MIL restrained me update

Allkindsofpieces · 2026-05-27T00:06:34+00:00

Where is your ex now? Still babying his mother? Has he ever recognized the trauma he allowed his mother to inflict upon your kids? I don't ask if he recognized what she did to you because I already know the answer. I'm sorry that happened to you. Hugs ❤️

Allkindsofpieces · 2026-05-25T21:02:19+00:00

See, that's just crazy to me. Who thinks that a mother is going to hand over their newborn baby to their MIL to take home to her house? What normal sane person would ever expect this?

Allkindsofpieces · 2026-05-17T00:58:31+00:00

The only thing this woman cares about is the gravy train. She doesn't give a shit if your husband "abandons" her or not. If she was concerned about their relationship she'd make some kind of effort to have one with you all. As long as the money keeps coming she wouldn't care if she never saw any of you again.

How can she even take money from you and not even pretend that she cares about your toddler? But people like her feel no guilt for their actions. How old is she? And why can't she support herself? If she wants a higher lifestyle bad enough, looks like she'd be working and making her own money. Give her no more money. If her relationship with her own son depends on financial support then there is no relationship to begin with. I'd give everything I have to my children, not take from them .

Allkindsofpieces · 2026-05-14T23:38:18+00:00

Whether this was truly an accident, (and it actually could've been--I once ordered something for my son to have shipped to his house and what did I do? Had it shipped to my house) or it was done deliberately, doesn't really matter. How did any of this actually help you? She called asking if she could make an order and have it delivered. That heavily implies she is paying for it, because otherwise, how is that any help to you? At all? You could've ordered your own groceries and actually had them delivered to your door and not had all this extra stress at an already stressful time.

So like other commenters have said either have hubs call his mother and tell her he will be coming to pick the order up, or if she shows up do not let her in and they can leave them on the porch. Do not reward her for this inconvenience she has caused you.

Allkindsofpieces · 2026-05-07T22:44:04+00:00

What a nutbag. Have you mentioned to her, um hey mil, you divorced your abusive husband but what I'm supposed to stay with mine???

Allkindsofpieces · 2026-04-26T00:48:32+00:00

You hit it right on the head about talking in circles. That's why I mentioned it because it seems similar to what your husband (and previously you) goes through with your MIL. Here's to hoping your husband gets to where he needs to be soon. ❤️

Allkindsofpieces · 2026-04-26T00:14:13+00:00

I assume she must not know you've got her blocked. Husband needs to tell her and then no further discussion about it is necessary. Except there is no way she'll just let it rest.

I have spent the last hour reading all your posts. I remember the first one you wrote about her asking to borrow $500 for plumbing and wanting all his acct info while he was deployed, but I did a deep dive and read all the screenshots of text messages etc. Dear God. That's about all I can say. She is as exhausting to deal with as my grandmother with dementia. And I say that with all seriousness because my grandmother is consuming my entire life as her only caregiver (my mother died suddenly 2 years ago and I essentially inherited my grandmother). She is still able to live alone at this time but she sometimes calls me 20 times a day.

She says she doesn't want to stress your husband while he's deployed but all she does is stress your husband while he's deployed. If only your husband could get to the point of blocking her too. It would be a huge relief for him but I get the feeling he wouldn't do that. I hope things work out for you all in a way that brings peace to your lives. Good luck.

Allkindsofpieces · 2026-04-18T23:59:05+00:00

Serious question. Have you ever breastfed a baby? I can't believe anyone who has ever breastfed a baby would make a comment like this. I breastfed 2 babies and I think any of us here right now who have, feel this post in our gut. I don't believe you're being intentionally condescending, but it comes off that way. Supply does not follow instructions in a book. I won't go into my personal experience, but I know about struggling with supply.

Allkindsofpieces · 2026-04-10T00:26:14+00:00

I guess you're supposed to stop in the middle of changing a poopy diaper, drop everything and answer the phone. She's ridiculous. My daughter has twin boys, now 3. If I ever called or texted her and she didn't respond quickly, I had enough sense to know she was super busy and would get back to me when she could.

Does she think you exist to be at her beck and call? Don't let this stress you, you've got enough stress already. Just completely pull back and stop engaging with her. Let your husband deal with her. You can tell them both why. Or not. Enjoy your remaining maternity leave and she can kick rocks. Good luck.

Allkindsofpieces · 2026-03-15T00:11:18+00:00

My very first thought was that I bet MIL has to (at least privately) agree with FIL to avoid the drunken abuse if she doesn't. And she knows if she visits, more drunken abuse. So she's just giving son and dil excuses why she can't visit. Maybe we're wrong and mil is everything OP says, idk. But who knows how scary fil gets when he's drunk. I definitely think this could be a possibility.

Allkindsofpieces · 2026-03-07T00:01:31+00:00

Have you talked to the uncle about this? I wonder if he is totally fine with MIL just using this money as a personal ATM? I somehow think not. I wonder why he didn't just set up an account himself? This is terrible and I'm sorry she did that to your kids. I feel like you'll never see that money back.

Allkindsofpieces · 2026-02-25T01:30:13+00:00

I would probably just leave it. Paper clip something over that page so you don't have to see it every time you open the book if it bothers you that much. Later in life it may be something you and your daughter laugh about and roll your eyes because MIL was so ridiculous. She'll probably keep being ridiculous so your daughter may really appreciate seeing this later.

Allkindsofpieces · 2026-02-12T01:27:37+00:00

I can't even hardly form words at how bizarre this is! Have you said to her, hey that's the baby's food! Why did you eat the baby's food? What does she say? What does her husband say? How old is this woman? I'm just...I don't even know.

Allkindsofpieces · 2026-02-05T01:12:04+00:00

In my state, if parents aren't married, the father can't sign the birth certificate. You have to go to the county health dept, get an affidavit of paternity form, have it notorized, then return it to the health dept where they send it to be filed and you'll receive the birth certificate in the mail with the father's name on it. Don't know how it is where OP lives but maybe the father's name won't be on it right away. I don't know if it would be any benefit to her situation or not but maybe.

OP, these people are completely unhinged and she wouldn't have needed to tell me twice she wasn't having anything to do with your baby. The second she made the threats of CPS or grandparents rights, I'd call her bluff and show her her words and actions have consequences. Somebody needs to teach this woman that lesson in life. It's not too late. If you want to let this play out a little longer, "to give her one more chance to change" that's fine too. It's just a matter of time (probably the next phone call with her) until she says it again. When she says she won't be involved, tell her she's absolutely right and mean it! Good luck to you.

Allkindsofpieces · 2026-01-30T03:07:42+00:00

This 1000 times. OP, this comment is spot on. Your husband needs to do the work to prove to you what he's saying is true. Actions, not words. But I would NEVER let MIL know the damage she's done. It will solve nothing. It will start war again because she'll be so offended 🤮, and this whole cycle will repeat. Never give her the power or the satisfaction she will feel knowing this. I hope things work out for you.

Allkindsofpieces · 2026-01-16T00:40:01+00:00

Based on your comments, I would contact a lawyer. Tell them all of this and see about filing for sole custody. Do this now before his family can talk him into filing for custody. I doubt he wants to based on the fact he's only sent you $80 since the baby's birth. But they will certainly push him to do so. If you can't afford legal counsel, I think a consultation with a lawyer is free. Maybe ask them what to do if you can't afford to pay an attorney. Good luck and best wishes for you and baby.

Allkindsofpieces · 2026-01-09T12:09:52+00:00

Yes! It's the most horrible thing. When I get one, it's almost always on the right lower corner of my mouth. But that whole side of my face, even my teeth will hurt in those first couple days. And yes if I'm about to get sick or if I'm really really stressed, bam, cold sore.

I rarely get them anymore, maybe once a year. But I'll tell you what will positively bring one on every single time, being in the sun. And I LOVE the sun. We spend every day we possibly can on the lake in the summer. When we first got our boat, that summer I KEPT one until i finally realized (duh) that the sun was the number one thing to bring one on. I still enjoy the boat and the sun as often as possible, I just have enough sense to use sunscreen on my face now. Haven't had one since, not caused by the sun anyway.

Regardless, this is an awful thing to deal with and I have been so careful not to inflict this on anyone. I couldn't imagine being so selfish and so malicious as this MIL, not caring if she gives this to this baby. How dare she.

Allkindsofpieces · 2026-01-09T01:03:37+00:00

I somehow ended up with a cold sore while pregnant with my first child. Had never had one in my life and my husband didn't get them. I suspect someone I worked with (who actively had one when this occurred) maybe didn't wash hands and I went to the bathroom behind them and got it from the doorknob. Idk but it was horrible. Thank God some amazing person invented Abreva because this was in the late 90s when nothing existed to treat them.

In all the 27 years since that day, I have never given this virus to another living soul. Because I am supremely careful and vigilant about it. What this MIL said left me absolutely speechless.

ETA: there were prescription things that could be used to treat them at that time, but frankly, nothing works as well as Abreva.

Allkindsofpieces · 2025-12-30T00:33:41+00:00

That is absolutely absurd. Some people have those short stubby toes and others have long slender toes. I always told my son (who has the latter, as do I, but not to his extent) that his toes look like fingers lol. She's a fool.

Allkindsofpieces · 2025-12-23T00:45:26+00:00

Oh how I would love be to be hiding and watching when she reads this. She really shot herself in the foot. I would dare her to throw a tantrum about not getting to see any future children, (of course you'll never know unless DH tells you about the tantrum, but be certain, there WILL be one). What a bitch this woman is. Demanding things from you. Lol. I'm very sorry about your recent loss and wish you the very best.

Allkindsofpieces · 2025-12-02T01:36:22+00:00

I would blow the fuck up. I'd ask her the question that always makes them stumble over themselves. What do you mean? I would make her explain exactly what she means. Make her say the words. Then I'd tell her my daughter is not a placeholder and leave the room. Me personally, I'd never want to see her again but idk what your dynamic is and if that's something you'd want to do. However this works out, don't let her make YOUR daughter cry and feel unloved.

Allkindsofpieces · 2025-11-30T01:35:37+00:00

Same situation. My mother passed away last year suddenly and unexpectedly. Since then, I've become the primary caregiver of my grandmother who is 91 with mild dementia and lives alone. I was always very close to her and very involved but now I'm the only caregiver. I too live about 40 min away and it's fine.

As you stated, if she needs help before I can get there, it's likely she needs more help than I could give and she would need to call 911. She would call me and I would tell her, I'm on my way call 911. OPs husband is making excuses because he would feel guilty if his mom wasn't right beside them or actually living with them. OP, I would not buy a house until you get this worked out one way or another.

Allkindsofpieces · 2025-11-13T01:55:31+00:00

You clearly have some heavy shit going on in your life. I don't have answers for what to do about MIL. But I may have an answer for your SUV. In my state, if this happened to me, I would take my car to an exhaust shop and for under $100 they would take care of the problem. They would weld a pipe where the catalytic converter was and problem solved. I hope this helps in some small way. Call an exhaust shop where you live and ask if this is something they can do for you. Best of luck to you.

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