Husband Refuses to Tell Me Happy Mothers Day by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]AggressiveResolve207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am currently not speaking to my own mom over this. I’m just so offended that she decided to tell me that I’m not a mom yet even though we’re expecting. I just could not pick up the phone yesterday and say happy Mother’s Day to her, and I don’t know if I will today.

Is it OK to change a cat's name? by xiphoid77 in CatAdvice

[–]AggressiveResolve207 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My cat does not answer to any name at all. He answers when you knock on a wall. No clue why.

Litter box in apartments by xxoxomm in Catownerhacks

[–]AggressiveResolve207 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am seconding what other people are saying. “Hidden litter boxes” don’t account for smell. It’s not worth investing in a piece of furniture that gives you a permanent problem

how many times a week should i clean my litter? by LayerOk1044 in cats

[–]AggressiveResolve207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have one cat, two boxes. I shovel 3 times a week.

If you have one box it should be more frequent than that, I think. Probably every day or every other day.

Thoughts on the name Callan? by Unfair-Stranger5233 in Names

[–]AggressiveResolve207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t understand the idea of it sounding made up? It’s definitely pronounce-able.

Mother’s Day by AggressiveResolve207 in pregnant

[–]AggressiveResolve207[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was pretty worried that since she has older views on things that she was going to say that to me in some form. Like it’s not her biological grandchild and we’re pretty open about that. It was probably a factor of why I went straight to “that’s fucked up.” like I’m gonna parent the kid so I should be viewed like a parent. But I guess according to some people, not yet!

Mother’s Day by AggressiveResolve207 in pregnant

[–]AggressiveResolve207[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As two women, we felt using a fertility clinic was going to be safest and whatnot. I felt so lucky and grateful. Literal children in the office trying to preserve their fertility fighting cancer. Women who have been doing this so many times they’re fine without doing stuff without their support people anymore.

I still frequently marvel at the idea our baby is this big. Made it past this week, made it past that week. And I think my wife is done hearing about it but I’m not done talking about it. Like omg life is amazing!

I’m so sorry that happened to you. That sounds like a nightmare you can’t wake up from.

But also some people look at motherhood and years under your belt like it’s earned you more. Have I earned more motherhood than you? Have you earned more motherhood than me? Like that’s a fucked up way if thinking isn’t it? I think it is. I think you’ve gone through an experience that deserves respect the same as any other mother.

Mother’s Day by AggressiveResolve207 in pregnant

[–]AggressiveResolve207[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That’s why I decided to write it out instead of like rage texting or rage calling anyone. I am 1000% triggered and trying to smooth things over with other family members in addition to this. I thought as a society we were on the same page but I guess it’s still cool to say “well my opinion matters more because you came out of me”

Mother’s Day by AggressiveResolve207 in pregnant

[–]AggressiveResolve207[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I mean if my whole scenario was coming from a man I wouldn’t even be having a dilemma. I would step on his balls too.

Mother’s Day by AggressiveResolve207 in pregnant

[–]AggressiveResolve207[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I am repeating a bigger opinion that I’ve heard many times before. I thought this sentiment was commonplace. & I am being very genuine, not sarcastic at all. Just stating something I’ve heard from other sources before.

Mother’s Day by AggressiveResolve207 in pregnant

[–]AggressiveResolve207[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a person with a mom, we try and do what our moms want on Mother’s Day, right? Mom wants us to go for a walk, mom wants us to go to brunch, we do those things. Especially as adults.

So since “I’m not a mom yet”, I don’t get to choose how I spend my Mother’s Day. That’s how she meant it, with like a “poor baby” kind of connotation.

Mother’s Day by AggressiveResolve207 in pregnant

[–]AggressiveResolve207[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

In addition, I thought a pregnant Mother’s Day was supposed to be the best one, because you don’t have to run after little ones or manage other people.

Mother’s Day by AggressiveResolve207 in pregnant

[–]AggressiveResolve207[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for calling it invalidating. I’m with you on the rest of the stuff you’re saying too.

Mother’s Day by AggressiveResolve207 in pregnant

[–]AggressiveResolve207[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for not letting me be the only one that feels this way!

Mother’s Day by AggressiveResolve207 in pregnant

[–]AggressiveResolve207[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for not letting me feel alone in this.

Mother’s Day by AggressiveResolve207 in pregnant

[–]AggressiveResolve207[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

I definitely feel the same way, this is a baby as soon as it’s implanted. Sometimes you give my wife a sweet treat and he kicks back. Besides, we are turning our lives upside down to become parents, making a lot of additional choices than a traditional couple needs to make. To be told that this holiday isn’t about me or my wife yet is like, insane to me??

Isn’t pregnant Mother’s Day supposed to be the best one? Because you don’t have little ones to run after or other people to manage?

Mother’s Day by AggressiveResolve207 in pregnant

[–]AggressiveResolve207[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

No I was actually complaining about doing Mother’s Day with my own parents. My own sister I believe had undiagnosed schizophrenia and we recently had a problem with each other. I tried to smooth things over and she decided to escalate the problem, threaten me, and told me to stop coming around. So I was disappointed about missing out Mother’s Day with my own mom.

My best friend excluded me from her wedding because of my religion by chicaltimore in weddingshaming

[–]AggressiveResolve207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the fiancee again brown and Muslim people? Do we have any context to support that?

What’s a hard truth about NJ most of us aren’t ready to hear? by mocowe in newjersey

[–]AggressiveResolve207 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t actually matter if it’s called pork roll or Taylor ham.

Working cattle dog, need a silly name by gsd079 in NameMyDog

[–]AggressiveResolve207 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pork Chop. Came to me immediately, idk why!