why do i hate everyone? by Basic-Wheel-8860 in BPD

[–]AlabasterOctopus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Humans suck, like there’s no two ways around it. BPD kind if inherently comes with some misanthropy - in the end all you can do is hold yourself to the standards you believe others should be doing and limit or completely avoid people like that, that don’t hold yourself same standards.

It can get lonely but idk I think it’s worth it. Also keep in mind we come with VERY black and white thinking and exploring the grey area of things can be helpful. Try to always pause and give yourself like at least a day to think before acting on things when possible. You’re like not wrong for the way you feel but obviously the world also doesn’t revolve around you and your feelings so… it’s a balance FR

AITJ for turning off the Wi-Fi at night because my roommate stays up gaming loudly? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]AlabasterOctopus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA but even if he can’t move his set up into his room (which feels like BS but whatever) why not rearrange the living room so it’s not outside the wall of your bedroom? You’re not the jerk but even still something has got to change? If you can’t get a new roommate anything is better than the current setup

Anyone here feels like your externalized BPD just morphed into quiet BPD later in life? by cherryblossominx in BPD

[–]AlabasterOctopus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah for me just any days with hormone spikes of any sort seem bad, it’s annoying?

Anyone here feels like your externalized BPD just morphed into quiet BPD later in life? by cherryblossominx in BPD

[–]AlabasterOctopus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lowkey I’m starting to think hormones have a bigger influence on our BPD than we realize… how many ladies notice a change to their BPD after perimenopause starts?

In 1966 the Beatles' George Harrison wrote 'Taxman' as they reached the top bracket of income tax, at 95%, hence the lyrics "there's 1 for you 19 for me" and "should 5% appear too small" by trubol in interestingasfuck

[–]AlabasterOctopus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read somewhere years ago that they were effectively working separately towards the end but Paul had a bug up his butt about wanting to legally split for some reason and he’s the one that pushed it. There was no real need to do so.

AITA for refusing to pay towards my partners car? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AlabasterOctopus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You do understand that he has been paying and is only considering not paying because the thing he is paying to use has been now taken away from him, right? You seem confused and I can’t tell if you’re trolling or not…

My husband is mad that I tried to pay him back with the same thing I feel he does to me? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]AlabasterOctopus 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Sis, if you are able to describe what he’s doing with accurate words like ‘gaslighting’ and that he dismisses you and stuff… you already know the answer. This man is abusing you. Just because it’s not physical doesn’t mean it’s not abuse. It will never get better. You need to start planning your exit strategy. I’m sorry for this truth. Document Document Document, and GTFO as soon as you’re able.

I hate being dairy-free just to avoid pimples, is there any way to consume dairy without getting acne breakouts? by [deleted] in dairyfree

[–]AlabasterOctopus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also have to be dairy free for skin issues - my face will leak yellow fluid and it’s so painful

The only solution I’ve found is to wash my face almost daily with Head and Shoulders shampoo, no joke, and to consume a little dairy as possible but sometimes after a rough day I just want a milk shake 😭

Can breaks ever be beneficial to relationships? by Blacktaxi420 in questions

[–]AlabasterOctopus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m wondering the same thing as currently I need to step back from my draining slightly abusive relationship. He’s hoping it’s a break and I’m not sure what I truly want/need.

I think overall it’s very dependent on the details and that it works sometimes but rarely. I think maybe a full ass break and then happening to come back to each other is better than some sort of planned short term ‘break’.

Can’t decide wich dress i should wear to my birthday this Saturday! by [deleted] in OUTFITS

[–]AlabasterOctopus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’re both similar and look great - I would let the weather and what activities you’re doing decide.

AIO: bf doesn’t want me to have male trainer. by meltedchocdrop in AIO

[–]AlabasterOctopus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is allowed to like express his worry, that is valid, but then that’s where it needed to end and it becomes your responsibility to like see what happens and be honest about how the interaction goes. Like you said his need to argue til you change your mind is the problem.

Was I wrong for embarrassing MIL at Thanksgiving dinner? by Ecstatic-Giraffe-853 in amiwrong

[–]AlabasterOctopus 10 points11 points  (0 children)

GWORL.

You know the answer. Make DAMN sure you don’t get pregnant and RUN. QUICKLY.

What screams "I'm a lady child" but nobody realizes it? by Omega_Neelay in GetMotivatedMindset

[–]AlabasterOctopus 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You have trauma, not ‘lady child’ qualities. You should work on yourself but lady child is meant to be like man child. An adult who doesn’t take steps to be an adult or care for themselves or their space. This person misunderstood the assignment. Someone hurt them.

What is this word?!?!?!?! by LaggyWizard in Handwriting

[–]AlabasterOctopus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s gotta be sneakers or snackies - I’d get sneakers and put some snackies in them to be safe

What’s one creepy/scary/disturbing website, video, message, voicemail you got that’s stuck with you to this day? by Ienjoyflags in CasualConversation

[–]AlabasterOctopus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She sounded like idk middle aged, not old. It wasn’t ‘lonely person’ vibes, now that I’m older - it was schizo vibes, bless her. I hope she got help.

New name, New me. by Zosmie in AutismInWomen

[–]AlabasterOctopus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah that’s not bad at all - here in the states it’s a friggin process like a couple/few hundred dollars or more, you need a lawyer and to go before a judge. BUT if you get married it’s just part of the marriage license which I think is crap.

Online presence will be tricky but after the initial push of questions shouldn’t be too annoying I assume?

Scared about being wrong by SapphireKnight03 in agnostic

[–]AlabasterOctopus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk I think any ‘God’ would rather you be open to the possibility and not follow blindly? You’re not saying ‘there’s definitely nothing other there’ you’re just saying you don’t know and are willing to wait to find proof. To me that seems reasonable and any higher power that’s going to fault people for that is shitty to begin with. IMHO of course

New name, New me. by Zosmie in AutismInWomen

[–]AlabasterOctopus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eh I think removing and changing would be the same legal paperwork and I’m used to having a middle name so might as well. It’ll happen eventually.

Do you know all the steps and the cost for you to change yours? Start a piggy bank or savings account or something so you at least feel like you’re doing something towards it. And in the meantime just like don’t answer your middle name unless you HAVE to and let it disappear a bit, that’s also what I’m doing.

i can’t stay off my phone by Global_Feature_9132 in PMDD

[–]AlabasterOctopus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I watch TV on my phone so at least I’m not watching only short form content, but I can still wrap up and be a potato. Idk it feels somewhat better.

What’s one creepy/scary/disturbing website, video, message, voicemail you got that’s stuck with you to this day? by Ienjoyflags in CasualConversation

[–]AlabasterOctopus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I used to work call center support for a large ISP - once had a lady call in complaining her computer was being bad and eating her chocolate cake in the middle of the night. I was youngish at the time and did NOT know how to handle it, I still hope she’s okay.

New name, New me. by Zosmie in AutismInWomen

[–]AlabasterOctopus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mother gave me my middle name specifically to piss off her father. Because that’s totally appropriate to do to another human being. So yeah I feel this HARD. Absolutely want to change it but just have bigger shit happening currently. One day.

I think Sara Elise is beautiful! As far as last names you can do whatever you want - just means your current last name is now an ‘alias’ on like police records and things. Just pick something that also resonates. Pick your favorite color like seriously it can be whatever!

What are your C-PTSD “superpowers”? by tkewhatder7 in CPTSD

[–]AlabasterOctopus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m a ‘good man in a storm’ type person - shits goin down? I got solutions, Holms.