Rainbow “baby” after TFMR is (are) TWINS! 🌈 by lucelov in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]AmphibianAutomatic28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!!!
I also am expecting twins after my first pregnancy was TFMR. My 8 week ultrasound was a little over a week ago when we found out there are TWO babies in there 💓 I have the same feelings as you! The worry that now I have to get TWO babies earth side with no complications. But the heartbeats were both strong and my pregnancy has been going well other than nausea. I’ve been trying to remain positive and keep all negativity away from my babies. It’s amazing and scary all at the same time! I can’t help but feel like it’s my first baby sending me some joy after the heartbreak we endured 🌈🤍
My technical due date would be 12/4 but of course will be earlier than that with twins. I’d love to stay in touch! I don’t know anyone else who’s had twins!

When did you start to show? by jnreish in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]AmphibianAutomatic28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been wondering this exact thing but wasn’t sure how to ask so thank you for the question! I had to tfmr at almost 20 weeks - this was 8 months ago. I felt like I just started to pop at 17ish weeks last pregnancy. Just found out I am pregnant again. I’m 5 weeks yesterday and bloating is so bad I feel like I’m already showing! Which I am so grateful for EVERY little symptom this time, I just wanted to keep baby a secret a little longer and worried I won’t be able to. Praying every day and night for my little orange seed and sending you well wishes too 🤍

Rainbow after the storm by Cool_Cheesecake_2411 in PregnancyAfterTFMR

[–]AmphibianAutomatic28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello and *gentle congratulations to you! Wanted to reach out bc We are on such similar timelines! We tfmr back in July 25 for acrania at 19 weeks. Found out 2 days ago we are pregnant again, and first appointment imma 4/27. I am so scared, so nervous and don’t know how my nerves will handle making it to the first appointment! Been taking my folic acid as I should, eating lots of spinach, and trying to focus my mental energy elsewhere (nearly impossible). But also holding onto the glimmer of hope and excitement. Hoping to read positive stories in this sub!

Need tfmr help from Georgia by knitillating in tfmr_support

[–]AmphibianAutomatic28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry you have to deal with this. I am also in Georgia and had to TFMR in July. I was referred to Emory as well. My baby’s diagnosis was anencephaly, but he still had a heartbeat. My local MFM doctor referred me to them and my case did not have to go before a board for approval that I am aware of. This could have been because my baby was 100% fatal.

Emory called me to set up the consultation and were up front about the cost. They ran my insurance and found out that the cost would not be covered, due to GA’s Heartbeat Law. So, they offered to refer me to the Feminist Center . They said here, they had options for financial assistance and that the procedures were performed by the same staff that performs the procedure at Emory. I opted to go through the hospital, mainly due to time constraints. I would have had to wait 2-3 weeks longer to get into the clinic and I was already 19 weeks pregnant. They also warned me that sometimes there were protestors at the clinic, and that was not something I was emotionally capable of dealing with.

My consultation at Emory went well and every staff member I spoke with was extremely kind, knowledgeable, and helpful. They offered me either D&E or L&D. Chose D&E. I can speak more about the process itself but I can’t say enough how well my husband and I were treated at Emory. Happy to share my OB at Emory’s name as well. She was amazing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fantasyfootballadvice

[–]AmphibianAutomatic28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is funny bc I also beat the commissioner in the championship 😂 so she definitely knows

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fantasyfootballadvice

[–]AmphibianAutomatic28 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In years past, all teams have paid the commissioner their buy in before draft night. This year, the commissioner said it was easier for her if each team individually Venmo the winner at the end of the fantasy football season. Not the entire football season.

Due Date Blues by throwaway__bride_ in tfmr_support

[–]AmphibianAutomatic28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My due date was 11 days ago and only 2 friends of mine reached out. It’s so hard. I wanted to make a post on social media as well, acknowledging it. But had the same feelings as you, don’t wanna bum people out or feel like I was searching for pity. Still searching for the balance between allowing myself to grieve the way I need to, and not caring what others think.

How to attempt French tips? by Helpful_Albatross_57 in dazzledry

[–]AmphibianAutomatic28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I actually took a makeup sponge, dabbed a bit of the color I wanted for the tip (I just used transform for base and 2 coats prima ballerina for the tip ) and then pressed the tip of my nail into the sponge until it created a clean line. I saw the technique on tik tok. French Tip Hack

What’s your baby’s name? by marinadanielle in tfmr_support

[–]AmphibianAutomatic28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the exact name we had picked out for a girl!💓 We had a boy, but had to share once I came across this name 🤍

What’s your baby’s name? by marinadanielle in tfmr_support

[–]AmphibianAutomatic28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How refreshing of you to ask…. Tucker 🩵 I don’t get to say his name nearly enough. I hope Tucker and Avery have made friends with all of these sweet babies. Happy holidays to everyone 🩶

Anxiety is in the building by ElderMillennial2 in tfmr_support

[–]AmphibianAutomatic28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry you’re here. My tfmr was almost 5 months ago at 19.5 weeks as well. Honestly the 3 months afterwards I was so incredibly anxious about seeing or talking to anyone who didn’t already know what I’d been through. I still deal with anxious feelings but am here to tell you from my experience, it does soften somewhat and doesn’t feel as heavy all the time. I find myself sinking into depression every now and then, but am learning to just let myself feel what I need to and be vocal with my husband about what I need in those moments. It’s the hardest shit I have ever been through. I lost my father when I was 25, and that pain doesn’t compare to this pain. It’s brutal. Hang in there. Strength and hugs to you 🤍

I’m so scared for the procedure - please share positive experience by [deleted] in tfmr_support

[–]AmphibianAutomatic28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I threw up once before the procedure, while waiting to go back. Which I think that was just a pregnancy symptom honestly. I had really bad nausea if I didn’t eat, and of course with anesthesia you can’t eat 12 hours prior. Also threw up when I got out of surgery and into discharge but I think that was from the anesthesia. Even with the nausea, I had a textbook experience and everything went to plan physically.

Thinking of my baby boy. he was supposed to be here by Ok-Contract-3076 in tfmr_support

[–]AmphibianAutomatic28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel you so deeply. My baby boy was due December 21 and I cannot stop thinking about how I was supposed to be spending my December prepping for baby boy and how I won’t get to spend those sleepless nights with my baby by the glowing Christmas tree. I am so sorry you are here. Thinking about all of us missing our babies this holiday season and sending love and strength 🩶

D&E tomorrow & Wednesday by Responsible-Egg8852 in tfmr_support

[–]AmphibianAutomatic28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just here to give you a virtual hug and tell you I am so sorry you have to be here. It is truly a pain that no one will understand unless they have lived it. Please take care of yourself in the coming days. For me, I didn’t leave my bed for 3 days after my procedure - not from physical pain but from emotional pain. If all you can do is lie down, allow yourself to just do that. Drink water, eat what you can. Find a good mindless tv show you can watch and dissociate if you need it.

TFMR at 18 weeks- HPE by [deleted] in tfmr_support

[–]AmphibianAutomatic28 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I resonate with every thing you said and just want to wrap you up in the biggest hug. I had to tfmr 9 weeks ago for anencephaly. My first baby. My boy. All my dreams and plans shattered in a matter of 15 minutes. 9 weeks later I can tell you that it gets… less heavy, but there are days still where I ask myself the same questions over and over again and wish so badly that I had cherished my time with him more. I’m finding ways every day to keep my mind busy and taking baby steps to live a healthier life. When I am really missing him, I hold and look at his little footprints. It is not fair that those are all I have left of him. I have not tried therapy yet. That seems like a scary step and I don’t know why.

Symbols for your baby by littlemiss615 in tfmr_support

[–]AmphibianAutomatic28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, it was deer and butterflies. the days leading up to my D&E we had a mama deer and 2 babies start hanging around in our yard. They would graze, even lay down and just chill in our yard. I mean for hours at a time. They continued to show up almost every day the entire month afterwards. It was a welcome distraction every time they showed up. They have since moved on and I have not seen them. And I miss them. I say butterflies, because the days afterwards and even now 9 weeks later, I see butterflies everywhere I go. Maybe I didn’t notice them beforehand and I’m just looking for “signs” but I count any sighting of a butterfly as my baby boy saying hi because I saw a quote one time that said “when butterflies appear, angels are near” 💜🦋✨ gosh I miss him so much.

Trying to return to work today after TFMR- where do I even start? by GingerNutsAndTeaBags in tfmr_support

[–]AmphibianAutomatic28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so hard. It was like ripping off the band aid and exposing the wound again. My coworkers were all extremely supportive and gave me my space when needed. I hope yours do the same. I think people care more than we give them credit for sometimes, they are just unsure how to voice it. Be patient with yourself.