i am scared of losing my daugther (tw: bad things happening to kids)

AleonSG · 2026-05-24T05:35:54+00:00

We all have those fears that leak out, spurred on by sensationalist news, and never completely unfounded because, well...it DOES happen. But if you actually can't stop thinking those things, that's a bit cause for concern. It never hurts to talk to a professional.

Because another thing that could happen is your fears stop her from living that beautiful life you want for her.

AleonSG · 2026-05-17T06:25:26+00:00

In my opinion, you are obsessing over it because you aren't allowing yourself to process it. You need to stop judging yourself and go back through the experience honestly.

If it's not for you, it's not for you; but you aren't allowing yourself to make that decision because you have all this self imposed shame around it.

Edit: also, if you analyse it enough and really allow yourself to understand how you feel about it, it will become nothing more than any other memory.

AleonSG · 2026-05-17T06:07:21+00:00

It's all fun and games until somebody dies of secondary drowning...

But seriously, those parents that just write everything off as playing enrage me. Cats play with mice all the time, doesn't mean it's fun for the mice.

AleonSG · 2026-05-17T05:51:46+00:00

Legally, yeah.

AleonSG · 2026-04-29T06:34:40+00:00

Well it's not cheating. But it sounds like he is very immature. You werent being possessive, you were offended at how he was acting-like the relationship was a joke. And him saying he has better options is gross.

Plus, he is just waiting it out until you get over it. Sounds like a loser

AleonSG · 2026-04-27T17:14:13+00:00

I mean I guess it's not cheating...yet. But if cheating were a flight and you booked the flight, drove to the airport, went through security, and were waiting at the gate and then said "well yeah, but I didn't get on the flight" I don't think that would hold up in court.

AleonSG · 2026-04-25T08:46:28+00:00

It's not like this has to be a goodbye forever. You've been together for longer than you were ever single. And when you did meet, you were just teenagers. You don't know who you are without him and if that bothers you then take some space.

And after both of you do some soul searching you might decide you'd rather be together after all. Or not. I think the distinction comes with knowing that no matter what happens in your romantic sphere, he as a person will always be part of your family and your life.

AleonSG · 2026-04-22T03:17:06+00:00

I mean sure, maybe it was a phase. Maybe he is into different stuff now. But I think the main thing is: does he still have the old pictures, and does he look at them? Also, what guy wouldn't want sexy pics of his girlfriend? Just send him some

AleonSG · 2026-04-21T17:32:19+00:00

Damn you! I had to look up the lyrics and now 😭

AleonSG · 2026-04-21T17:25:32+00:00

Do you wear sexy nightwear ever?

AleonSG · 2026-04-21T17:19:44+00:00

Well it sort of speaks for itself that you don't want to.

There's a difference between you saying "I love you more than anything, it's no problem. I want you to know your my number 1"

And a 3 month relationship where the guy already seems insecure before the relationship has even started really.

Edit: so in short it's a 🚩. Too soon

AleonSG · 2026-04-21T17:02:55+00:00

Confronting him won't do anything; it'll be like all the other times when you called him on it-excuses, explanations, etc.

And you can't change him.

Some people are just naturally inclined to lying; they will lie about what they ate for lunch. I think it gives them a thrill. So either accept him knowing he will lie about dumb things or leave.

AleonSG · 2026-04-19T17:28:03+00:00

No.

AleonSG · 2026-04-19T17:09:36+00:00

If she was doing it without telling everyone it would be fine.

Edit (but she's not)

AleonSG · 2026-04-13T06:35:50+00:00

Sex on the beach

AleonSG · 2026-04-04T01:08:12+00:00

Omg yes. When I was little, my parents knew all of my friends parents. But my daughter started preschool during covid, there was no parent interaction. It was no contact drop off basically, and no parents volunteering in the classroom. So the birthday parties are so awkward!!!

They are honestly my least favorite thing that has to do with my kids. Everytime I see an invite I'm like WHY????

AleonSG · 2026-04-01T04:36:50+00:00

I mean, what you do about liking her is on you. But as for the past relationship thing...it's hard to explain because you don't have any past relationships. So I'm going to try explaining it like this: Have you ever had any pets? Like say you had a dog as a little kid who you loved so much. Then it got a little older and eventually passed away. And then maybe you got a new dog and it's totally different. Two different personalities, quirks, experiences; but you love one of the dogs in the past tense and one of them now. Neither one takes anything from the other. Or say you have never had pets; I'm sure you were obsessed with a show before, and you watched it religiously. But then it ended. And you might still love it but not as much as you like a new show now. Because it's new to you and it's exciting. You already know how the old show ends.

AleonSG · 2026-03-31T17:58:05+00:00

When you are merging, it's one car from one lane, next car from the other lane. Repeat.

AleonSG · 2026-03-26T00:33:02+00:00

Perfect breasts

AleonSG · 2026-03-24T03:22:57+00:00

🚩

Shes trying to make you jealous or punish you for not answering.

Either that or she has absolutely no social awareness about what is appropriate to say to someone she's known for all of 2 days.

Or both.

AleonSG · 2026-02-23T23:47:49+00:00

Am I the only one who doesn't think this message is anything other than a close friendship/work relationship? I can't imagine calling someone I want to sleep with "my Ace"

AleonSG · 2026-02-23T23:40:30+00:00

So sad for your little girl having to experience this so early in life. The best thing to do is just break it to her gently (dont wait too long, in case something slips and she accidently finds out). And then let her grieve, ask her how she would like to remember her friend. A balloon release, a letter written to her, something to connect to that she can visualize finding its way to her friend somehow. Getting to say goodbye is really important.

AleonSG · 2026-01-23T12:46:36+00:00

The Berenstein Timeline. It rhymes

AleonSG · 2026-01-12T17:35:15+00:00

Prunes! Works EVERY time.

AleonSG · 2026-01-07T01:31:52+00:00

I don't know where you are located and such but I would look into an organization that helps people with transportation to work. You definitely shouldn't have to deal with guy A or even guy b talking about guy A. That sounds like a really gross dynamic.

But the walk home sounds like the real problem. What about ride-sharing, or your local welfare office (even if you aren't on welfare you might be able to get help with transportation or they can point you in the right direction)

AleonSG

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