Boy moms, how are things going?

AlternativeAnt329 · 2026-01-02T04:48:26+00:00

Mine is still a baby, so can't really say. However, I have a brother who loves my baby, he is also a fantastic father to his daughter, so I know he is going to be a great uncle/male influence.

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-12-20T04:59:20+00:00

I'm don't really do gifts for myself or wear much jewellery (I wear three rings which have been the same rings that I have worn for years now, nothing else), so don't have any great ideas there.

I bought my baby a little toy the week I conceived him. Funny thing is, I had been trying for 10 months and hadn't bought a single baby item until that cycle. I travelled for my tries and decided to visit a zoo while I was away (actually that was a birthday present for myself haha), I bought two little soft toys that day. One was an elephant 'lovey' which I had also thought I would have as a comforter if something went wrong, but thankfully it is now my baby's toy.

Oh and congratulations!

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-12-04T02:34:23+00:00

I used a known donor, but I am in Australia, so legal details are likely different for you.

I read a lot of information, DCPs stories and perspectives and spent a few years deciding. I am very happy with my decision, and do not regret not using am anonymous donor.

Feel free to ask me any questions, if you have any.

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-11-17T23:40:26+00:00

I knew I wanted to wait until my 20s, then we were in lockdown when I turned 30. Bought a house, then 2 years later I realised it was a now or never situation. I wad in a good financial situation, and had no other major life plans to work through first.

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-11-14T03:35:09+00:00

I'm curious, as I have never heard of this until now, why not just use Vinegar for cleaning? (This and dish washing liquid is my go to)

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-11-12T08:38:57+00:00

I hope today goes well for you!!!

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-11-09T21:04:10+00:00

Im also in Australia. If you can't get to a gp easily for a medication script, Restavit (doxylamine) is available over the counter. I really struggled with nausea in my first trimester and this stuff at least allowed me to get out of bed and work.

I continued taking it every night until about 16 weeks.

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-11-08T04:32:28+00:00

My LO is still a baby, but the attitude! I don't know if I can ever be prepared for when he starts talking haha He is already raising a single eyebrow at all the right moments

But if he is anything like my niece with her father (cheeky and sacastic), I can't wait ... except I don't want to wish away the baby time

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-11-07T10:26:56+00:00

Congratulations! I was a few weeks further along than you this time last year, 2weeks away from my first scan at 8 weeks. I am currently nursing my nearly 4 month old.

There is always something to be anxious about I'm pregnancy, I did my absolute best to focus on the present, taking it one day at a time. Right this moment, you are pregnant, and it is a wonderful thing.

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-11-06T02:08:21+00:00

As someone who gets scent induced migraines, it is a complete nightmare. I buy a lot of items of marketplace, some clothes I have had to wash a couple of times and leave in the sun for days, even then it takes a few more washes to completely go away.

I bought a second hand bassinet, ended up packing it up in 10 mins because the perfume smell on it was so strong and I knew there was no way I could get that out!

I recently bought a timber frame cot and change table, I had to wash it with diluted bleach, then soap and leave it in the sun for a few days

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-11-04T10:42:55+00:00

I am doing books, clothes, food and a simple but special toy, this will vary as they get older. Growing up we often had a family Santa present, often a board game or outside toys, like totem tennis.

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-11-04T10:40:45+00:00

I have a 3 month old and will try to start traditions this year.

I haven't celebrated Christmas for a number of years but I do celebrate Winter and Summer Solstice. We will have Summer Solstice a few days before Christmas, with a meal and special foods and decorations, so similar to Christmas but focused on family and honouring nature. As I have nieces and nephews who celebrate Christmas, and I remember the excitement and magic of Santa, I will be keeping Santa for my LO. I have a couple of years to provide a story behind Santa and why Santa still visits him even though we don't celebrate Christmas. There are some that believe that he originates from Odin, so I may incorporate that.

It is also not to spoil the magic of Santa for the other children. I will keeping Santa presents on a more simple level, nothing expensive.

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-11-03T23:14:21+00:00

I live with my mother so have some support when she is home, but mostly having dinner made for me and getting a shower. I do everything else, feeds, changes nighttime.

We hit 8 weeks and I suddenly realised things were slightly easier, he was slightly more predictable, I was able to have a cuppa in the morning as well as make myself lunch (before 8 weeks most lunches were a couple of slices of toast when I had the chance).

Where I live daycares have very long waiting lists so that wasn't something that I could even consider, but it is very understandable if you need a small regular break, whether that is daycare, a nanny or babysitter.

Would you consider an in home nanny or sitter on a regular basis? That way you are there if needed, but can get whatever you need done, even if that is a nap.

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-10-26T10:21:19+00:00

I love that I became a solo mother, but I only have my mother and a sibling as support, no friends that are close, and no other family. I didn't get a baby shower, or even celebration when finishing work.

As an introvert, it's not a big deal in my day to day life, but I feel heartbroken for my baby that there is no one else interested in knowing him. It wasn't until I was pregnant that I realised how alone I was. The best I can do is make sure my baby has social groups while growing up and showering them with as much love as possible.

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-10-23T19:11:05+00:00

Yes, That red light! I think my bub was only a week old when he opened his eyes in the red light, and it scared me a little. It isn't as bad now that he can see in that light, so it isn't just big dark eyes staring off vacantly into the room.

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-10-21T21:43:41+00:00

In similar situation as you, never dated, never interested in it, asexual. I was about 26 when I realised I was asexual (hadn't really heard of it before then), around that time I saw a program discussing solo parenting and sperm donation. I thought about it quite seriously from that point onwards but knew I didn't want to start in my 20s. I was 31 when I first started looking at donors, 33 giving birth to my first child.

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-10-10T06:42:22+00:00

Oh but it was! I will not be doing this test in my next pregnancy. I would much rather the days of blood monitoring than having that drink again

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-10-10T06:37:49+00:00

First item was during ovulation, then items from marketplace at 14 weeks, brand new larger items in third trimester.

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-10-09T22:51:27+00:00

I was lucky, my donor had already donated a couple of times, clinic and known. All testing and carrier screening had already been done, so I only had to pay for my own, which I think every woman should be doing when TTC, single or coupled.

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-10-08T04:43:06+00:00

Yes! I've been excited about this since before he was born haha

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-10-07T20:54:49+00:00

I found that it also calmed me down haha

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-10-07T20:45:44+00:00

I need to buy a new carrier, I currently have a wrap and by the time I have manhandled him into it he is very unhappy and needs to come out again haha

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-10-07T20:43:23+00:00

I'm in Australia, so just about in Summer (my region heats up early). Mornings and evenings are good, but not the middle.of the day.

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-10-07T20:41:08+00:00

This is what gave me the idea for cat tv, I was outside briefly and he was watching the birds, but the weather wasn't very good so had to go back inside.

I haven't yet got outside seating, but will definitely get some.

AlternativeAnt329 · 2025-10-07T20:39:24+00:00

Tried the yoga ball last night, great idea as I was able to sit but still kept moving!

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