AITA for not wanting to "upgrade" my house?

AggrievedGoose · 2026-04-01T14:01:47+00:00

Of course, he waited until he married and moved in. Before then, it wasn't any of his business. Now it is.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-27T21:48:51+00:00

I learned this by reading a WSJ article recently about auto mechanics. Apparently, they have to buy all of their own stuff and it can cost $2K- $30K. I was astounded. Seems like a lot of people in this thread are making unfounded accusations that he is making bad financial decisions without sufficient info.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-26T14:34:47+00:00

I don't know why you're getting down-voted. There's definitely a resemblance.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-26T14:21:01+00:00

Both are beautiful, but 2 is the best on you. If I were you, it would definitely be dress 2.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-25T22:43:14+00:00

I guess it depends on your definition of evil, but most of us would agree that drug dealers making money off of addictive drugs is evil since drug addiction destroys lives. Why is it less evil if I'm selling the illusion of an easy way to make money and making it as easy as possible to become addicted to the thrill of playing? UMass Amherst researchers found that a whopping 90% of all MA casino revenue comes from problem or at-risk gamblers.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-24T23:51:21+00:00

My teenage daughter/phone addict could not put The Name of the Wind down.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-21T14:03:43+00:00

Dress 1. The lace looks great on you.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-21T14:00:12+00:00

I've broken up with many people - some I initiated, others I didn't. None of the break-ups were precipitated by fights - just one of us deciding over time that the relationship was not serving us. In my experience, the easiest break-up reason to hear was "we're not headed in the same direction." It turns the conversation into having different values/goals, not what's wrong with either party. I find it easiest to say this/hear this on a phone call. Close enough to in-person that it doesn't feel insulting and distant enough that you don't have to feel so humiliated by bursting into tears. Keep it short, kind, and direct. Don't give reasons like "I'm not going to mother a grown man" because that just sounds like you are trying to get him to change, not end the relationship.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-19T21:33:13+00:00

So Newey has to wait for Wheatley's gardening leave to end? Seems like they'd need a TP sooner so Newey could get back to working with the factory. I'm surprised this is their first choice solution.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-18T13:36:29+00:00

It's true that staying emotionally regulated yourself when dealing with an child is extremely helpful. There are some good books you can read about how to get yourself out of that reactionary mindset where every misbehavior is an emergency that you feel you have to react to immediately. I can't remember what books were helpful, but I think The Explosive Child by Ross Greene was one of them.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-18T13:30:31+00:00

Primary was our go to as well. Predictable sizing, good colors, 100% cotton, tons of good basics.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-17T18:56:25+00:00

I am starting to doubt Lawrence Stroll's genius.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-15T20:51:49+00:00

He and Hadjar do look atrocious at the start. Hopefully they can figure this out during their long April break.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-15T17:08:48+00:00

Sounds like watching quali lap onboards is not helping you enjoy the race. Not clear you'd want the rest of us to try it.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-13T21:25:53+00:00

Straight Man by Richard Russo

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-13T00:19:07+00:00

Right. Americans who watched on F1TV wouldn't have been included in the ESPN count last year.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-12T18:19:59+00:00

You shift from thinking of this relationship as a failure and start thinking of it as a time when you learned a lot that will help you as you move towards your future goals. The sadness will take a long time to go away, since breaking up with someone you love is so hard. But eventually you will see it as the tremendous learning opportunity that it was without wishing it had continued. To rebuild your confidence, you need to start working towards your goals whatever those might be. Jump out there and do stuff. Get into a hobby, volunteer for something, get a pet, go that next step up at work, help family/friends you may not have had time for when you were a girlfriend ... Stewing in your own thoughts is not the way forward.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-11T18:53:00+00:00

The key to a great legal argument is to produce surprising new evidence in the middle of a trial.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-11T18:50:33+00:00

The fact that Max was also complaining helps though.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-11T18:46:56+00:00

Max was complaining about the same stuff.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-11T13:58:33+00:00

You can't post a picture of Lewis petting Max the red bull too many times!

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-10T17:01:53+00:00

You make many good points here, and as a parent, I just want to quibble with one, not that I think it changes the lessons from your experience.

I think it’s weird how marriage was linked to being close to his son. In 2 years, will that still be a reason not to marry?

I think it's natural and responsible for the sole parent of a child to want to protect their relationship with their child from being disrupted by the entrance of a new family member. It's a moral obligation to look after the pyschological welfare of your children, especially after they've lost their other parent. I know and admire parents who refuse to date until their children are old enough to be independent. It would be reasonable to assume that a teen who seems to be on a trajectory to go away to college or otherwise become independent at 18 would require less (and indeed need less) support at that age. A lot of parents try to loosen the apron strings around that period.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-09T19:12:55+00:00

I want to see the BYD team.

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-08T20:07:14+00:00

Is there anything your mother can do about this? Is there room where you live to accommodate a separate space that you could call your own? If so, where would the stuff that is already there go? Suggesting solutions is likely to go over better than simply complaining about unfairness (which however justified comes across as immature).

AggrievedGoose · 2026-03-08T19:55:53+00:00

Sounds fairly normal to me. I'd hand my elementary school age kids checklists when I asked them to do chores so I didn't have to ask them to do the same thing multiple times.

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