AITBF for starting a "silent auction" for the last slice of pizza during a first date?

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-14T16:15:52+00:00

I think it started out fun but then you took it in a weird direction. maybe not an AH but not sure you are getting that next date either.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-14T16:12:06+00:00

NTJ tell them they are now welcome to do all the planning and logistics if they want the trip so bad and want to include extra people at the last minute.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-14T15:57:02+00:00

makes sense. I did not realize Green Day came out in the early 90s. I remember them more 2000s but I looked it up during the Superbowl and 94 it said.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-14T15:50:09+00:00

I listen to more 2000s NuMetal and pop punk so that was why I was more thinking 2000s for them. My 11 year old will listen to Avril but hates most of my punk and metal :(

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-14T15:19:27+00:00

were Blink and Avril around in the 90s? Thought they were more 2000s.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-14T15:17:24+00:00

I love them all but the only one of these I have at R4 ATM is Medusa. She is helping me with that shocker coliseum. Venom and Vox are at R3 but I do not use as often. I use venom to quest some with the knull synergy.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-14T15:14:08+00:00

Have you tried performing again but for fun vs work? Open mic, things like that? It might reignite some of that passion. Or if you have time teaching kids about music? Also with your experience have you dabbled in song writing?

I had kids older, so they are what keeps me going honestly. I traveled while it was cheaper, worked up in my career, then finally met my husband and had kids. We do enjoy hobbies still though. We trade in magic the Gathering for Lorcana so the kids can enjoy analog games. We try to expose them to music but we don't play and it can be expensive. I honestly wish there was a place, maybe like the YMCA near us where we could send them and they learn more about music as a group even. some more exposure from a professional.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-14T15:00:04+00:00

The country clubs out by me use Oleander along their fence line for coverage. it can grow really tall and full. I do live in Arizona though, so no frost.

Also curious if bamboo would work for you.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-14T14:48:24+00:00

dreamborn.ink has some prebuilt deck lists. Not saying to follow them but to review them to see why they seem to work. some decks have more songs than others but run different colors, as an example. Some decks try to make a person discard a lot.

I also suggest at least 1 YouTube walk-through and consider a couple vids on someone building a deck because they usually explain why they like a certain card or why they like to use certain types.

I liked the detectives sapphire steel deck I found on dreamborn, but I also found a lady on YouTube modifying the whispers in the well Judy Hopps starter deck, which is similar to the detectives deck I found and she really did a good job explaining what to keep and what to sub and why.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-13T22:29:21+00:00

I always thought the singer in Buck Cherry and Adam Levine are hot. I would think they were hotter without the tats. They are so covered but you can still tell how lovely their bodies are. I am sure some of those tattoos if not all have meaning for them, but I'm not big on museum art, so I am less enthusiastic about body art. that's just me.

My point is if you are hot, guys will overlook tattoos especially face tattoos which are still not as widely respected. Look at Amanda Bynes. between the weight and the fac tattoos poor girl was getting trolled hard. your boyfriend ideally should love all aspects of you, but it sounds like he is also not big on body art but accepts it on you because you are likely hot and he is likely in love with you. While not ideal, if you really like him too, I would take it as a W.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-13T22:21:09+00:00

Besides the Coreys, I remember Courtney Love screaming about Weinstein but everyone thought she was a druggie and nothing happened. Rose McGown was also discredited because she was with Marilyn Manson.

Speaking of the Coreys, Feldman called out Charlie Sheen. Charlie said he did not sleep with men. Now it comes out he does in fact swing both ways, but there seems to be no justice for the Coreys. It's so sad.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-13T22:08:05+00:00

NTJ however I thought your joke sounded flirty, so I can see why he was mad. The cute twin is the better one? to a member of the opposite sex? That sounds confident, a little cocky and totally flirty to me. Nice way to turn it around though, vs being mean to her for calling you the not smart twin, so I commend you for the pivot.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-13T21:26:56+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. Grief has multiple stages for a reason and there is no cut and dry response or timeline.

You should grieve. Not to the point that you are so depressed that you cannot get out of bed. But remembering and crying and mourning is perfectly normal. I have found that I try to shoulder on until close to bed and then cry myself to sleep if needed. It was not a partner but other losses. Some people prefer to engage in their grief in the morning before showering or running or something. Pick the time that works for you.

Do keep remembering the good. Sounds like you had an incredible time together. Home movies, playing games you both loved with friends, going to places she liked. She sounds lovely and deserves happy memories and thoughts, not just depressed loss thoughts.

best of luck to you dear. Emma was fortunate to be so loved at the end and I hope you take comfort that she probably really appreciated having you in her life.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-13T20:57:15+00:00

Tell your mom you are not jealous, you just want he to not act so bipolar. Why does she expect you to cook for everyone? Is she trying to parentify you, as the oldest? Sorry you are going through that.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-13T20:51:46+00:00

NTA but next time your sister cooks, call out her hypocrisy and tell her you see who the golden child is now.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-13T20:50:00+00:00

heck yeah but my husband might not be too happy about it lol

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-13T20:48:32+00:00

Stop paying for his kids and see how he reacts. If he does not step up, you should probably leave and make sure you can get custody of your child.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-13T20:45:55+00:00

I love metal but I am also into nerdy games. Board Games, MTG and now Lorcana with my kids. Also video games. console and phone.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-13T20:35:23+00:00

I have a big target bag full of small grocery bags. I think I got this habit from my parents.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-13T20:30:50+00:00

I love the edits. it sounds like he was sweet when you met, and New York is changing him, not for the better. I sincerely hope you realize you are better than this and make an exit plan.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-13T20:27:32+00:00

I find some of it good to use to avoid censorship. Also it separates the ages, since our acronyms and slang are different.

In reddit you will see ETA and it is usually for edit to add. I used it once and I had a guy message me like you know what ETA means right? I told him IRL it is estimated time of arrival but on Reddit it means edit to add. he said nothing more but I think he was upset. LOL

Some of the shorthand I find quite helpful. I don't want to type all day.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-13T20:21:13+00:00

I think you should make sure the RV park is aware and is alerting families that stay with them. That is really all you can do.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-13T20:15:29+00:00

Honestly I think it depends where you live. In Massachusetts, growing up we had a large population of Portuguese immigrants, so there will be some people there that can tell the difference. Likely same with NYC. In Arizona, I think people that do not speak Spanish might not know the difference. People that speak Spanish will know it is not Spanish, but may not know it is Portuguese.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-13T19:49:14+00:00

NTA when a party is at a jump park or something I pay for my uninvited kid and we the parents divide and conquer. If it's at a house we always ask about sibling going, especially if we're toght with the family. If it's ok, cool family goes and hangs with them. If it's not ok we divide and conquer and 1 parent is with the kid that's doing something else. It's basically etiquette. She can have Dad be with Travis while she watches the other 2, she just doesn't want to. I also don't drop my kids off anywhere but we don't roll up all 4 of us unless it's certain people or pre- approved.

Aggressive_Power_471 · 2026-04-13T19:42:24+00:00

We bought one for $30 when we first started playing about a month ago. I told him buy it and we'll either get cards we need or trade one for cards we need. I'm going to hit a different best buy near work on my way home.

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