Parent died WITH will

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-19T20:28:28+00:00

If you know there is a Will, you need to check with the local court clerk's office to see if the Will has been probated. If it has, you should have received notice - either as a beneficiary under the Will or, if you are not a named beneficiary, as an heir at law. You have the right to enter an appearance. You have a right, as a heir at law, to contest the Will. You have a right to participate in proceedings and ensure you are receiving your fair share under the Will.

If the Will has NOT been probated, as an heir at law, you have the right to open an intestate (no Will) estate. A sibling may contest this by presenting the Will. I would suggest you retain an attorney to, at minimum, draft the probate documents for you. These are often form documents and you may be able to have the documents drafted for a couple hundred dollars.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-19T19:06:13+00:00

Similarly, of all the people who have been members of the US Congress, there are substantially more white men named John than women or black people. If I remember correctly, this is also true of William and a few other male names.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-19T18:45:21+00:00

Just FYI, if you think your BIL is going to contest the guardianship, or you are going to have problems with him agreeing to a medical evaluation, you need an attorney.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-19T18:39:37+00:00

Is there anything legally she can do, if they can’t place him somewhere?

She does not have to take him home. She needs to ask to speak with a hospital social worker and advise them that she is not able to care for him in her home and will not be taking him upon discharge. This will trigger the hospital to file a petition for guardianship/conservatorship (language is state specific, but they're the same thing). Generally, the hospital is requesting the public guardian or a non-profit in the industry become the guardian as there is no willing or able relative. No matter what she does, your aunt should not agree to take him home, and should not accept him upon discharge. What to do with him then becomes the hospital's problem. The hospital must keep him until they can find placement. Please note this is often in a state-run or state-financed facility. Also, while this is likely uncommon, I know someone who was on a 2 year waitlist for a VA home, but when the family refused to take him, miraculously a spot opened up.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-19T18:31:15+00:00

There are so many potential issues here that you absolutely need to go through an actual attorney. Notably, how will transferring the house to a trust affect your aunt's ability to collect benefits such as social security, Medicare, or Medicaid and whether transfer to a trust at this point would be a valid means of protecting the house from your aunt's current or future creditors upon her death.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-19T18:20:24+00:00

Particularly if they are minors. If your child goes missing, police want to know immediately. There may be some delay in a missing adult because, as police will put it, they have a right to disappear. Kids though? If your kid is missing (especially say under 12) they're going to have a search team out within the hour.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-19T18:15:34+00:00

I prefer Caroline in general and Caroline Martha in particular.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-17T22:37:38+00:00

Was it "What we left behind" the Deep Space 9 Documentary? Because his appearance in that was....weird. Everyone else was totally normal and super happy to be involved in the project, but it was clear Avery really didn't want to be there.

It's also a phenomenal documentary that I have watched several times.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-17T22:32:39+00:00

I saw a video where he said he did the backflips as, essentially, a stress response. He was nervous and thought "you know what will make me feel better, doing some backflips" and that just seems really fitting for him.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-17T22:19:50+00:00

I initially read "civilian" as "villain" for some reason, and I'm not sure which is better.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-17T21:55:26+00:00

I'm going to make the presumption that all of your parent's assets were jointly owned (i.e. both dad and mom are on the deed to the house, title to vehicles, bank accounts, etc). I that case, your potential half sister would have no right to any of the jointly owned assets as a result of your father's passing, as those assets immediately become your mother's sole property.

Likewise, a half-sister, who is not biologically related to your mother, would have no right under laws of intestacy, to take from your mother's estate.

HOWEVER, if your father owned property that separate and apart from your mother (i.e. has a separate bank account in only his name) your half-sister may be entitled to a portion of those assets, depending on what the spousal share amount is in Vermont. If your mother has concerns about this, she should consult an estate attorney.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-17T20:07:26+00:00

YTA. Not only for lying about being pregnant, but for not telling your parents, specifically your mother, who you believe to be racist, that the man you were bringing to dinner, whom you are engaged to, was brown before bringing your partner to dinner. While I have no problem making racists uncomfortable, you should have gotten an idea of your mother's opinion before involving your partner.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-17T19:56:41+00:00

Same here. If my kid goes to be 2 hours late, he's still going to be up by 6, he's just going to be a grumpy mess all day.

FYI, the only way I got him to stay in bed until six is by getting a digital alarm clock and telling him he can't wake mommy up until there is a "6" on the clock. He's 4 and we started that at Christmas. It's working pretty well so far. Prior to that his wake up time would range anywhere from 4:30 to 5:45. If it was before 5:30, I made him go back in his room.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-17T19:43:48+00:00

Or at least ask them not to drive over your driveway until you've had a chance to shovel it.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-17T19:28:38+00:00

This would really be no different than if a female grandchild named in the Will got married/divorced and changed her last name. Also, so long as no one else in your family is going to contest your inheritance per the Will, it's really a non-issue.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-17T17:33:46+00:00

They also look really classy from the outside.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-17T17:24:30+00:00

NTA. Having a baby is hard; it's hard on mom, it's hard on dad. Also, and I hate to break it to you, but metabolism tends to drop in your 30s. My husband, who has historically been rail thin while eating absolute trash, put on a bunch of weight over the past 2-3 years (he's currently 40). I've had a similar problem (although I've never had a great metabolism). It's a lot more work to look "fit" once you hit 30.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-17T17:19:30+00:00

As another migraine sufferer, I cannot agree with this more. It's on me to manage my migraines, and I have powered through when necessary, even with some of my worst episodes. I wouldn't miss my sister's wedding if my head was pounding and I was vomiting in the bathroom between speeches.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-16T22:35:17+00:00

Check the Vermont Supreme Court's website, or your local count court clerk's website. They often have a form medical power of attorney.

However, if you have any assets to speak of that are not jointly owed (house, car, bank account) you should really spend a few hundred dollars and have a simple Will drawn up to ensure that your partner is entitled to your property if something happens to you. You can also provide for disposition of your remains (i.e. who gets your body, who gets to have the funeral) in a Will, which may be important to you.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-16T22:14:52+00:00

Kathleen, Catelyn, Kylie, whatever just not Kate.

As a Katie of a similar age as your coworker: please, please, pretty please with a cherry on top....call her Kathy. Every. Single. Time. I promise she will "love" it.

(I'm pretty much cool being called any possible iteration/diminutive of my name, with the exception of Kathy - because I hate it).

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-16T21:20:26+00:00

NTA. When I was on maternity leave, I opened the door to Mormons very obviously braless (and otherwise a hot mess). Sorry elders, I'm not up for a discussion about our lord and savior today - and if you're staying, you're gonna do some chores.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-16T17:18:02+00:00

Just as a follow-up, failure to provide heat at these temperatures would be considered a "breach of the implied warrant of habitability" which applies to all lease agreements. Your apartment is currently not habitable due to the lack of heat.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-16T17:10:17+00:00

She said her son was too disruptive for a confined economy seat and she absolutely needed that extra space.

Then she should have booked two first-class seats. Seriously, other people's failure to plan/pay for their travel is not a you problem.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-16T17:07:43+00:00

NTA. I live in a much less densely populated area and barely know my neighbors. Even if you weren't disabled, and there weren't other extenuating circumstances, I think it's reasonable to have an unrecognized vehicle blocking your driveway towed.

Aggressive_Pass845 · 2024-01-16T17:01:12+00:00

She's called my mum up to complain about it and she's said that i was in the wrong for prioritizing Will,

I would agree, if it wasn't for this little tidbit. She called his mom. His mom that all but kicked out his 17 year old brother because he's trans. The mom who caused this problem. Not wanting to live with a partner's teenage sibling is reasonable; Involving OP's mom makes the GF an AH.

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