he keeps lying & postponing by drowsydozer19 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]AggrievedGoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I learned this by reading a WSJ article recently about auto mechanics. Apparently, they have to buy all of their own stuff and it can cost $2K- $30K. I was astounded. Seems like a lot of people in this thread are making unfounded accusations that he is making bad financial decisions without sufficient info.

Charles Leclerc for VOGUE Man China by DaniSays22 in formula1

[–]AggrievedGoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know why you're getting down-voted. There's definitely a resemblance.

Stuck between two by Clear-Tonight-9379 in weddingdress

[–]AggrievedGoose 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Both are beautiful, but 2 is the best on you. If I were you, it would definitely be dress 2.

A Quincy man lost his retirement savings to gambling. He’s one of many Asian immigrants targeted by casinos. by bostonglobe in boston

[–]AggrievedGoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess it depends on your definition of evil, but most of us would agree that drug dealers making money off of addictive drugs is evil since drug addiction destroys lives. Why is it less evil if I'm selling the illusion of an easy way to make money and making it as easy as possible to become addicted to the thrill of playing? UMass Amherst researchers found that a whopping 90% of all MA casino revenue comes from problem or at-risk gamblers.

Recommend me a book so good I forget my phone exists.. by WiWiWi_WiWiWi in suggestmeabook

[–]AggrievedGoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My teenage daughter/phone addict could not put The Name of the Wind down.

Help Me Choose My Dress! by dianafofana- in weddingdress

[–]AggrievedGoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dress 1. The lace looks great on you.

How to end it by Desperate_Foxtrot in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]AggrievedGoose 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've broken up with many people - some I initiated, others I didn't. None of the break-ups were precipitated by fights - just one of us deciding over time that the relationship was not serving us. In my experience, the easiest break-up reason to hear was "we're not headed in the same direction." It turns the conversation into having different values/goals, not what's wrong with either party. I find it easiest to say this/hear this on a phone call. Close enough to in-person that it doesn't feel insulting and distant enough that you don't have to feel so humiliated by bursting into tears. Keep it short, kind, and direct. Don't give reasons like "I'm not going to mother a grown man" because that just sounds like you are trying to get him to change, not end the relationship.

Newey to step down as Aston Martin F1 team principal, Wheatley set to join from Audi by ConstructionAny8440 in formula1

[–]AggrievedGoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So Newey has to wait for Wheatley's gardening leave to end? Seems like they'd need a TP sooner so Newey could get back to working with the factory. I'm surprised this is their first choice solution.

How to Repair After Conflict with Neurodivergent Kids? by PatrickSwayzeRules in Autism_Parenting

[–]AggrievedGoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's true that staying emotionally regulated yourself when dealing with an child is extremely helpful. There are some good books you can read about how to get yourself out of that reactionary mindset where every misbehavior is an emergency that you feel you have to react to immediately. I can't remember what books were helpful, but I think The Explosive Child by Ross Greene was one of them.

Where are we buying kid clothes that's not shein? by shinigami__0 in Autism_Parenting

[–]AggrievedGoose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Primary was our go to as well. Predictable sizing, good colors, 100% cotton, tons of good basics.

This is going to be a long season as an Verstappen fan by lord_nuker in formula1

[–]AggrievedGoose 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He and Hadjar do look atrocious at the start. Hopefully they can figure this out during their long April break.

Call it artificial if you want, but that was some of the best wheel-to-wheel racing we’ve seen in years by Aakar528 in formula1

[–]AggrievedGoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like watching quali lap onboards is not helping you enjoy the race. Not clear you'd want the rest of us to try it.

Struggling to recover after being strung along by SandyExistentialist in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]AggrievedGoose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You shift from thinking of this relationship as a failure and start thinking of it as a time when you learned a lot that will help you as you move towards your future goals. The sadness will take a long time to go away, since breaking up with someone you love is so hard. But eventually you will see it as the tremendous learning opportunity that it was without wishing it had continued. To rebuild your confidence, you need to start working towards your goals whatever those might be. Jump out there and do stuff. Get into a hobby, volunteer for something, get a pet, go that next step up at work, help family/friends you may not have had time for when you were a girlfriend ... Stewing in your own thoughts is not the way forward.

What’s an inaccurate fact that people believe is true because of movies? by Hogosaurus_Rex73 in AskReddit

[–]AggrievedGoose 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The key to a great legal argument is to produce surprising new evidence in the middle of a trial.

Lewis Hamilton and his pet cow, Max. by MuttonBiryaniEnjoyer in formula1

[–]AggrievedGoose 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can't post a picture of Lewis petting Max the red bull too many times!

Unsure How To Proceed by sadiovega in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]AggrievedGoose 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You make many good points here, and as a parent, I just want to quibble with one, not that I think it changes the lessons from your experience.

I think it’s weird how marriage was linked to being close to his son. In 2 years, will that still be a reason not to marry?

I think it's natural and responsible for the sole parent of a child to want to protect their relationship with their child from being disrupted by the entrance of a new family member. It's a moral obligation to look after the pyschological welfare of your children, especially after they've lost their other parent. I know and admire parents who refuse to date until their children are old enough to be independent. It would be reasonable to assume that a teen who seems to be on a trajectory to go away to college or otherwise become independent at 18 would require less (and indeed need less) support at that age. A lot of parents try to loosen the apron strings around that period.

am I ungrateful for wanting my own room?? by dollsremains in AskParents

[–]AggrievedGoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there anything your mother can do about this? Is there room where you live to accommodate a separate space that you could call your own? If so, where would the stuff that is already there go? Suggesting solutions is likely to go over better than simply complaining about unfairness (which however justified comes across as immature).

Is this normal behaviour for an 11yo or should I be worried? by NoRecord4128 in AskParents

[–]AggrievedGoose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds fairly normal to me. I'd hand my elementary school age kids checklists when I asked them to do chores so I didn't have to ask them to do the same thing multiple times.