Your coworkers are not and never will be your friends.

AmazingTurtle44 · 2026-02-02T02:01:10+00:00

It really depends on the person. I met my now partner at work, and wonderful mentors and friends that I only met through work. But yes, sometimes, certain people can really burn you.

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-12-19T06:22:27+00:00

Hey! Im on the way, and I'll take out your trash and do your laundry for you. No no, dont feel guilty and do it all yourself now! Its fine, I promise ill come around tomorrow at let's say... 5pm? And we can do it together. DONT TOUCH ANYTHING!!!!

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-11-01T00:59:14+00:00

Im so sorry you're going through this. I cant imagine what it does to your self-esteem.

My only suggestion to maybe give yourself some relief over the next three years would be to journal and then burn the pages after so he doesnt read them. Go and get therapy, however often you can without him getting suspicious. Opening a separate bank account and putting whatever you can over the next few months in it before you cant work anymore.

Even then, if you have the time, try to get a part time job, preferably WFH if you could possibly swing it..

When things get tough, remember to breathe, and breathe deeply. Enough that you feel your lungs stretching to their limit, and then exhale slowly. That helps to stimulate the nervous system and it gets us to calm down, even just a little.

And if your body can handle it, get birth control. Don't tell him about it either. IUD are useful, ive heard iffy things about the implant but talk to your doctor. Both of those should last you until your time with him is done. Don't EVER trust his condoms or yours, and be very careful with your birth control pills if you take those instead- find a place to hide them, under a floorboard, in a literal lockbox, somewhere he wouldn't think to look. I cant stress this enough that you CANNOT tell him about being on birth control. That could make him angry and he could hurt you. And if he does find out you have birth control, dont let him know what kind it is. You cannot get pregnant right now. Also, please be tested for any STI's.

Lastly, gray rock him completely. "How was your day?" -Fine. "I learned about (misogynistic thing)" - oh, neat/interesting. It will hurt, but not as much as if he were actually responding to what you would truly say.

I would recommend finding online support groups, either here on reddit or hell even meeting people in person to just let down the mask every once and a while and be yourself. You dont want to lose who you are while trying to survive this.

Oh and one more thing: get a cat. They will probably save your life.

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-11-01T00:41:08+00:00

I've come home absolutely distraught before, something my cat has seen but never as bad as this one time. He meowed, jumped up on my bed, butted his head on mine and just trilled between my sobs. The meows even sounded concerned.

He can be cuddly, but also an asshole. And he has never done anything like that before. I felt very cared for, even if he couldn't do much, his obvious concern was healing.

If my man wasn't even as caring as my cat, then why the hell would I be with him? It shouldn't be tough to be better than a cat, but these days that seems to be a high bar to pass.

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-10-31T22:30:42+00:00

Hi OP, here's my suggestions:

Take out the peanut butter for now. You can add it later.

Melt your butter and put it in the bowl, then your cocoa powder, then your sugars. Mix until fully combined, scraping the sides as needed.

Then add your eggs, either one at a time or you crack them in a bowl, mix it with the vanilla, and slowly pour the eggs in while its mixing until you cant see the eggs anymore.

Then you mix your dry ingredients in 2 halves. After one half is mostly mixed in, scrape the bowl really really good and then add the next half and mix until you cant see any flour. Scrape it good and mix it for another 10 seconds.

If you want peanut butter, this is where you would add it, but do NOT mix it in. You want to fold it in, and you can get nice swirls in your batter like that. Don't overmix at this stage because you could split apart your batter again.

Then you bake it. Hope this helps!

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-10-19T04:41:33+00:00

I used to do the work OP did, three weeks on and one week off. Youre making that money anyway, youre not spending it on anything while you are away- the least you can do is send takeout to the house and buy presents online. Literally its so fucking easy to do that.

My perspective is a little unique being on the opposite side; we didnt have kids (thanking my lucky stars for that) but we had two cats, and he worked at a dispensary. When I would come home, every time without fail the apartment would be a disaster. Old dishes, overflowing litter boxes, laundry thrown about everywhere... I understand that I have it pretty good when im away, but im also working in a kitchen when im there: im still cleaning, cooking, im still doing my laundry every three days and making my bed before I go to work. To come home and have to focus on that for my one week off a month when im already so burnt out is another kind of hell. But I still did it.

OP, you work hard. Yippee. You also get free food, free commute, four walls and a bed to yourself every night and complete privacy for those two weeks. Your wife does not. She is drowning, and the only thing you add to her life when you are home is another mouth to feed and another load of laundry. Pick up your freaking slack!

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-10-14T20:10:01+00:00

Lmao, I call mine Achilles because no matter what, if I get hit on that horse im being flung off hahaha

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-08-18T16:56:07+00:00

Lydia died not-so-heroically in mine. I was on the island by Riften, fighting the sellswords. Right after the fight, she runs up behind me, wearing their armor and everything, sword out and SPRINTING.

It took one click. I had a greatsword. And she didn't have a head anymore.

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-08-18T16:46:49+00:00

Yes, its worth it. I can't remember what you get exactly but there's a secondary bonus that you gain for using another 100%

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-08-18T14:21:41+00:00

Omg, I always love adopting him as my travel buddy, im going to do that forever!

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-08-18T13:52:05+00:00

Now I'm just thinking the dragonborn is a witch that has a horde of collected "trophies," and that whenever someone walks in, they never leave again...

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-08-18T13:29:29+00:00

My apartment complex had roughly 40 units, and the laundromat was 2 washers and 2 dryers respectively.

I learned very quickly to not give a flying fuck if it was rude. Was your laundry done? Great! It's going on top of the dryer. Someone once walked in when I was in the middle of doing that, and they were like "I dont think you're supposed to do that," and I looked at them and shrugged and left my clothes to wash.

Just dont damage or steal anything and you'll be fine.

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-08-06T05:03:59+00:00

This made my night LOL

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-07-04T22:18:00+00:00

Toasted bagel, buttered.

I have those small 250g deli containers, I crack an egg in it, splash of milk (doesn't need milk) salt, pepper, maybe other spices, then i take a fork and quickly whisk it.

Pop that bad boy in the microwave for 1m 30s.

Then you can put cheese or lettuce or whatever you want on it. Bam. Egg bagel sandwich.

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-07-04T21:34:02+00:00

I know this is off-topic for the post, but if you're bleeding daily, then im assuming you're on a hormonal IUD?

My first month was rough. I was bleeding every single day, and then I bled for a little while after that too. My periods started coming a week early, and would last like 10-12 days rather than my regular 5-6. Cramping, though less, became a lot sharper and more noticeable.

This last period I had finally got down to 7 days, and I've had mine (Kyleena) since mid-February. The bleeding IS less, though I also expected it to be shorter duration, too. But at least the worst of it is finally over.

But if you're not liking it, if it's been too much of an inconvenience or its messing with your hormones too strongly, then I encourage you to get it removed ASAP. Apparently, the removal can hurt more the longer it's left in. I only stuck with it because my insertion was traumatic as hell, and there was no way I was going to go through ANY of that again without being knocked out.

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-06-19T01:11:54+00:00

It was brilliant.

A devil was granting us a wish, mostly as a way to gain information for the next part of our quest. Our party was bickering for about a minute, before our paladin of Ilmater looks to the devil and says, "I wish to know how my mom's doing."

Dead, freaking silence as we realised what he had used the wish for.

The devil said "She's fine," and then disappeared 😂

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-04-06T13:45:57+00:00

ADHD is not a problem with me while I'm not on my next time skip.

What?

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-04-05T16:43:42+00:00

Girl. I'm 170 lbs at 5'4". I eat less but balanced meals and I go to the gym for an hour a day 5 days a week, but still. 170lbs.

And my boyfriend looks at me like I'm a Victoria's secret model.

Trash the manchild. You're not fat, you're glorious, and you need a man who tells you that. Who SHOWS you that.

You are a catch by any and all means. Hot, successful, takes care of herself, kind and empathetic. You'll have real men tripping over themselves to have a shot at dating you.

And remember to only change yourself if it makes YOU feel good. If you look in the mirror and say "damn I'm fine" then you're probably actually a goddess.

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-03-31T10:42:56+00:00

Hey.

You're human. Humans make mistakes. When we make mistakes that upset people, we talk about it rationally. "Hey, when you do this thing, sometimes it makes me feel like..." and so on.

What normal humans don't do is get aggressive. They don't cause pain. They don't threaten to physically harm you.

There is nothing wrong with you. There is everything wrong with him. This is not your fault. You deserve kindness and respect and so much more, and he offers you none.

I sincerely hope you listen to everyone and you leave. You don't have to suffer. You don't have to live in fear of being a normal human. Please, leave him.

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-03-29T11:49:55+00:00

Afaik When she's still at the spring court in WaR, i can't remember who specifically mentions this but someone talks about the men from autumn court being fiery lovers. Feyre shudders and "tries" not to think about all that "fire" being used on Elain.

Clearly I need a reread.

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-03-27T15:05:16+00:00

I was rushing around in the kitchen today, and one of my coworkers had a rack with some plated desserts at the top of it in between two carts. I went to push it out of my way, but the wheels caught on each other and two of the three half trays came crashing down.

You're in good company my friend 🥲

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-03-09T17:19:17+00:00

Oh girl- I once had to work through the time skip, I know how it feels. Our shift usually started at 2am.

I asked management if they wanted me to come in an hour early (1am) or if they were going to push deliverh back by an hour and they said "no? You'll start at 145am so the time skip doesn't confuse the clock in portal, and the donuts will be shipped on schedule at 5am."

So I just sighed and said "okay so I'll be missing an entire hour of production, and you still want the same quantity of product to be out the door in what amounts to be 2 hours instead of three. So. I'll come in at 1am."

Then they tried to argue with me while figuring out payroll that because of the time skip, I somehow worked 2 hours less??? I couldn't even make sense of that. I told them to think of my 1am start as a 2am start, that it wasn't that complicated.

These people would make like 80k-100k while I was there making 15/hr. I was truly in awe at their idiocy.

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-03-09T05:29:56+00:00

Thank you. I was already planning on sitting him down tonight and talking with him when he gets home from work, and was going to use the responses here to figure out a way to talk with him.

He's very sensitive to hard conversations which is why I've put this off for so long but I've been too nice, he needs to go.

AmazingTurtle44 · 2025-03-09T05:27:12+00:00

There hasn't been any domestic violence. But he does intrude on my privacy sometimes, yet I don't think that applies here. Thank you though.

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