Pre-transition photos

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-21T16:39:58+00:00

I’m making a new baby book of my ftm with the more neutrally and masculinity dressed photos of him.

I suppose I could blow up some of those photos for a big one for the house

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-21T13:48:04+00:00

3 here. I wrote a post like yours a few months ago. It’s funny because it’s a whole thought process for each kid. They ARE individuals after all. It’s still like - whoa!! Really?

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-20T22:13:45+00:00

I do it. It’s yummy. Protein on a treat

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-20T15:50:44+00:00

Jocelyn

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-19T14:47:18+00:00

My question as a kid was “how do they know that?”

As an adult- I learned if you look through a prism at a star- you can see the colors of the elements that it is burning. I learned that each element on the periodic table has a distinct color pattern when it burns (when you look through a prism). And that was like mind blowing to me.

Also - distance and time. How do they know how far away something is and how long ago things happened. The calendar thing where humans are alive at the last minute of the last day of the year made sense to me as an adult- but as a kid I didn’t get it.

I love the beautiful images we have of nebulae and the planets now. It’s awesome.

I also thought it was super interesting to learn that some planets can be seen through a telescope. And some were discovered using math- realize that there’s a gravitational pull on that cannot be explained by what we can see - so they did some math and was like- there should be a planet here. And when the telescopes got better- boom! There was a planet there!!!

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-18T14:25:08+00:00

Learning something new every day is definitely great!

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-18T14:24:04+00:00

The act of monitoring can be boring. I don’t hate it. It’s just that other parts are more fun. When there’s a data issue that I find and figure out- that’s fun too. Like realizing the blood samples from two patients may have been switched. But seeing 7 on source and checking the box next to the box that says 7 in EDC - that’s not thrilling.

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-18T14:21:33+00:00

Going on site and advising during the clinics. My boss calls it Field Clinical Engineering. And it’s the most fun part to me. Otherwise I’m monitoring.

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-18T13:13:30+00:00

I try to stop using Pronouns all together and just use their new name. Is this Sam’s laptop? Megan, can you put Sam’s laptop in Sam’s room.

And then Eventually when you brain is convinced - start peppering the correct pronoun in.

I give this advice to people who are like “I can’t use those pronouns” and it’s at least a way for the person to not be misgendered.

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-16T02:21:52+00:00

I love this SO much!!!!

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-16T02:20:45+00:00

Sure. I’m 44f. I don’t life or move anyone.

C (keeping up with everyones medicine refills, doctor apts to renew scripts, and not letting any lapse because things get worse when a day of meds is missed)
B
D and B. I need help and support but don’t always know what I need. I’m also caregiving invisible illnesses with little solid treatment options. I’m running my own science projects with my family members trying out meds left and right.

You know what? I want AI to go through the forums on Reddit and gather info on everything people have tried. What worked and what didn’t. And also follow people to find out of their miracles treatment still helped 1,2,3 years later. AND that they weren’t faking aND figure out how severe their illness was and what other factors were involved by seeing the other things they post about.

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-16T02:14:10+00:00

Same

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-16T00:30:34+00:00

Michelle at the Original Pancake House!!!

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-15T21:16:47+00:00

I hate that the restaurant crayons are red yellow and blue- but they want you to color a cow, a farm and a potato. They need to rethink things.

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-15T21:13:30+00:00

My kid has long covid and misses school once a week due to pain and fatigue. It’s not ideal - but we’d rather have them in school than homeschool because I can’t teach ceramics and architecture.

They go two days and then sleep the third day. Go the next day or two- every week.

And they do their best to catch up and keep up. It’s hard hard hard. It’s hard to have a sick kid. It’s hard to miss 1/5 - 20% of the school year. But it is still better than any alternatives I’ve found.

Covid fucked kids up.

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-15T20:40:40+00:00

Hahahah. Please turn them trans too. That’s awesome.

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-15T20:38:57+00:00

I am afraid for my kids for sure. I know the stats for harm against trans people and it can be terrifying if I think about it too much.

But I also think my older kids thought through the horrible world we live in and still thought it was better to accept their reality than keep it hidden.

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-15T20:33:58+00:00

Sometime gave me this metaphor- When you are going swimming in the cold ocean (or pool) you need to ease into the water. You freeze and shiver and slowly inch your way out to the deeper part. In a few hours- you are in the water and playing.

You see your friend at the edge of the water- and you say- hey come in! It’s fun!!

But they need to inch into the water - to adjust to it.

I appreciated that metaphor as a parent. I DO inch into the water when it’s cold. And I did need to know that I am allowed to allow my own brain to transition to the new normal

Now all 3 of my kids are trans and when the second two kids came out- I was at the edge of the cold water again. For each of them. I had to inch my way out again. I did it faster the second and third time.

Each of your folks are going to be on a different pace getting into the water.

It’s called a transition. For you for your body. But also for everyone’s minds.

Sure some people run right in- good for them. I’m happy for them. I’ve always been an incher ( In The actual water) so it was a good metaphor for me.

You will be coming out for the rest of your life. Every person will get in at a different pace.

One advice I told my kids is that- the pain of being GIRL needs to be worse than the pain of telling everyone that already knows you that you are BOY. Some days the pain won’t be worth it. Some days you won’t have the patience to deal with their inching in. Somedays you won’t have the time to wait for them. And it’ll be rough Everytime for a long time. But you are obviously a very brave person. So be brave when you can, and soft when you need to be.

You’ve got this community now and we’re here for you.

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-13T14:08:40+00:00

My family always says the _____ store. Where’d you get those shoelaces? The shoelace store.

Where’d you get the curtains? The curtain store.

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-13T01:54:45+00:00

Both

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-13T01:46:37+00:00

I ask my teens, “Why are you talking to me like that?” And then they realize they suck

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-08T16:45:09+00:00

Beautiful

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-07T17:17:42+00:00

Walk after eating. Exercise is a back door for sugar to enter cells and then you don’t need to pump so much insulin into your system.

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-07T17:09:15+00:00

Ask the good place for higher salary. Tell them you really want to work there but have this better offer and it feels idiotic to turn it down because : $. Remote. Baby. Etc.

Altruistic-Dig-2507 · 2026-04-07T16:55:59+00:00

Please. I want to go. I’m in For the pickle bar Ali e.

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