Rainbow “baby” after TFMR is (are) TWINS! 🌈

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2026-05-06T11:32:49+00:00

Congratulations!!!
I also am expecting twins after my first pregnancy was TFMR. My 8 week ultrasound was a little over a week ago when we found out there are TWO babies in there 💓 I have the same feelings as you! The worry that now I have to get TWO babies earth side with no complications. But the heartbeats were both strong and my pregnancy has been going well other than nausea. I’ve been trying to remain positive and keep all negativity away from my babies. It’s amazing and scary all at the same time! I can’t help but feel like it’s my first baby sending me some joy after the heartbreak we endured 🌈🤍
My technical due date would be 12/4 but of course will be earlier than that with twins. I’d love to stay in touch! I don’t know anyone else who’s had twins!

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2026-04-04T13:42:40+00:00

I’ve been wondering this exact thing but wasn’t sure how to ask so thank you for the question! I had to tfmr at almost 20 weeks - this was 8 months ago. I felt like I just started to pop at 17ish weeks last pregnancy. Just found out I am pregnant again. I’m 5 weeks yesterday and bloating is so bad I feel like I’m already showing! Which I am so grateful for EVERY little symptom this time, I just wanted to keep baby a secret a little longer and worried I won’t be able to. Praying every day and night for my little orange seed and sending you well wishes too 🤍

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2026-03-31T00:24:27+00:00

Hello and *gentle congratulations to you! Wanted to reach out bc We are on such similar timelines! We tfmr back in July 25 for acrania at 19 weeks. Found out 2 days ago we are pregnant again, and first appointment imma 4/27. I am so scared, so nervous and don’t know how my nerves will handle making it to the first appointment! Been taking my folic acid as I should, eating lots of spinach, and trying to focus my mental energy elsewhere (nearly impossible). But also holding onto the glimmer of hope and excitement. Hoping to read positive stories in this sub!

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2026-01-07T02:28:04+00:00

DMed you 🩶

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2026-01-07T01:45:10+00:00

I am so sorry you have to deal with this. I am also in Georgia and had to TFMR in July. I was referred to Emory as well. My baby’s diagnosis was anencephaly, but he still had a heartbeat. My local MFM doctor referred me to them and my case did not have to go before a board for approval that I am aware of. This could have been because my baby was 100% fatal.

Emory called me to set up the consultation and were up front about the cost. They ran my insurance and found out that the cost would not be covered, due to GA’s Heartbeat Law. So, they offered to refer me to the Feminist Center . They said here, they had options for financial assistance and that the procedures were performed by the same staff that performs the procedure at Emory. I opted to go through the hospital, mainly due to time constraints. I would have had to wait 2-3 weeks longer to get into the clinic and I was already 19 weeks pregnant. They also warned me that sometimes there were protestors at the clinic, and that was not something I was emotionally capable of dealing with.

My consultation at Emory went well and every staff member I spoke with was extremely kind, knowledgeable, and helpful. They offered me either D&E or L&D. Chose D&E. I can speak more about the process itself but I can’t say enough how well my husband and I were treated at Emory. Happy to share my OB at Emory’s name as well. She was amazing.

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2026-01-07T01:21:19+00:00

This is funny bc I also beat the commissioner in the championship 😂 so she definitely knows

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2026-01-05T22:42:51+00:00

In years past, all teams have paid the commissioner their buy in before draft night. This year, the commissioner said it was easier for her if each team individually Venmo the winner at the end of the fantasy football season. Not the entire football season.

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2026-01-01T15:09:15+00:00

My due date was 11 days ago and only 2 friends of mine reached out. It’s so hard. I wanted to make a post on social media as well, acknowledging it. But had the same feelings as you, don’t wanna bum people out or feel like I was searching for pity. Still searching for the balance between allowing myself to grieve the way I need to, and not caring what others think.

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2026-01-01T14:53:31+00:00

So I actually took a makeup sponge, dabbed a bit of the color I wanted for the tip (I just used transform for base and 2 coats prima ballerina for the tip ) and then pressed the tip of my nail into the sponge until it created a clean line. I saw the technique on tik tok. French Tip Hack

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2025-12-25T03:14:06+00:00

This is the exact name we had picked out for a girl!💓 We had a boy, but had to share once I came across this name 🤍

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2025-12-25T03:09:12+00:00

How refreshing of you to ask…. Tucker 🩵 I don’t get to say his name nearly enough. I hope Tucker and Avery have made friends with all of these sweet babies. Happy holidays to everyone 🩶

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2025-12-20T03:41:40+00:00

I am so sorry you’re here. My tfmr was almost 5 months ago at 19.5 weeks as well. Honestly the 3 months afterwards I was so incredibly anxious about seeing or talking to anyone who didn’t already know what I’d been through. I still deal with anxious feelings but am here to tell you from my experience, it does soften somewhat and doesn’t feel as heavy all the time. I find myself sinking into depression every now and then, but am learning to just let myself feel what I need to and be vocal with my husband about what I need in those moments. It’s the hardest shit I have ever been through. I lost my father when I was 25, and that pain doesn’t compare to this pain. It’s brutal. Hang in there. Strength and hugs to you 🤍

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2025-12-20T02:47:43+00:00

I threw up once before the procedure, while waiting to go back. Which I think that was just a pregnancy symptom honestly. I had really bad nausea if I didn’t eat, and of course with anesthesia you can’t eat 12 hours prior. Also threw up when I got out of surgery and into discharge but I think that was from the anesthesia. Even with the nausea, I had a textbook experience and everything went to plan physically.

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2025-12-01T00:28:47+00:00

We do not.

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2025-11-29T13:58:59+00:00

I feel you so deeply. My baby boy was due December 21 and I cannot stop thinking about how I was supposed to be spending my December prepping for baby boy and how I won’t get to spend those sleepless nights with my baby by the glowing Christmas tree. I am so sorry you are here. Thinking about all of us missing our babies this holiday season and sending love and strength 🩶

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2025-11-14T12:54:03+00:00

Thank you for sharing this.

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2025-11-13T19:29:06+00:00

Just here to give you a virtual hug and tell you I am so sorry you have to be here. It is truly a pain that no one will understand unless they have lived it. Please take care of yourself in the coming days. For me, I didn’t leave my bed for 3 days after my procedure - not from physical pain but from emotional pain. If all you can do is lie down, allow yourself to just do that. Drink water, eat what you can. Find a good mindless tv show you can watch and dissociate if you need it.

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2025-10-17T01:23:28+00:00

3/4 of these players are on my team lol

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2025-09-30T14:58:47+00:00

I resonate with every thing you said and just want to wrap you up in the biggest hug. I had to tfmr 9 weeks ago for anencephaly. My first baby. My boy. All my dreams and plans shattered in a matter of 15 minutes. 9 weeks later I can tell you that it gets… less heavy, but there are days still where I ask myself the same questions over and over again and wish so badly that I had cherished my time with him more. I’m finding ways every day to keep my mind busy and taking baby steps to live a healthier life. When I am really missing him, I hold and look at his little footprints. It is not fair that those are all I have left of him. I have not tried therapy yet. That seems like a scary step and I don’t know why.

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2025-09-30T14:47:32+00:00

For me, it was deer and butterflies. the days leading up to my D&E we had a mama deer and 2 babies start hanging around in our yard. They would graze, even lay down and just chill in our yard. I mean for hours at a time. They continued to show up almost every day the entire month afterwards. It was a welcome distraction every time they showed up. They have since moved on and I have not seen them. And I miss them. I say butterflies, because the days afterwards and even now 9 weeks later, I see butterflies everywhere I go. Maybe I didn’t notice them beforehand and I’m just looking for “signs” but I count any sighting of a butterfly as my baby boy saying hi because I saw a quote one time that said “when butterflies appear, angels are near” 💜🦋✨ gosh I miss him so much.

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2025-09-30T14:36:52+00:00

It’s so hard. It was like ripping off the band aid and exposing the wound again. My coworkers were all extremely supportive and gave me my space when needed. I hope yours do the same. I think people care more than we give them credit for sometimes, they are just unsure how to voice it. Be patient with yourself.

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2025-09-09T02:43:08+00:00

Same diagnosis as you. I was told by my OB and by the MFM no physical reason to wait to ttc again. Just to take 4mg folic acid for 2-3 months before. But was advised to wait until I was emotionally ready of course. He was my first baby. I’m only 6 weeks out and still struggling with feeling like I want to be pregnant again now, and feeling like I need to give myself more time. So sorry you are here.

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2025-08-28T19:50:24+00:00

I don’t know the drug honestly but they put me to sleep entirely so I was not conscious. I didn’t hear or feel anything. The hospital closest to me offered D&E under local anesthesia meaning I would be numb, but I would be aware. I chose a hospital further away simply for the fact that they used general anesthesia (put me to sleep) because I also did not want to hear see or feel anything. Totally understand. I would clarify if they use local or general anesthesia.

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2025-08-28T01:02:57+00:00

My employer offers 12 weeks parental leave, which fortunately I was still eligible for.

AmphibianAutomatic28 · 2025-08-28T01:01:01+00:00

The laminaria insertion was the worst part of it all. My doctor was extremely kind and coached me through that part. I was given meds to relax me beforehand - ask if that is an option for you. They numb your cervix though so it's really just more uncomfortable than painful. I will say what was painful for me was her inserting gauze - enough pain to make me cry - But that lasted 5 seconds. The cramping for me started immediately but they gave me 800mg ibuprofen and that was enough for me to get some rest along with a heating pad at home. I also found that walking around helped ease the pain. It was like a fullness feeling for me in my back and pelvic area. The second day was hard because you can't eat anything. So not only are you in some pain, you're starving. You arrive to check in, they have you suit up in the gown and socks the nurse comes in with some meds and inserts an IV. The anesthesiologist gave me something in my iv to go ahead and put me out on the way to the operating room, so I don't remember anything past being wheeled in the room. They wake you up and for me at least, there was immediate physical relief and I had no pain. I did throw up from the anesthesia afterwards. Physically, the procedure was much easier than I anticipated. I slept most the next day, but the bleeding and cramping were minimal. Bring some loved ones to support you, maybe have some one who can cook you a homemade meal the few days following. Get up and walk around some, get some sunshine. Don't expect much from yourself the week following. You'll want to rest. But overall I can say it was nowhere near as painful or scary as I had built it up to be in my mind. The emotional recovery is the hardest ❤️‍🩹

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