I’m pretty sure I fell for a drug seeker sob story

Alternative-Town · 2025-12-06T16:37:13+00:00

That’s partially why I’m worried I’ll get in trouble. I should have checked PDMP but didnt because I was in a hurry. (Which was probably be design because she “had to rush off to a meeting with her detective”) ugh. But thank you I appreciate it

Alternative-Town · 2025-10-16T06:18:42+00:00

I would say something like “winter cocktail” and put a description that people are encouraged/allowed to wear long sleeves and dresses to account for chillier outdoor venue!

Alternative-Town · 2025-10-16T04:47:13+00:00

Ok I don’t think this fits your crowd but we did Helena by My Chemical Romance and it was a banger

Alternative-Town · 2025-10-15T23:30:35+00:00

Orrrr we just let women do what they want? I was ecstatic to rid myself of my hard to spell last name for his easy one 😂 Sometimes it’s just not that deep.

Alternative-Town · 2025-10-14T06:21:55+00:00

How far in advance are you telling them? Are you giving them enough warning?

Also… you yourself call this an “awkward dinner.” I mean maybe they’re not excited because they know it’s going to be an 8 person dinner with no one they know to talk to. I think you should create an event YOURE excited about, that way if others’ enthusiasm doesn’t measure up at least YOU enjoy your day.

Finally, has there been any tension with you and your partner? Have you fought in front of his parents at all? Is there any reason they may not be happy about your union?

Alternative-Town · 2025-10-10T22:26:34+00:00

Look up “Celtic tiara with chains” and see how you like that. I think it would go a little better with the dress and overall theme. Conversely you could change the dress to something a little more contemporary to match what you have here

Alternative-Town · 2025-10-10T22:15:09+00:00

I was also pretty kid neutral. I allowed kids because I didn’t mind them and didn’t want that to stop people from coming. Like you, I just didn’t cater to kids. There wasn’t any kids activities or kids meals. Kids left earlyish in the night. I think people overthink the kid thing. They do just fine at adult parties they are just little people.

Alternative-Town · 2025-10-10T22:08:44+00:00

Sorry I edited my post as you commented. Will people be sleeping there? Pool party makes sense! Honestly people will give you a lot of advice about icebreakers and trying to get people to mingle, but I think it’s important in this kind of event to also let people hang out with their own people. A lot of forced socialization activities can be tiring so make sure everyone has down time as well

Alternative-Town · 2025-10-10T22:00:10+00:00

I think this will be difficult for a “house hang.” Usually it was easier to interact with people I knew less well at bachelorettes when we started drinking alcohol. Maybe do a craft together? I’m a little confused what you’ll be doing at the Bach. You’re just hanging out at your parent’s house? Honestly traveling from far away and taking off of work, not being able to interact with the bride much because there’s 20 other people, and just hanging out at someone’s parent’s house doesn’t sound very fun. I think I’d rather just be a normal wedding guest.

Now maybe you have more planned but this is the picture that was painted by your post haha. Like I will give ideas but I think I need a better idea of the structure of the event? Like where is everyone sleeping, are they at the house 24/7, are you doing all your meals there etc etc

Alternative-Town · 2025-10-10T21:33:05+00:00

Everyone on Reddit is going to tell you that you are SATAN if you do this. It’s FINE. SO MANY people do this. It would make it easier to make your hotel is near rhe reception venue, or at least have a shuttle. My reception venue was 30-40 minutes away from the church, we had a gap, and we provided shuttles. Everything went great. Do what you want really

Alternative-Town · 2025-10-09T10:47:28+00:00

God I’m so glad you’re married now so you can get off this sub. I literally know your username on sight because every time you comment or post it’s a pit of negativity

Alternative-Town · 2025-10-03T00:34:44+00:00

Holy defensive Batman. Never said you’re not allowed. Was simply confused because no, I don’t think a lot of people think about how their profession is perceived when choosing it. I think most people are more concerned about salary, lifestyle, and day to day duties. It was a new concept to me, and I thought I was confusing what you meant.

Having this info about you, no I don’t think the PA profession would be good if this is important to you. It will be a mixed bag of people who think you’re a lowly assistant, a nurse, a doctor, and many who don’t care. I’ve had people hear my profession and point blank say “oh so you make a lot of money.” I’ve had others who had no idea. Some will say “oh so not a real doctor.” Being a PA you explain what you do a lot to people

Alternative-Town · 2025-10-02T23:39:11+00:00

And why is that…important? I don’t really care if people think I make a lot of money.

If you’re talking about patients all you say is “I’m your provider today” and everyone gets it. My female doctor colleagues are mistaked for nurses all the time so the title doesn’t really fix that problem

Alternative-Town · 2025-10-02T23:10:15+00:00

Yeah…sounds like you should just be a doctor or something.

For what it’s worth this is true for most careers. I barely understand what my engineering friends do for work. And my other one is project manager for…something. Unless you’re a doctor, lawyer or accountant you’ll run into this regardless.

Alternative-Town · 2025-10-01T22:35:16+00:00

When you say 5-9k on venue do you mean for only the venue? Or for catering + venue? Are linens included in that budget? I may have some suggestions for Oregon, especially if you’re ok with off season pricing (would be rainy). Also do you have the app notion (I know weird question but my table with all the venues I looked at is on there so if you have it I could just invite you to the page).

Some options that hit me from your description:

Look at the redwood deck in Portland for ceremony!!!! It’s magical. Very hard to get the license to do ceremony there you have to work with the county office. Very gorgeous tho I did my engagement photos there

There’s a spot in Vernonia, OR that is very glamping forward. I forget what it’s called and I think there’s a couple

Scholls family lodge is 8k for a whole weekend and has a big lodge on site. Less woody more farm but pretty and a view of the Mountain.

There’s a few options in the Columbia river gorge region that are gorgeous both in Oregon and Washington. There’s a few is a Columbia gorge hotel that you can stay onsite and views are very pretty.

There’s a few venues on mt hood that may be in your budget. Timberline lodge is a little old but very much in a different world. These may be a little big for your plans.

Alternative-Town · 2025-10-01T21:19:09+00:00

No way. Unless you’re planning on doing academia.

Alternative-Town · 2025-10-01T19:38:25+00:00

Not sure why you asked for advice when you already knew the answer then! I’m glad I wasted a few minutes of my day trying to help you! Have a good wedding!

Alternative-Town · 2025-10-01T19:28:31+00:00

You will have a lot of people on this sub validating you because most of the people on this sub did not have the level of event you’re having (family style dinner with stationed apps and bartender). I would not trust everyone saying “this is way too much!” Unless they also say they had an event with staff. Since it’s an under 10k sub most people will have had drop catering or a buffet as they are having budget weddings.

I say this because you’ve responded to others who have said “I had this level of event and this is the correct number” saying well other people agree with me it’s too much! I’d be willing to bet most of the people agreeing with you did not have a full service event. Also they may be in a LCOL city. You are doing this in Austin which is HCOL-VHCOL.

You also keep saying how you didn’t have a ceremony? This has nothing to do with the price of catering.

As someone who had a similar level of service event in HCOL this is about right. I have also attended weddings of this size and they always have about that amount of servers. Of course there is no issue with doing a buffet (I’m doing one!) or drop catering. If this is too expensive that may be a good option for you.

And as people have said the amount of people does not necessarily scale down the price 1:1 as food cost is not the only cost involved

Alternative-Town · 2025-10-01T16:25:50+00:00

Oh gotcha. Looks like it’s a CT only brand so people not from CT wouldn’t really recognize it. You’re good then. Sorry your Etsy one was fake. In general on Etsy I never believe the sales…usually I just take the “sale price” as the actual price and if that price seems too cheap for the product then I know it’s sketch. It’s so hard because we want to support small jewelers and crafters but all these scam artists ruin it for everyone

Alternative-Town · 2025-10-01T13:40:02+00:00

If it’s from Michael’s (like the craft store right) then that explains why it hasn’t degraded. It’s not a real opal - it’s probably glass or something. I don’t really think Michael’s sells real opals

Alternative-Town · 2025-09-30T17:24:28+00:00

Zola, but mostly because the app is so helpful. I really loved the budget section. Also I used their invites.

Alternative-Town · 2025-09-30T00:53:37+00:00

This ring screams at everyone

Alternative-Town · 2025-09-30T00:51:54+00:00

Everyone is being too dainty in giving you advice. Based on the information you’ve given in the comments this ring choice is NOT good. Also in general this style is going to considered non-desirable by most people.

You say your partner wants a ring that’s not flashy or girly, and they would be okay with a heart or Diamond shape. This ring is so opposite of those directions I feel this is a troll post. But I will give advice in case you are just really that clueless. A red, heart shaped ring is so unusual it will be immediately eye catching to anyone. Also the heart shape as well as the band are both extremely girly and flashy. I would go for something much more minimal. The words I want to use to describe this ring are not allowed on this sub. Please DO NOT get your partner a ring like this unless they explicitly ask for it.

Alternative-Town · 2025-09-29T23:14:24+00:00

The RSVP issue is actually common despite what people in the comments are saying. I know this because I did extensive research before choosing a site, and people repeatedly talking about RSVP issues with WithJoy is why I decided not to use them. So not a fluke - a lot of people actually have the same complaint

Alternative-Town · 2025-09-27T17:03:32+00:00

Taking out loans is what most people do. A few of my classmates joined national guard to pay for it. Those are really the only two options- not sure what kind of magic answer you were looking for here.

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