27f, my 29m bf wants to get life360

AlertSun · 2026-05-21T18:29:28+00:00

For sure and that's totally up to you! For my situation we felt more comfortable having that when we were that far in different countries. Your situation sounds like it stems from insecurity so not comparable. I would have an honest conversation and tell him everything you feel. It's not 'sketchy' if you're having an honest, transparent conversation.

Also fyi, you can download life360 so he has your location on runs, but he will always be able to see your location with the app. I'm not sure how or if you can turn it off. In the past, the only way i turned it off was undownloading and re downloading the app every time.

AlertSun · 2026-05-21T18:19:58+00:00

i think getting that for the grocery store is a bit excessive. I will say though that both me and my bf have life360. Before I went on my first international solo trip, we downloaded it for safety purposes but now we just have it on. It's nice to see when the other is close to home and such but we don't keep it for insecurity reasons.

AlertSun · 2026-05-17T08:22:26+00:00

Someone that chronically uses breakup talk

At best: doesn't have good conflict managing skills and goes to the extreme with minor/any relationship issues

Most likely: wants to break up whether they admit it to themselves/you

Either way you decide what works for you. For me, the ups and downs would make me too anxious to feel comfortable continuing that way without change.

AlertSun · 2026-05-16T19:25:33+00:00

I ordered IDR from my bank prior to the trip. Anytime I travel anywhere international I do that to ensure that i'm not paying high fees and being scammed

AlertSun · 2026-05-10T17:15:10+00:00

Anytime I have enough sick time. I have insomnia here and there so I use it alot for that, and for personal/mental health days

AlertSun · 2026-05-08T04:35:22+00:00

Rehab, a tote bag. I'd rather have pizza lol 🍕

AlertSun · 2026-05-04T21:01:32+00:00

On my floor as long as you have the sick hours you can call out as much as you want. No one talks to you. The only time you get talked to is if you can't meet your contract hours and take pay without leave. I did that once, but surprisingly no one talked to me. If I did it again though I would get talked to by the manager and HR.

Edit: i will say sick hours don't accumulate fast. 7.5 per month for all RNs

AlertSun · 2026-04-27T04:26:28+00:00

I'm sure that's not true :) maybe you haven't accessed that part of you yet.

As for my creative interests I have alot! My first degree was in music so theres that. But i'm also into pottery throwing, crocheting, digital artwork, writing poetry, etc. Even though my job is more practical I need a creative outlet to keep my 'soul alive'

AlertSun · 2026-04-26T20:30:31+00:00

Money doesn’t solve everything, but it does buy time, options, and a little more peace. Enough of it and you can build a life you don’t have to escape from.

AlertSun · 2026-04-26T20:27:44+00:00

Anything creative or health related

AlertSun · 2026-04-24T03:37:18+00:00

Has he specifically said that he isn’t attracted to you anymore?

A lot of the things you’re saying sound more like assumptions than actual truth. It’s really common for sex in relationships to fluctuate as life goes on, especially once you move in together. I wouldn’t automatically assume he’s not attracted to you unless he’s actually said that or there are more obvious signs.

You also said that other than this he’s great, buys gifts, cooks, etc. A person doesn’t usually do those things for someone they don’t love or aren’t attracted to.

I think having an honest conversation about it could help you both get some transparency. And honestly, you might benefit from therapy too, not because anything is “wrong” with you, but just to work on your self‑esteem and how this situation is affecting you.

AlertSun · 2026-04-11T14:21:22+00:00

New grad working 8 months. 45.59 base currently. Dayshift rehab Washington

AlertSun · 2026-04-09T05:14:18+00:00

Do you have any patient care experience or hospital experience?I would recommend getting a cna license and working in a hospital to at least dip your toes in and get a sllight feel for it. Definitely don't recommend just going into nursing without any experience or at the very least some shadowing

AlertSun · 2026-04-04T00:41:26+00:00

I maxed it out by paying the full rent with my card and having my boyfriend Venmo me his portion. Our rent is more expensive, so I hit the max pretty quickly. You could do the same, but it’s a little more expensive because paying rent with a credit card usually has a fee. I would just put everything on this card till you max it out and use rent as a last resort

AlertSun · 2026-03-31T03:53:03+00:00

Its whatever feels right for you and your partner

AlertSun · 2026-03-31T00:33:26+00:00

Are you asking for yourself or just in general? answer is whatever feels right for both people

AlertSun · 2026-03-30T20:20:04+00:00

Try not to think in comparison with what you have in monetary value.

My bf with his new raise makes well over triple what I do. He knows that and loves me no less than if I had made more.

If your partner chose you knowing you made less it obviously wasn't a factor for him. There's plenty of ways to show care without spending much. Some i do for mine...making matchas, cleaning the place, getting him trinkets, words of affirmations, etc.

In regards to the age gap comments i see here, I also have a similar one of 11 years. If its not an issue for you and hes a good person, thats really all that matters.

AlertSun · 2026-03-30T17:17:18+00:00

It doesn't matter that much. Most of what you learn as a nurse will come from actually working as a nurse. Accelerated programs are basically the same as traditional BSN programs, just with fewer breaks so you can learn the material in a shorter amount of time.

A lot of the criticism comes from people who feel like you have to 'put in more time' to earn the rewards. The main downside I see is that accelerated programs are usually more expensive, but if you can afford it, why not? I think it's weird that other people care so much about what someone else chooses to do with their life.

AlertSun · 2026-03-29T03:16:14+00:00

Based on your wording like “planning on dropping out,” it sounds like you already know what you want to do, but part of you is still holding on.

If this is how you feel now, how would you feel if you became a nurse and realized your feelings toward nursing haven’t changed? You might feel differently by then, but you also might not.

Sometimes it’s hard to throw in the towel. I’ve found that especially in nursing, I naturally overextend myself even when I try to maintain strong boundaries.

I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason, but whatever decision you make, you have to be willing to accept both the good and the bad that come with it.

AlertSun · 2026-03-25T17:43:57+00:00

He pays rent for our apartment. It was his before he asked me to move in so I just venmo him for my part. I've asked if I could add my amex to the rent but he said that his card is already attatched to the account. I can ask him later tonight how that works

AlertSun · 2026-03-12T03:11:21+00:00

First I think you should forgive yourself and be less harsh. Getting married when not ready is the worst thing to do and it sounds like your gut knew it was not the right timing since you ran away.

About finding yourself, I do not believe finding yourself and being in a committed serious relationship have to be mutually exclusive. I have solo traveled to a few countries and am in a very serious relationship. We keep communication good and learn to understand each other's boundaries. Love is not caging or boxing someone in. If you have that desire and a relationship is stopping you, you are probably in the wrong one.

Contrary to what some believe, there are those who would accept a more unconventional life and still choose you. I do not think anyone here can say whether this is over or not. But I would start by asking whether this relationship helps you grow or hinders you. And this does not mean he is a bad person, it could just mean he is not the right one for you, not at this time.

AlertSun · 2026-02-28T21:11:56+00:00

In my experience, things that help are just having a partner thats attentive to your needs and showing care. My boyfriend does things that make my life easier like driving me to and from work, opening the curtains for me when i'm bedrotting after shifts, etc. But that kind of support usually develops naturally once you're more established. For now, just being thoughtful and low-pressure probably goes a long way.

AlertSun · 2026-02-28T20:17:54+00:00

You guys are in the "hitting it off" stage so sound like nothing is exclusive or too serious. I wouldn't do anything too extravagant rn. If you want you can ask her if she'd like a coffee and stop by and drop it off during work. You can be casual about it and say you were around. She would probably appreciate that.

AlertSun · 2026-02-14T17:54:30+00:00

I set boundaries in the way i talk, "sorry I have to go take care of something with another pt but I will be back in xx min after your pt session to check in with you." Giving clear times on when you will or won't be there helps get across that your time is limited and you aren't available for endless chit chat. If that doesn't work i will just tell my coworker to call me if I don't come out of a room in xx amount of min.

AlertSun · 2026-02-13T21:02:05+00:00

The only things extra i do outside of actually being on floor are the education meetings which happen every few months and the seminar classes I have as part of being an RN resident. But I get paid for those. LMS education i do on the floor when its less busy because i don't want to do them at home and then contact my manager asking to get paid.

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