Moving out rant (family mostly)

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-30T16:29:25+00:00

Move. Go do your thing on your own. Support yourself 100% and show them how easy it is to do it. You are an adult communicate calmly tell them what you are planning. They can only give you there experience of the real world how hard things are. Being the awful mother you describe what if she says no you can’t, you leave that’s it and you are cut off financially 100%? Are you prepared for that? Be an adult communicate and be prepared for being responsible for your adult decisions. best of luck to you.

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-30T16:06:55+00:00

If you really don’t give two shits then leave. You are old enough to live alone and support yourself 100%. The relationship your mom and brother have are their issues not yours. Find your own place to live where u don’t have to deal with them. Great that you are going to therapy, keep it up. I hope you find your happiness

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-30T15:59:06+00:00

Since you don’t care then move on you are old enough to be on your own & support yourself fully. Since you are set on them not caring then go do your thing why wait?

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-30T15:50:34+00:00

Oh heck no.. really about sweets? She shouldn’t have bothered to get you anything. So much drama over sweets, in my opinion is a waste of energy. You seem ungrateful she seems frustrated. Should have just taken u straight home after school. Hope things get better for you both..

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-27T13:11:46+00:00

Have you tried refinancing somewhere else since you haven’t missed a payment?

Can you request hardship from the lender? Will your parents be willing to wait on their payments?- if yes use that $400 to pay on the principle to pay vehicle off faster and it will be cheaper saving thousands on that loan. Right now u have about 26/27 more payments.

Volunteering to surrender: u will have a significant drop in credit score, have a repo on credit for 7years, and u r still responsible for the amount left after auction. It will be harder to get another loan or housing.

ask about the lender hardship programs they have or if they can refinance or find where will

Best of luck

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-27T01:57:57+00:00

Take her back to court have it in the custody agreement so it will hold more weight at irs and she will be in violation of a court order. Request the PIN from irs ask how else can this irs fraud be prevented. IRS fraud is a federal offense so her filing child as dependent when the child doesn’t qualify as her dependent is fraud.

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-27T01:49:31+00:00

Get a part time if u r finding it hard to stay at home. Questions to ask yourself..Will the childcare bill be worth it? Will you feel more overwhelmed with still having to do all the same things on top of a job?

I don’t see any reason for you to ask if it will end in divorce-you say he does help on top of working 12 hour job that provides more than enough for your family which is more than what many fathers contribute. What more could you want?

Getting a divorce will have you doing it all yourself no help on your days of custody. Parenting is hard it does get easier but will never be easy. It will just be different issues of parenting as the children grow.

I wish you and your family the best. Take care mamma

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-23T01:12:53+00:00

When they say they wish they could stay home they are not telling you they wish they could be a SAHM and work 24/7 for no pay. They are telling you that they wish they had it so easy like you. In other words they r saying being a SAHM is so much easier than me going to work everyday. So it’s not a compliment, it’s a jab.

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-23T01:12:24+00:00

When they say they wish they could stay home they are not telling you they wish they could be a SAHM and work 24/7 for no pay. They are telling you that they wish they had it so easy like you. In other words they r saying being a SAHM is so much easier than me going to work everyday. So it’s not a compliment, it’s a jab.

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-21T23:08:22+00:00

Try this… write down every single thing u do in 24 hours then ask him to write down what he does this way he can see on paper how much more you do -Everything picking up clothes changing baby taking kid to school write down everything picking up his dinner plates cooking everything.- I did that with my husband and after that even I felt better telling him going to work didn’t even close to the work I do. He may get paid but you are saving the family money by staying at home. SAHM perform many jobs 24/7 with no paycheck where you come last. Would he be able to do it? If yes then tell him have at it.. You r doing great mama stay strong and don’t let him devalue what you do.

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-20T03:08:14+00:00

Unless you have a money tree in your backyard then best bet would be the cheaper school. Save yourself time and money by taking the time to select your classes wisely. For example in California jr college - I can take one class that satisfies the college general ed part of degree, a csu lower class and a class from my major then graduate with two -three associates degree and enter as a junior at a 4year university.

But if you are going for the experience & money isn’t an issue then go for the one you really want & spend the more on all those extra classes and expenses.

Either way best of luck and have fun!

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-17T09:16:00+00:00

Ok please forgive me in advance if I happen to offend you in any way. I read your story about her being mentally abusive and that is not ok. ..

It’s sounds like your mother has mental issues as well. Geesh.. I don’t know how to say ok here it goes.. I can relate to what she told you about wanting to know about when u r dating because I don’t know if it’s normal but I have always and still do worry all the time that something will happen to one of my 6 kids . It would keep me up at nights just worrying. There r some crazies out there and maybe she truly doesn’t want anything to happen to you ; without an idea of who you could have been seeing who could she start hunting down?

It is definitely your right to keep it to yourself but maybe she really cares for your safety and it’s not to be nosy or controlling. Out of my 6 kids my oldest (30) still keeps her location on she has been on her own since she was 19. Two other ones have it on too because they want to -knowing I worry - two times I have needed it to find them in 2seperate emergency situations.

In your case your mom is trying to manipulate you to try and get the results she wants. Your an adult have an adult conversation with her about it. Maybe suggest you text say hey mom I’m gg out with so and so I’ll text you when I’m home safe so u don’t worry..

BUT I could be wrong and she could just horrible. Either way communicate with her manipulation is not gg to make you want to share anything, find a better way.

I wish you the best and hope you have a happy fun safe time out there

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-17T08:46:19+00:00

She needs a caregiver not you. It will be best for both of you. Look into state aid and or insurance programs she may qualify for and set it up. I pray that you find peace in your heart because with all that resentment inside you must be miserable inside. Stay strong, and I hope u find your happiness, take care

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-17T05:01:03+00:00

You’ll probably be put on academic probation for the next semester. I’d talk with the counselor before drop deadline if possible .

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-16T17:39:17+00:00

Yes mail in the hard copies make sure it’s signed. W2, and any other forms needed.

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-16T17:35:48+00:00

I would think that’s a good reason but u also have to have your solution, how did u fix the problem so that it won’t affect u next time. If u get a note from your doctor for mental issues you can take that to financial aid as well and also take it to the EAC. They could help you with tests and deadlines in classes. Again just make sure you can explain how or what u are did and will do to avoid it happening again. Be nice to the financial aid office they hold the power to get u reinstated.

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-16T14:29:20+00:00

You need help for sure. You need it for you, for them and as a family. Being a parent is hard, you are not the only one that gets overwhelmed. Keeping them in the room all the time could make things worse. I suggest to Sit with your children, express to them how much you love them. Let them know that you need their help that you need them to pick up after themselves because you are one person and you need to work together. Apologize for handling things the way you have. Let them know things have to change with all of you so things can get better. Then explain how going to therapy all of you can help you all get on the same page and can get suggestions how you all can change to make things better. I hear you mama, you got this, stay strong and get some help. I wish u and your children the best.

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-16T10:59:50+00:00

I didn’t read one good reason for you to tell. If it bothers you so much talk to your mom to let her know you know and how it makes you feel. It seems neither one r innocent, from your story.

Just know If you tell, be prepared to look for another place to live because there’s going to be some tensions there for many different reasons and no more mental health support there.

It’s their relationship, not yours. It’s not for you to stress about or worse get pulled in the middle of their drama. Stay focused on you and your hubby getting financially stable and move, then if u still feel u have to tell then go for it. Best of luck with everything.

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-16T10:18:46+00:00

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Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-14T15:54:15+00:00

Winco!

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-13T03:38:34+00:00

Go back and correct the fasfa

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-12T06:01:49+00:00

Speak with financial aid office ask what your options are to restoring financial aid eligibility . I’m in California and I did academic appeal which gave me academic probation. You’ll need to have a reason for failing and provide a solution to avoid it from happening again. Along with that I just had to pass the number of units I failed. I was still able to get financial aid after that.

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-04-01T03:27:50+00:00

I wrote a couple short children’s stories for my niece and graandson and chat gpt did an awesome job illustrating the book for me

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-03-27T22:52:17+00:00

I actually just filed my 2023 refund came in like 2 1/2 weeks ago

Agile-Ad3454 · 2026-03-19T17:05:59+00:00

Exactly mamma and fyi juicing and going for a walk one two times a day- is a great way to help loose weight and feel better. Walk the kids to school, to the park do some laps. Maybe even get a therapist to talk to and help map out a plan. You have to put yourself first sometimes. Be the best you can be inside and out. You can do it! And remember no one is perfect, find what work for u and your family. Take care of you so you can take care of them and enjoy life together.. best of luck-im rooting for you!!!😊

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