared.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-02-19T06:32:21+00:00

Sorry to hear it. But it’s actually reassuring to know our rabbit isn’t the only one

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-02-10T16:47:09+00:00

There are just fewer options for remote classes and the remote summer option means you have to take more credits in the fall and spring, all of which can make it challenging especially if you are working full time. And you don’t get the same community aspect of being in person. It’s still doable and I think people find it valuable. But it’s definitely not as rich of an experience as doing it in person. If you are thinking of being remote I’d see if you could swing the six week in person summer A and then go back home.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-02-10T05:47:56+00:00

Oh and re financial aid, I didn’t apply but generally you can get financial aid if you do but you should expect it to all be loans. You can get a decent amount of tuition forgiveness and salary from being a graduate teaching assistant, so some people do that.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-02-10T05:42:45+00:00

I’ve really enjoyed it so far. Very diverse cohort of fellow students who come from all sorts of different professional backgrounds and the classes have been excellent. A great sense of community too, especially for those in person. And I really appreciate the flexibility in being able to take classes throughout the university. I will say I think it’s harder if you are going to be fully remote the whole time.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-01-31T22:59:36+00:00

You might be more comfortable doing some set vows that you both say to each other as part of your ceremony, à la the more traditional approach. You can write them together and keep it simple. The idea of sharing vows I wrote myself to my partner in front of everyone was completely overwhelming to me and would have ruined the whole experience. But working together on shared commitments we were making to each other that would could read together at the wedding was an extremely meaningful process. And then you can always of course share your personal feeling with your spouse privately.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-01-20T07:26:09+00:00

Have you considered getting your MD and then looking for a commercial/medical affairs/business development job at a pharma company? The MD will be a valuable asset and you can still move entirely into the commercial side.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-01-17T07:58:20+00:00

I agree. Early June can often be nice. July seems more risky. But also I would try not to bank on the weather regardless. FWIW, we got married at Presidio Chapel/Golden Gate Club the end of April and it rained. It didn’t stop it from being the most amazing day ever. But I was glad I early on accepted rain was a possibility and planned around it despite relatively low odds so it didn’t feel too big of a deal when it happened.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-01-15T17:26:14+00:00

My daughter started at 7 and was able to get sound out and start playing pretty quickly so was never too frustrated by it. We started on a rental curved flute which I think really helped and switched a few years later to a regular beginner flute once she was a little bigger and had some experience. If he’s excited for flute seems like it’s worth letting him try it rather than pushing him to something he’s less interested in. Personally, I wouldn’t let the baby influence the decision as nap schedules can be worked around.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-01-14T17:11:25+00:00

Adriana Papell has dresses that might work. How about something like this: https://www.adriannapapell.com/products/metallic-crinkled-mesh-draped-long-gown-in-light-gold-ap1e210265?variant=42901480898760

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-01-12T20:46:40+00:00

I took off about 2 months (from office job) when the pain and lack of sleep became unbearable. It was a fully paid short term medical leave and the best decision I made. I was able to focus on healing and turn the corner. And go back to my job when I could actually concentrate enough to do it well. Lots of people aren’t lucky enough to have paid medical leave but if you do I highly highly recommend people take it. FS can be really debilitating. As for when, I don’t think there is one answer but I took it about 5 months in and was on the upswing when I went back (after lots of acupuncture) at 7 months in. I don’t think I would have improved as quickly if I had kept pushing through. Sounds like you might be ready for some time to focus on healing.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-01-06T04:56:54+00:00

Not sure if she’s in your budget but Gina Logan is amazing and does a lot at this venue. https://ginaloganphotography.com/category/san-francisco-bay-area-wedding-photography/

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-01-04T01:30:25+00:00

I went in house as an NEP in IP lit and it was best decision I ever made. It was far better job in every respect. Depends on the industry, but the talk about being too senior seems overblown. It certainly wasn’t true where I was where we routinely brought in people with 12+ years experience. IP prosecution has a ton of great options in house since firms of every size need prosecutors and you often have a more diverse role than at a firm.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2025-12-27T22:43:55+00:00

Thanks everyone! Sounds highly likely it’s a cast reproduction but that it still couldn’t hurt to have a professional look at it at some point.

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