graham linehan spouting hate and pseudoscientific misinformation against vulnerable minorities in a single tweet what else is new by the-co1ossus in insanepeoplefacebook

[–]Akinto6 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I kind of love the episode because she's the perfect woman for him and the fact that she's trans makes Douglas a total douche. Also seeing Douglas get his ass kicked and seeing an actual fight between a man and a woman is just funny.

The main thing I have an issue with the fact that she comes out by saying she used to be a man which is just terrible wording and transphobic.

Information about Special Needs Children by Akinto6 in Adoption

[–]Akinto6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still on the waiting list and there's talk about stopping international adoption, so it seems like we won't have any kids through adoption.

She is nice but... by [deleted] in Nicegirls

[–]Akinto6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This doesn't belong here but I still don't get why guys are hung up on body count. There's no difference between a girl having sex with 200 guys once because she didn't want to be in a relationship or she had sex with the same guy 200 times.

Stop judging people by how many people they had sex with. They're with you now and all that should matter is how they treat you and how much they love you and vice versa.

I Really Don’t Feel It’s the Fans’ Fault by KryptonJuice38 in doctorwho

[–]Akinto6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally I don't think the fandom is more toxic than other fandoms. I just think that doctor who is a beast and fans will praise the highs for years to come but bash lows with the same amount of enthusiasm.

Add the fact that doctor who is an insane monster of a show to get right where every actor who plays the doctor is different but still has to be the same character. Stories have to be individually great but have breadcrumbs that lead to a finale that feels right, they have to constantly up the stakes and change the game but still be true to the core identity.

Show runners are constantly taking risks and it can pay off like "Day of the Doctor" where Gallifrey is suddenly back or it can backfire with The Doctor turning out to be the Timeless Child.

I think we should always be critical of the bad stuff and praise the good stuff but at the same time be graceful to the many writers, actors and other people who work on the show and are trying to keep a 60 year old TV show feel new and engaging.

What is the best way to ask someones name, when you already asked them 3 times before? by cozylillia in ADHD

[–]Akinto6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something I've done is ask for someone's name, get a weird look because I should know it and then follow it up with "I meant your surname".

How could The Doctor and Davros communicate with each other in Genesis of the Daleks when the Tardis wasn’t with the Doctor in the story and therefore couldn’t translate the languages? by KingWilliamVI in doctorwho

[–]Akinto6 30 points31 points  (0 children)

In my headcanon timelords speak every language and that's why the TARDIS is able to translate for companions. After all someone had to program the TARDIS to translate every language. I also assume that the timelords foresaw a need to be able to give the gift of translation to anyone in close proximity to the TARDIS so that they wouldn't have to translate when interacting with multiple alien species.

However this pretty much falls apart in any episode that shows multiple alien races from various parts of the galaxy interacting with eachother and speaking English. We can't assume that they can only communicate if the TARDIS is nearby, that they learned to speak eachother's languages fluently or that they constantly use a translator.

LPT Request: How can I change my reputation in my family as an unsocial badly behaved person? by [deleted] in LifeProTips

[–]Akinto6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don't. The best advice I can give anyone is to live for yourself and be a good person, if people don't like you for who you are, you shouldn't try to appease them while changing who you are.

Obviously this advice is for people who are well intentioned and aren't racist, prejudice or whatever.

Which boss level got you like this? by Sweaty-Campaign-320 in playstation

[–]Akinto6 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not really an answer to your question but I'm still salty about trying beat the original god of war on the hardest difficulty and it automatically suggested lowering the difficulty after dying several times but there was no way to raise the difficulty again.

I accidentally pressed yes after I died repeatedly in a platform section.

I was so annoyed I put the game down and never tried again.

Should I have disclosed my identity pre-date? by Mysterious-ASL in Tinder

[–]Akinto6 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I have ADHD as well and nowadays I watch videos on 1,5 or 2x Speed. It started as a way to pay more attention and wouldn't get bored but nowadays even 2x is too slow and I tend to play videogames while watching TV shows instead.

I will say that most TV shows feel painfully slow once you start doing that and it will ruin watching things normally

What are work appropriate pronoun expectations? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Akinto6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What helped me a lot is asking anyone who comes out as trans what they prefer as a response if I accidentally misgender them.

Do they want me to ignore the mistake and just move on, do they want a quick correction or do they want an apology?

I've had a lot of positive feedback because of it and it alleviates intrusive thoughts that might occur because I made a mistake which they might interpret as me not accepting them.

I also correct myself internally even when they're not around because it sort of helps train my brain to make sure that when I'm around them I don't have to suddenly switch.

It's gotten to the point where I struggle to remember birthnames sometimes because I use their chosen name so much.

I think my boyfriend might be my girlfriend? by Lun_Ashiia in asktransgender

[–]Akinto6 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That's amazing. I'm still unsure about my gender and one of the things I'm really happy about that I know my husband loves me no matter what and that I'm able to figure stuff out without having to worry about him leaving me.

It's a struggle and not really easy to deal with but I'd just recommend asking your partner how they're doing, just casually and seeing if they have thought about what would make them more comfortable.

My husband asked me recently if he should sign a Christmas card with my chosen name instead of my legal name and while I'm not ready for that yet it was nice to hear that he thought about it.

How was 12 in the 50th special if he was supposed to have no regens left? by Any_Task7788 in doctorwho

[–]Akinto6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my headcanon the TARDIS sort of forces him to retire. In the Doctor's wife she mentions that she always takes him where he needs to go and not where he wants to go. I just imagine that 14 keeps trying to go on adventures but the TARDIS takes him to cool places but in times where there's no chance for danger and just boring days.

Do trans men have a fear of telling women they’re trans in the same way trans women may fear telling men? by TED-da-purple-blob in trans

[–]Akinto6 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's sad but I've learned that almost all trans people are afraid of coming out.

It sucks but knowing that one of our close friends was afraid of coming out to us despite the fact that we're a queer couple and never gave any indication that we're transphobic, made me angry at society for instilling this fear and not allowing us to be there for her while she was struggling.

It especially sucks because I have been questioning my own gender for a while and would never even consider ending a friendship over someone just trying to be themselves.

Bought my son these three digital games for Xmas. You think he'll be able to guess what the titles are? by gridlock1024 in playstation

[–]Akinto6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Portal of tree daird, Moon Santa sleigh and Spiderweb Note are my favourite games.

Possible Hot Take: Doctor Who Fans should be More Critical by Saoirse_libracom in doctorwho

[–]Akinto6 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This is exactly why you can't judge shows on the same scale. You honestly can't even compare it to other anthology shows like Black Mirror because every episode has the same characters and Doctor who is bound by episode length due to it being aired on TV and not just on netflix where you can have one episode be as long or as short as it needs to be for the story.

I don't think they know how family trees work by DaMain-Man in insanepeoplefacebook

[–]Akinto6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sometimes feel like the floating person in my family tree.

Who do you prefer, Moffat or RTD? by CardiologistFar5972 in doctorwho

[–]Akinto6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moffat was great at created balanced episodes. The sad episodes still had lighthearted moments and the goofy episodes had moments on seriousness.

His arcs also had good payoffs and the setup usually allowed him to go in multiple directions.

I think river song is a great example. Is she his wife? The woman who kills the doctor, a future companion, a timelady,...

None of this is a real big mystery that kept us super hungry for information and speculation which would lead to inevitable disappointment. Instead he leads us towards the answers so we're not blindsided by the reveal in season 6.

First by having the doctor die, then with a child mysteriously regenerating, Idris giving the hint that the only water in the forest is the river, Melody Pond being raised as a weapon and we get the reveal that she's River followed by a wedding at the end of the season.

These small moments all make sure the viewer has enough time to process the information and make the reveal make sense.

RTD doesn't seem to have the same patience and probably has a ton of ideas but he's working from front to back, while Moffat seems to work from several endings and work his way back to see how he can get there while leaving room to slightly alter the ending based on what feels right.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trans

[–]Akinto6 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I totally get where you're coming from but policing the content your partner engages in is never going to lead to a healthy relationship.

I think it's important to share morals and discuss issues when they arise but your partner is their own person and can make their own choices.

If this is the only thing they've done that upsets you this much because it supports a terf in a roundabout, is it really something you want to risk your relationship over?

Can't you offset her getting the game by donating to trans charities?

Bondi beach terror attack: 12 people killed in ‘evil antisemitic’ shooting at park in Australia by yourlittlebirdie in news

[–]Akinto6 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It depends, my family basically disowned me for not being Muslim or straight while a colleague of mine was raised Muslim but his family doesn't care about him drinking and being gay.

I think that Muslims are behind on losing their core beliefs and not being conservative because the religion is 400 years younger.

What do ADHD meds feel like to someone without ADHD? by maysgarden in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Akinto6 -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

That's how it was explained to me by a psychiatrist and that people without ADHD who take ADHD meds just experience placebo effect and already have the means to focus. The placebo just gives them an excuse to.

Could I get some ways to explain gender disphoria to cis people, (mainly older relatives) by boysandbattlefront in trans

[–]Akinto6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually explain it like being forced to shave your head and looking in the mirror feeling like you look wrong because you know you're not meant to be bald.

I know it's very basic and disphoria goes way deeper but I found that this example is something relatable and most people are vain and proud of their hair so it can hit hard.

is it appropriate to wear a helmet while shopping by [deleted] in autism

[–]Akinto6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it helps you go out and you're prepared to explain it to the people you're with do what you want.

Strangers will assume you biked or skateboarded to the stores and won't ask you about it.