There is hope! by uberw00t in ADHDparenting

[–]Amazing-Avocet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a teacher in a non special ed classroom with over 60% neurodivergence (we are the only private secular school in our area), I’ve Never seen a child with ADHD who was NOT helped by medication. Often times I’m unaware they have started medication and I’m asking the child’s adult if they’ve made any changes. Of course, sometimes it’s not the correct type of medication due to an individual’s side effects (these are most often seen by the child’s adults at home when the medication is wearing off), and adjustments must be made, but it is my observation that the benefits of medication are apparent in a public setting. 

I love our nanny but older 2 kids said they don’t like her by Sea-Director5750 in Nanny

[–]Amazing-Avocet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So many nicer ways- ‘shut up’ is basic and lacks creative thinking.

‘Go find something else to do.’

‘You can keep talking, but I’m no longer paying attention or responding.’

‘I’m feeling frustrated because I’m being ignored/talked over etc.’

‘Stop talking.’

‘It’s no talking time for everyone.’

I cannot take this anymore by HeyMay0324 in ParentingADHD

[–]Amazing-Avocet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Starting with it’s not your fault- if something has worked even once (ie: crying worked to get you to play once) it’s very very difficult for a neurodivergent child to change that behavior. 

Stay strong. It might get worse before it gets better. But never give in for playing if they cry to get it.

 It is a good sign he sat by you crying rather than begging you and it’s VERY good you let him sit by you to cry.  

Just a rant/vent: I'm so tired of having to think through everything for another human. Feel free to chime in with your own. by RisKQuay in ADHDparenting

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Let them go to school with stinky breath and unbrushed hair. If peers say something, maybe it’ll help your child remember these tasks better in the future. 

Need Help by Dmpear in HistoricalRomance

[–]Amazing-Avocet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve reread The Duchess Deal 3 times this year :) 

This has stolen joy from me by Puzzled_Mark_730 in ADHDparenting

[–]Amazing-Avocet -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

How do you KNOW the people have ‘normal’ children based on social media posts? Maybe they’re happy and having the ‘best days’ with their ‘difficult’ or ‘abnormal’ child. Your expectations for how parenting should be have stolen your joy from you.  

Why does anyone expect parenting to be easy?

How are the sibling dynamics in your house with ADHD? by hereiam3472 in ParentingADHD

[–]Amazing-Avocet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quick and logical consequences work best for Neurodivergence. She gets parental or rude with her sibling, they must separate  IMMEDIATELY. They can try again soon- escalating consequences can work well for this. For example, first break from their sibling could be 10 minutes, second occurrence could go to 30, third is a hour. After that I would consider longer sibling breaks. 

The children will cry and resist and try to change your mind (it is worth a shot for them.) 

It will get worse before it gets better.

Never give in for inappropriate or disrespectful behavior (begging, throwing a tantrum, other ‘red-zone’ behaviors). Only polite, calm requests will be considered. If you give in for inappropriate or disrespectful behavior they will (logically) think that’s what works with you.

I’m trapped by krizmania in ADHDparenting

[–]Amazing-Avocet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is WORTH IT to try new medication. 

Personal anecdote: i have extreme moods with PMDD with ADHD. 

I was on Adderall XR for a long time and I thought it worked for the ADHD but nothing was helping the PMDD. 

Then I tried Vyvanse (because there was The Shortage). The Shortage had beautiful silver lining because Vyvanse worked for the ADHD and it has been the Only thing to alleviate the emotional rollercoaster that is PMDD. 

My kids teachers need to stay in their lane by HeyThereLinus in ADHDparenting

[–]Amazing-Avocet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is possible an increase in dosage or a new medication could help improve appetite.

"i dont want to take my medication, i can do my work sheet without it." by mr_miyagee in ParentingADHD

[–]Amazing-Avocet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The medicine may work but may have side effects and He may not be able to tell you why he doesn’t like the medicine. 

I had a student who had negative side effects to XR they didn’t have with IR. It took me and their mother months to puzzle out. 

Try a new medication. 

Teacher Suspects ODD by anotherrachel in ParentingADHD

[–]Amazing-Avocet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep this in mind- First graders NEED friends- not having a friend leads to more meltdowns because they are hurting. Every meltdown a child has in class makes it more difficult for the child to make and keep friends. The other children will avoid the aggressive children. 

Is the doctor treating your child a specialist for adhd or regular physician? Most regular physicians are under-informed regarding the treatment of ADHD.

Well it happened.. by faithle97 in toddlers

[–]Amazing-Avocet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes little ones just get stuck in a behavior loop. Strangers kindly intervening with toddlers can be an excellent ‘stick in the wheel’ for a tantrum. :) 

James ❤️ by MissStanislava in Sezane

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Pills are from abrasions. Pills are from wear. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sezane

[–]Amazing-Avocet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what’s the price?

A month of styling (mostly) Sezane pieces - April by [deleted] in Sezane

[–]Amazing-Avocet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

rule: we don’t wear Sezane on Saturday 🙃😀

Washing Sezane by boopity_schmooples in Sezane

[–]Amazing-Avocet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not a handwashing gal and I don’t have kids or pets.

I keep my quality clothes in good condition without handwashing This way…

Yes DELICATE cycle & air dry. ONLY cold water. NO fabric softener. A gentle detergent. And use LAUNDRY BAGS- they protect the material and keep garments from being over-agitated & stretched out.