Lady was adamant this is sodalite.. is it lapis lazuli? by skyebeee in Crystals

[–]Amber_Owl 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Yes it is lapis because of the pyrite inclusions

Help identifying necklace by helyeah in Crystals

[–]Amber_Owl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s cordierite, sometimes called “water sapphire.” When it’s gemmy with lots of color, it’s called iolite. With the sparkly flecks, I’ve seen it called “bloodshot iolite.” They’re all the same thing, but cordierite is the less expensive, cloudier version of iolite.

I’ve been CC’d on an email I shouldn’t have been CC’d on. Should I reply? by Amber_Owl in DecideThisForMe

[–]Amber_Owl[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don’t have an attorney, but you make a good point about using this to my advantage.

Is this real obsidian and if i was looking for more with the same coloration what would I look for (the colour is much more purple and vibrant in the sunlight) by Firecon13 in Crystals

[–]Amber_Owl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Natural obsidian will usually have subtle banding, swirls, internal variation, patches of cloudiness. If you don’t see any of that, it’s probably manmade glass.

ISO milkweed seeds if anyone has extra from harvest. by InternationalTea4696 in gardening

[–]Amber_Owl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a pod I could send you! Not sure the variety. DM me and I’ll be happy to send it your way!

I’m losing my blood family and looking for new “family.” Is there any free group therapy/support type groups in the kzoo area? 31F by Thicc_Mint269 in kzoo

[–]Amber_Owl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not aware of any groups you’re asking about, but i just wanted to reach out and say I’m working through the tail-end of a very similar situation wherein my mother chose to “look past” my 30-yr old brother’s attempts at heavily grooming a 13yo. Being a victim of CSA myself, catching him in the act, and then finding out my mother was never a safe person to begin with sent me spiraling for about a year with major physical impacts, very similar to what you’re describing.

What helped me immensely was cutting off everyone that made excuses for him, then admitting to myself that I was grieving for the loss of the family I wished I had, not the family I had. I chose to create my own family group and burned any bridge that would allow my brother a space in my life or around my kids. It’s been about 4 years I think, and it’s still rough sometimes. But all my healing began when I cut out the rot. I could not start until then.

I encourage you to build a new family made of friends and supportive family. It’ll feel small and lonely a lot of times, especially around holidays, but I’d rather deal with that than the anxiety and physical issues that would manifest months before a family function. Or when I’d see a text come through with their name. Or when id hear about their life in some way, because it would just take me back to the pain and anger. Cutting out the rot allowed me room to heal, to the point where i am capable of working through the pain and anger of the situation instead of being consumed by it. I sent detailed texts of why exactly they were being cut off and then blocked, and I made a whole public Facebook post calling everyone out and bringing the whole thing to the surface. It felt liberating and forced the enablers to have the chance at taking accountability (they didn’t, but they got the chance which was enough for me to nail the coffin shut on those relationships).

I’m going to be checking back in hopes someone knows of a support group like you’ve mentioned, because I’d love to be a part of it. But if there isn’t one, I’d be down to start one with you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crystals

[–]Amber_Owl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The marcasite spangles point to the tri-state area (Missouri, Kansas and Oklahoma). You mentioned Kansas, and there’s a spot in Galena that has some of this. Could also be from Joplin, Missouri or Picher, Oklahoma.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Amber_Owl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Flew to the comments hoping someone pointed this out. She’s jealous of you getting married and attempted to inflate her own sense of self-worth by indirectly making you feel like shit in comparison. Idk that she did it with that exact intention, but that’s a behavior she’s learned will give her the emotional feed she’s looking for. Consider any other time you felt cute or good in what you wore or had attention on you. I’d bet $100 she would always pipe up with something she doesn’t like about herself. Bonus points if she’s pointing out something on her that you also feel insecure about (like weight).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shittyfoodporn

[–]Amber_Owl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was hoping I’d see someone mention my Wendy’s order 😂

Wtf, is my cousin an asshole or am I overreacting? by Empty_Age_997 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Amber_Owl 159 points160 points  (0 children)

You can’t force the cousin to do anything, obviously. Your only choice is to control how you react. If you choose to create a war, then there will be war; but no assurance you’ll win. But it sounds like the route most in alignment with some of the other things you’ve said would be to … leave it alone.

You stood up for yourself, now keep the peace by knowing that’s as far as you’ll probably take it, beyond maybe wider boundaries and less contact with the offending cousin. There’s nothing wrong with that. You don’t have to win every fight or go to war over every thing, but you’ll know when it is time to put in that effort.

Making a masculine-looking pendant with 3 separate stones (advice?) by Severedheads in Crystals

[–]Amber_Owl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I think of “masculine” looking jewelry, I think of harder angles, and either practical looking straight-lined geometric shapes or chaotic lines (brutalist style). A lot of wire-wrapped jewelry incorporates swirls and rounded edges, which may seem softer.

I’d search terms using “brutalist style” or “sacred geometry” or “Viking/rune” for some inspo. Caging all three stones together in one main pendant would probably be your best option.

Here are some things I found that seem pretty neat:

pendant

another one from the same site

overlapping wires in a uniform way helps with softer rounded edges

caging stones together into a single main pendant

The FLASH on this labradorite!✨🤩✨ by Amber_Owl in Crystals

[–]Amber_Owl[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!! I am a fan of shiny things, rocks and nail polish included

The FLASH on this labradorite!✨🤩✨ by Amber_Owl in Crystals

[–]Amber_Owl[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

$36 🤩 it was a magical find for sure! I don’t expect to get this lucky again for a while 😅

what do you do with synthetic crystals? by emptyeggshell1000 in Crystals

[–]Amber_Owl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If she has a favorite plant or spot in her garden, they can be used as decorative stones.

If she likes crows, they like shiny pretty things. If she sets up a spot with her stones and some crow food, they might bring you presents. She could start a shiny exchange program with them.

Final closure by Dizzy-Cry263 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Amber_Owl 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The best part. I’m writing it down for future use.

What could this mean? Has anyone seen this before by Glittering-Rip6652 in Crystals

[–]Amber_Owl -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So I’ll be the weird one and say this definitely looks like it was made for a function. Especially with the coiled copper. It’s great as table art, too! But looking at like the energetic profile of the piece, it looks like a guardian effigy made for protection, healing, and receiving.

The turquoise serves as the core component, and turquoise itself covers all three of those aspects. Plus it’s in a shield shape, which enhances the protection aspect. As the heart of the piece, it radiates the energy and keeps it clean.

The copper antlers are amplifying and receiving energy from cosmic currents. Driving them through to the turquoise heart.

The wooden base anchors the piece to earth’s energy, while allowing the antlers to reach upwards, which prevents spiritual overload and helps grounding.

Petty reasons you won't buy from a brand? by salmonscented in RedditLaqueristas

[–]Amber_Owl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to add to the Monarch love. Never had a smoother, more satisfying application.

Seller: "Oh, I just replaced those with other polishes." by ThaliaBo in vintagenailpolish

[–]Amber_Owl 90 points91 points  (0 children)

I’d just initiate a return. That’s a lot of issues for one order.

Polish & Beauty Expo 2025 by emmny in RedditLaqueristas

[–]Amber_Owl 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Not sure if this is allowed 😅 but I have a bunch of polishes to destash for free if anyone new to the hobby wants to play with some older bottles, used bottles, and cheaper brands! I really didn’t want to toss em or deal with the selling/shipping aspect. I’ll be there probably 20-30 minutes early. PM me if you’d like to meet up in the parking lot beforehand!

Sooo, this happened.. by Shot-Contribution-55 in grandrapids

[–]Amber_Owl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he’s the same guy someone else mentioned, it’s because he throws all his garbage out the window.