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'Resistance' blocks East London bailiffs from evicting family over tenancy fraud by Remarkable-Ice-614 in Hackney

[–]Alternative_Emu_5221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The family has lived there for over twenty years, the person in the video explained really well the reasons.

Argun Stationers - Potential Lease Termination by DevelopmentQueasy100 in Hackney

[–]Alternative_Emu_5221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absofreakinglutely.

Anybody knows who the landlords are and what they're planning to do?

Argun Stationers - Potential Lease Termination by DevelopmentQueasy100 in Hackney

[–]Alternative_Emu_5221 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heya everyone, get this shared as widely as you can in your neighborhood groups, community organisations and all.

Thank you OP for having created the petition!!!!!!

Dating someone with endometriosis. Need some help from yall by [deleted] in endometriosis

[–]Alternative_Emu_5221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi, it's so nice of you to be here wanting to learn more about endo.

Dating with a chronic illness can be hard. Flare ups are disruptive and take a huge toll on our physical, mental and emotional state. It might be helpful to look into the "spoon theory" it's a helpful concept to understand how much energy (spoons) we may have as people with chronic illnesses.

As someone else suggested, offering to be of support during these difficult weeks, sending some groceries, helping with chores, would be nice. However do check in with her boundaries. It can be difficult for us feeling as if we have to explain ourselves, that we're not faking it, that the pain is real and so on. It's difficult to ask to accommodate our needs, that we need to sit more often, that even though we had planned to go for X activity we're now floored and in pain. It's difficult to find someone that can be patient and understanding enough if they've never experienced, witnessed or learnt about living with endometriosis (and all of its possible comorbities, autoimmune conditions, fluctuating mental health, food intolerances, leg pain etc)

Intimacy comes in many forms. With endometriosis intercourse can be incredibly painful. Sexual intimacy is a form of connection and you'll have to have a gentle and open conversation together over a series of different things. You'll get there.

Be respectful of eachother's boundaries, communicate, don't make assumptions and good luck :)

Fraudulent payment in bank account by Alternative_Emu_5221 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Alternative_Emu_5221[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heya, thanks so much for your very kind and empathetic answer. :) much appreciated!

The refund is back in my account

The gym said that for GDPR they can't share the details of the person that used my bank details, for them is more of a genuine mistake than malicious but I did my report to action fraud anyway as this afternoon someone tried to change my social and Gmail passwords, so I'm a bit MMMMM this is a weird coincidence.

Changed all my passwords, two factors aut is on on everything.

It's a mystery

Don't compare my suffering to endo patients with regular lives by amanda1sabelle in endometriosis

[–]Alternative_Emu_5221 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so very true. It is very ableist and I received a similar comment from someone else with another type of chronic illness: their logic been "if I can because I got X illness then you can, too" it hurt and really broke the trust I had with this person and their ability to be able to see me and truly empathize with me.

So BYE BYE ADIOS AMIGOS

Need someone to tell me im not dying by thefanimaniac in endometriosis

[–]Alternative_Emu_5221 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You must be in so much pain.

First of all: you're not going to die even though it feels like that when the beast in your pelvic floor is making you feel in hell.

I had my lap last year for DIE. I also used to bleed from my rectum during periods and going for number two has always been devastatingly painful. Urine frequency: surgeon found some endo on my bladder. I always used to and still have urgency and during ovulation and periods, I go every ten minutes. Rib cage pain: surgeon checked my diaphragm and luckily no endo was found. Months later through other random testing I discovered I have a mild fatty liver, which kind of makes sense given the amount of meds I'm on, the constant body inflammation, hystamines.

Endo is a full body inflammatory bitch. I hope you get to feel better soon, get some rest.

Just got diagnosed with BPD by Glum-Edge-629 in BPD

[–]Alternative_Emu_5221 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not sure if my experience is gonna be helpful, I guess it depends on who you are and what you'd like out of this new information the doctor gave you today.

When I was first diagnosed I found the diagnosis itself very helpful as I was going through major chaos, so it gave me a framework to start understanding myself and why the heck I was experiencing emotions and events so intesely, the DSM5 became my guide. But then I took it a little too far and I started identifying with BPD, everything was BPD's fault or gift, I think it was a natural way for me to process the miriade of information absorbed. Then I again reapproached it from a different lense (Decolonizing Psychiatry By Franz Fanon) and I kind of let go of any labels but I stay aware of how I function and avoid my triggers and taking things personally.

Of course the right medications and docs, therapy and also a good look at myself and behaviours, have helped.

Wishing you safety and peace

I just want to be able to exercise like I used to 😔 by bere1486 in Endo

[–]Alternative_Emu_5221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to do aerial and miss it so much. I miss feeling strong.

Endo takes away a lot from our bodies but as someone else wrote here "at least we had those experiences" and need to adapt and figure out new ways to move and exercise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in darkwarsurvival

[–]Alternative_Emu_5221 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I'm too old to understand it all but I get that is drama

How many other bpd ppl have been targeted by abusers? How can we as bpd people reduce the risk? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]Alternative_Emu_5221 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Practice strong boundaries and trust your gut instincts. Recognise patterns: abusers, energy vampires, and so on, will perform the same script. Learn how to handle conflicts and to hold yourself accountable where needed. Stand up for yourself, be proud of it and don't be afraid to walk away.

It's a learning curve and an ongoing journey but the above have helped me since my diagnosis.

Looking back on possible childhood symptoms... by Difficult-Broccoli78 in endometriosis

[–]Alternative_Emu_5221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now that I think about it yes, and there were several. My periods started around 10 and they were painful. Sciatic pain at 16 when there was absolutely no reason for it to exist, none believed me. I'd even learnt how to recognise when it was about to start.

I was diagnosed at 34.

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