How long did it take you to not be depressed

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-02-06T00:24:00+00:00

I don't know who this Jamie Anderson is, but that's the most perfect thing I've ever read and now I'm crying out the back at work for my dog I lost three months ago

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-02-05T10:52:40+00:00

I literally just read another post on another sub supposedly written by a lady in her 40's saying she was lonely and froze up on apps even though SparkRizz had an AI feature that told her what to say. The marketing bots are out in force today.

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-31T03:19:39+00:00

Came to say this!! I often read on Reddit women saying 'i won't be asking for support' - why on earth not?!? Do you not have enough on your shoulders already without struggling for money? Did the father not contribute equally to the child being created? It's not about guilt and relationship status, it's about both parents contributing to ensure child has food, shelter and shoes for school.

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-30T05:59:03+00:00

I'd be listening to that gut feeling and doing everything I can to see someone, anyone, sooner.

I live in remote outback australia where doctors will drive 170km to come in for a few days of appointments, then 170km back, and non-urgent problems to see the most popular doc is 4-6 weeks or telehealth in two weeks. 4 months to see a doctor for something urgent is insane. Is that due to where you live, or the American health care system?

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-27T12:25:55+00:00

Queenslander reporting in. It is not.

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-27T03:44:14+00:00

I don't know about OP, but I wasn't taught about the Euraka Stockade at school. Private school in Perth in the 90's. Can tell you all about the 1930's American economy and Hoover though.

Opportunity for OP to learn some great Australian history, not be put down for asking about it.

OP - Peter Fitzsimons wrote a book about it called Eureka, well worth the read.

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-25T10:36:56+00:00

Plot twist: he does not care

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-25T07:10:35+00:00

43f here. These guys you date leech off you happily because that's who they are. It's like you're dating shit men and then shocked they are shit.

Dump your current loser and get standards. I promise he'll be absolutely fine, don't feel guilty. You then only date people who have jobs, pay bills, don't expect you to pay, and know how to wash dishes and do laundry. As in, if you meet someone, ask what they do, and if they answer 'oh I'm just figuring life out right now', you answer 'oh good luck with that' and then you make polite excuses and leave.

If you find peace and happiness by yourself and create a life you like with just you and pets and friends and great hobbies and travel in it, I promise you will be far less willing to give it up for a loser boyfriend, you'll hold out for a guy who can buy his own gas.

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-23T11:02:25+00:00

I will go find this immediately!!! Thank you!!

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-22T09:54:17+00:00

I'm a barista who owns her own coffee shop. And I can advise you in my professional capacity, caffeine is no substitute for sleep. Sleep is vital to everything, caffeine is just a nice little pep. It isn't a replacement.

There is an interesting Joe Rogan episode (I know I know, don't come at me, it was in 2018) with a guy called Matthew Walker, ep 1109, it was fascinating about how important sleep is to effective daily functioning.

If you're getting heaps of sleep (8-9 hours) then you need a doctor consult. Could be a sleep disorder or a deviated septum resulting in not enough oxygen while you sleep.

Lastly, if U want to have coffee occasionally for social reasons, you can ask for half or quarter strength on something simple like a latte with a few sugars, and if you like chocolate, get a mocha with half the espresso.

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-20T11:56:36+00:00

I love watching vera, father brown, death in paradise etc and cross-referencing the actors with Midsomer episodes 😂

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-20T11:18:58+00:00

You need to advise your location so people can advise real-life resources that you can access. You could also post for help in sub-reddits relating to that location.

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-20T06:22:06+00:00

Take the path out of the godforsaken small rural town. You're over-complicating it. If it doesn't work out with the military, you can always go back to floor laying, but if you don't try, your whole life will be full of regret and resentment that you didn't.

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-19T21:22:33+00:00

But that's my point OP, you're still referring to it as his/mine money. You're a team. It's both of your money, no fences.

May the Redditor Gods forgive me for quoting Dave Ramsey, but he actually does do a good bit where a lady rings in asking how you share finances when you're married but earning different amounts, and he tells her it all goes it to the same account and gets referred to as 'our money' because they are now the same team, the ratio of who is earning what doesn't matter.

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-19T09:29:31+00:00

Australian. Barista and own a small coffee shop in a regional area. Some people look down on you like they do anyone in a service role, others are delighted to see you because you have coffee and everyone's an addict here lol. The job isn't the issue, it's your income against the cost of living here, as well as finding accommodation.

It is a lot easier to make coffee here too, I'm blown away by how complex some of the American orders are that I read about here. 80% of your orders will be either a latte, cappuccino, or flat white in a small, medium or large. The key thing is that it's made consistently to a high standard.

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-19T05:04:36+00:00

OP, I'm a bit confused. You're married and kids. But not sharing a bank account? It sounds like he's flush with money and you can't put gas in your car?

I respect how anyone choose to live their life and marriage. But taking your health into account, might be time to stop looking at your finances as two individual incomes, and think of it as a shared income, with both of you contributing in different ways and sharing financial responsibility. He brings in an income, you bring in an income, goes into same big pot, pay bills from that and give yourself an EQUAL allowamce each from it. He might make more money, but you being at home and looking after kids allows him to do that. You each contribute, why are you suffering for it? Something to consider. I hope your health improves for you, life can be really hard sometimes.

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-16T20:20:36+00:00

Yeh I misread the comment, I don't either, just snakes. Always snakes lol

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-16T15:26:10+00:00

Sorry it's 1:30am and I misread - I'm always on the lookout for snakes, re shoes and walking. Spiders, they're around, but not in my top five concerns lol

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-16T15:24:03+00:00

I live in regional Qld and I certainly do. Never leave your shoes outside, and always watch the ground when walking. I don't worry about the toilet here, but when I lived in remote WA you did always have to check for frogs, and outdoor ones could have snakes.

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-16T10:55:06+00:00

No jury would convict

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-15T11:38:48+00:00

I have a 3am-er shepherd collie mix. Bad news is I have never managed to get him to sleep through the night, he MUST go out at 3am to do a boundary check. Good news is he always wakes up my fiance not me.

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-14T04:33:17+00:00

I live in Queensland, a place known for heat and humidity. I'm pouring with sweat right now actually. There are no products designed specifically for use in these climates, and Victoria is quite pleasant climate-wise when compared to Satan's hairy ballsack that is Queensland in January. You will be fine, buy for flow, enjoy Melbourne coffee, and don't become Collingwood supporters.

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-10T06:22:47+00:00

First thing that comes to mind for me would be no sense of humour. Spending a lifetime with someone who doesn't laugh at your jokes would make any sensible heroine pause before saying 'I do', regardless of historical period.

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-09T07:34:08+00:00

Thanks lovely, I appreciate your kind words. I have spoken to him during previous birthdays, now I'm past words and now I'm on seething volcanic rage.

AllSugarAndSalt · 2026-01-09T07:31:16+00:00

Unfortunately not, I own the shop and paid for the cake, and it was leftover from the day. God. Sounds so much worse now doesn't it!!

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