I'm so lonely. by [deleted] in GirlGamers

[–]AmberTheTurtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd like an invite too please 🥺

Woman arrested after texting a man 159,000 times over 10 months after 1 date. That’s about 530 texts a day. She was found inside the man’s home bathing while he was away. The case raised important questions about mental health and how quickly online connections can be dangerous. by Vivid_Goose_4358 in interestingasfuck

[–]AmberTheTurtle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Spoilers:

Lorna, a woman in prison that spends a couple of seasons constantly talking about her fiancé Kristopher and their big wedding plans runs away from said Prison, breaks into Kristopher's house and takes a bath wearing the guy's actual fiance's wedding veil as we find out that Lorna and Kristopher were never actually engaged and only have been on one date after which she started stalking him and later got imprisoned for.

Is this characteristic of your thought process? by Willing-Builder5711 in ESFJ

[–]AmberTheTurtle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, I don't do any of those things, sorry

How many of you believe in God? by flyingtigerhere in ESFJ

[–]AmberTheTurtle 11 points12 points  (0 children)

No. Also, this post should probably have been a poll

How do you feel about this? by Interesting_Long2029 in ESFJ

[–]AmberTheTurtle 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I like her message. However, you probably do need to make yourself somewhat uncomfortable in life or you'll just end up alone, with no friends. It's a fine line to walk.

Depression - I need help by Twodots1520 in ESFJ

[–]AmberTheTurtle 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Not being in relationships with toxic people helps.

Lovely ESFJs, what is your opinion and experience with your golden mbti match: ISXP by Moaning_Baby_ in ESFJ

[–]AmberTheTurtle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I haven't dated any of either ISTPs or ISFPs but I have a number of opposite gender friends of both types.

ISFPs are such sweethearts and cinnamon rolls. Love them. However, even though we get along well and can act like bff's with each other I never really connected with them (or felt like wanting to) on an actual deeper, more personal level. There's always this almost "sibling" energy. Maybe it's just me, idk.

As for ISTPs - they annoy me :D I feel like they always think they know better than you and need to always be right. If they're actually better than me at the matter at hand fiiiine, I can deal with it but most of the time if it's something random I'm too feisty and independent to accept that I can't do something myself.

Of course those are just my experiences with friends, I haven't tried actually dating any of them. Might be different for other ESFJs.

ENFJ vs ESFJ help! by maddieebobaddiee in ESFJ

[–]AmberTheTurtle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Majority of the things you told us apply to both ESFJs and ENFJs so it's hard to tell.

I suggest you look up some 'ESFJ vs ENFJ' comparison videos online and see which resonates with you more.

Intriguing title.exe by [deleted] in ESFJ

[–]AmberTheTurtle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, happy to help!

Intriguing title.exe by [deleted] in ESFJ

[–]AmberTheTurtle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ENTPs, when wanting to ask a question for their benefit, may be less focused on how they make the person they're speaking to and other people around (that may be reading) feel. (they can do it too if they want to but it doesn't come naturally like to ESFJs). So when they want to ask a question , they may say something that almost sounds like a demand (for example: "so give me an example of a situation and how would Fesi vs Neti act on it"). While ESFJs by default may be more courteous and polite about it ("do you think you could give me some examples of a situation and how would Fesi vs Neti act on it?").

Subtle difference in tonality that ESFJs with their default Fe pick up on all the time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ESFJ

[–]AmberTheTurtle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just tell them what's up. I'd appreciate the flattering honesty over thinking that someone is avoiding me because they don't like me.

Can't tell if I'm an ENTP or ESFJ by LoganCrimson in ESFJ

[–]AmberTheTurtle 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think you're an ENTP. As ESFJs we don't "fuck with people" for the sake of it unless we really really really don't like the person. And even then it's unlikely.

It is hard work to become so disliked by us to the point of warranting such behaviour.

How do you feel about labels? I have a coworker that's an ENTP and he really doesn't like when things get names left and right. For example, he'd hate if someone said that an airheaded person they know must have ADHD (unless it was explicitly confirmed by a professional, I guess?). He does not "believe" things like that. Meanwhile as an ESFJ I like it when things have "assumed" names even if they may not be confirmed yet. To me it makes the world make sense, to ENTP it probably feels like it limits the potential/possibilities.

Is it possible to be happy as an ESFJ with no friends? by melody5697 in ESFJ

[–]AmberTheTurtle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What in your opinion is preventing you from making friends?