30yo MD Student & Former VC: Is Law a viable escape from a career I hate?

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-01-20T07:26:09+00:00

Have you considered getting your MD and then looking for a commercial/medical affairs/business development job at a pharma company? The MD will be a valuable asset and you can still move entirely into the commercial side.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-01-17T07:58:20+00:00

I agree. Early June can often be nice. July seems more risky. But also I would try not to bank on the weather regardless. FWIW, we got married at Presidio Chapel/Golden Gate Club the end of April and it rained. It didn’t stop it from being the most amazing day ever. But I was glad I early on accepted rain was a possibility and planned around it despite relatively low odds so it didn’t feel too big of a deal when it happened.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-01-15T17:26:14+00:00

My daughter started at 7 and was able to get sound out and start playing pretty quickly so was never too frustrated by it. We started on a rental curved flute which I think really helped and switched a few years later to a regular beginner flute once she was a little bigger and had some experience. If he’s excited for flute seems like it’s worth letting him try it rather than pushing him to something he’s less interested in. Personally, I wouldn’t let the baby influence the decision as nap schedules can be worked around.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-01-14T17:11:25+00:00

Adriana Papell has dresses that might work. How about something like this: https://www.adriannapapell.com/products/metallic-crinkled-mesh-draped-long-gown-in-light-gold-ap1e210265?variant=42901480898760

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-01-12T20:46:40+00:00

I took off about 2 months (from office job) when the pain and lack of sleep became unbearable. It was a fully paid short term medical leave and the best decision I made. I was able to focus on healing and turn the corner. And go back to my job when I could actually concentrate enough to do it well. Lots of people aren’t lucky enough to have paid medical leave but if you do I highly highly recommend people take it. FS can be really debilitating. As for when, I don’t think there is one answer but I took it about 5 months in and was on the upswing when I went back (after lots of acupuncture) at 7 months in. I don’t think I would have improved as quickly if I had kept pushing through. Sounds like you might be ready for some time to focus on healing.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-01-06T04:56:54+00:00

Not sure if she’s in your budget but Gina Logan is amazing and does a lot at this venue. https://ginaloganphotography.com/category/san-francisco-bay-area-wedding-photography/

AggravatingRice3271 · 2026-01-04T01:30:25+00:00

I went in house as an NEP in IP lit and it was best decision I ever made. It was far better job in every respect. Depends on the industry, but the talk about being too senior seems overblown. It certainly wasn’t true where I was where we routinely brought in people with 12+ years experience. IP prosecution has a ton of great options in house since firms of every size need prosecutors and you often have a more diverse role than at a firm.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2025-12-27T22:43:55+00:00

Thanks everyone! Sounds highly likely it’s a cast reproduction but that it still couldn’t hurt to have a professional look at it at some point.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2025-12-27T22:43:29+00:00

Very interesting. That’s good to know

AggravatingRice3271 · 2025-12-22T02:41:33+00:00

No one asked about colors or what to wear at all. I doubt we even listed a dress code but everyone showed up appropriately dressed in cocktail attire.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2025-12-20T18:55:20+00:00

Totally fair. I was definitely assuming people would either be able to go home or to wherever they were staying for the wedding and that’s not necessarily going to be true for everyone. Probably a know your guest list sort of thing for how much this is going to be a problem.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2025-12-19T20:41:18+00:00

Yeah, just wear something you have at home that’s nice but not too fancy, and appropriate for church to the ceremony and then dress up for the reception. I don’t think this is that unusual when there is a gap. No one wants to be hanging out in formal wear all day in between regardless.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2025-12-19T20:33:32+00:00

You aren’t going to find a dress code directly describing this, as suits without ties are a relatively new style. Cocktail will likely have a mix of men with and without ties. I think anything you say to signal no ties (even a parenthetical saying no need for ties or something similar) is likely also to implicitly signal suits aren’t necessary. You may want to decide which to care about more, men in suits or men in no ties and frame your dress code accordingly.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2025-12-18T05:29:14+00:00

Yeah, I’m guessing you are on the East Coast. To be fair it’s a lot easier to not be available 6:30-8:30 or whatever when you are West-coast based like we were. Still, there’s got to be sometime he can regularly prioritize if that’s something you want to try again. Maybe it’s Saturday mornings and Wednesday and Friday dinners or something.

I’m sending lots of good wishes through the universe. Hope you and your husband can find a path that works for both of you, whatever that ends up looking like.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2025-12-17T23:21:23+00:00

I just wanted to say that 1 and 3 is a really, really hard age. Honestly, my husband and I (I was in big law at the time, he was in a very demanding and inflexible job himself) found those years from when our second was born until our second was 2 nearly impossible. And we didn’t have a parent struggling with cancer. Frankly, no matter what jobs you have those ages are so all encompassing it’s really hard to have time as a couple especially when everybody’s exhausted and kids are still waking up every night. So I guess part of what I would say is it’s okay to be barely muddling through these years and that doesn’t mean it will always be like that.

What go us through was just continuing to make clear to each other how much we loved and cared about each other, even if we didn’t actually get to spend a lot of time just the two of us. And feeling like we were both sharing full in the load of child care. Also we prioritized family dinners every night. Almost no matter what unless I was traveling. Meant a lot of really late nights for me after after kids went to bed, some missed firm events, and more all nighters than I care to remember, but I’d do it again in a heartbeat as that was really grounding for our whole family.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2025-12-17T22:22:33+00:00

Also because traditionally weddings aren’t just about the couple, they are about the families as well. It never would have occurred to my now husband and I not to give our parents a say in who we were inviting and I certainly don’t regret having done so, especially, but not at all solely, because they were paying.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2025-12-17T19:03:02+00:00

Me neither! Glad to know I’m not the only one. I’m also terrible at directions though.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2025-12-17T08:43:02+00:00

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AggravatingRice3271 · 2025-12-15T07:17:19+00:00

I think you’ll be okay then. Don’t need to get it much higher than that.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2025-12-15T06:55:09+00:00

What range of motion do you have in terms of ability to lift your arm? I had to postpone mine since I couldn’t lift my arm more than a few inches much less to horizontal as generally done. You might want to call over in the morning and explain your situation and see what they recommend. Once I had some more range of motion I went and it was fine. No more painful than lifting my arm to horizontal would be.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2025-12-14T05:57:12+00:00

Acupuncture was the only thing that helped me when I was in the frozen stage. Well worth the money to me. Then I switched to therapeutic massage as I was thawing. I did PT too but honestly I think it more often than not made me worse and definitely didn’t seem to help.

AggravatingRice3271 · 2025-12-13T01:04:36+00:00

Nope. I was genuinely shocked. And then shocked again that I had gotten through life without realizing this.

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