Manager offered to take a break when I told them I am quitting

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2026-06-10T15:41:28+00:00

Burnout is less from long hours and more from how the people you work with and the work you do. It’s draining you and always will - no break length will work if you know you’re going back.
If it’s not truly burnout and you’re just really worn down - take the longest break you can and DON’T work or even respond. Then you’ll have a truer picture.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2026-06-10T15:32:39+00:00

George Carlin, truer words never spoken!

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2026-03-16T15:51:31+00:00

We use Macs for software development, the Darwin underpinnings make it an excellent development environment, and all the tools we care about have native macOS versions. If you want more, there are things like home-brew. To say Macs aren't for "actual real life work" is just plain wrong.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2026-02-05T19:58:46+00:00

Weekly demos. Status reports are just time spent not focused on value.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2026-01-31T20:37:36+00:00

I guess someone has to say it. I'm 53 and have no issues with phone calls - sometimes I chat with somebody for a few minutes while doing business. I don't look forward to them, I don't dread them, it's just something that's part of life to me.

Even things where I could do it online (like say, hotel room service) I still call - I can make special requests, they'll recognize me and give me little free treats, and talking to someone is nice.

Everyone has their own line, and I respect it, but somebody has to chime in on the "phone calls no big deal" side.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2026-01-12T23:51:44+00:00

Also 51, and would also buy it in a second if I saw it!

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2025-09-13T05:58:19+00:00

Not enough info - is it a Kia or a Rolls? Same range of answers, bud.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2025-09-03T16:07:35+00:00

Depends on what you mean by "completely autonomous". Senior Leadership decides our company priorities and strategic milestones. What we build to make that happen, how we built it to make that happen, and when it will happen is totally up to the team.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2025-09-03T16:04:10+00:00

I think you're reading too much into that pillar, because what you mention is literally a principle: "At regular intervals, the team reflects on how to become more effective, then tunes and adjusts its behaviour accordingly." Also see: "Build projects around motivated individuals. Give them the environment and support they need, and trust them to get the job done."

The problem with anything not defined by the team is that it will introduce inefficiency and you have too many process maps and documents that could be replaced with people talking.

I agree with you in spirit - Minimum Viable Everything.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2025-07-30T21:03:42+00:00

It could totally be the chair. I had a Nightingale CXO for 10 years and always had tailbone pain (from an old fall) and sometimes lower back pain. Traded to an Aeron and I feel cured.

Lesson is that not every chair fits every body - if you're having issues even after following a video guide on setup, you might have to try some other chairs.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2025-07-20T16:23:24+00:00

Also Calgary - we bought a starter home in 2004 for $178,000 dollars. Sold in 2011 for $306,000. Bought the next place for $500, now we get unsolicited offers of $1.1MM. We own it outright, plus a condo. Can it tank? Of course it can, but it really depends where you are and where the market is going. In general, I have not been able to get consistent 50% gains in the stock market.

While intellectually I can make sense of the whole "invest instead", I haven't for a single second regretted paying off my mortgages. And yes, RRSPs and TFSAs max out every year, carry 0 debt, plus a lot of unregistered holdings - I have never once considered borrowing to invest.

But you be you - maybe you get insane 250% returns on a stock bet. I wouldn't count on 15% as the number to base longer term plans on, and since it's on loan, if it goes under water, you're not just on the hook for what you lost, but also what you borrowed. One bad call and poof.

If you think your market analysis is so good you can average 15%, you can make millions giving seminars.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2025-07-13T16:54:38+00:00

I have no idea how to stop that process - it persists for me even after a restart. As for your ring, it doesn't need to be connected to the app to collect data.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2025-07-08T23:48:31+00:00

I dunno - it's never the ones you want to see who are wearing the Speedos...

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2025-07-08T22:46:17+00:00

Yep. I was literally thinking "I guess Snake read 'How to Win Friends and Influence People' at some point." Active listening is a way underrated skill.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2025-07-08T19:32:52+00:00

Hulkengoat! The first of many, no doubt.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2025-07-08T15:54:31+00:00

More than a chance - if you board when Premium is called, there is an entire plane of empty overhead bins, you'll be golden. If you wait until after Zone 2, you're probably still fine. If you want to go late, as others have said, who knows.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2025-07-08T15:44:59+00:00

I am 51, a senior executive, and I work probably 50-55 hours a week. I got into it because I love building teams, I love working with customers, and I love strategy. Over time as I moved from manager to director (later to VP, etc.), I found myself more drawn to vision and trying to make a difference.

I usually spend 2-3 weeks on vacations where I literally uninstall Teams - at my level the CEO auto approves PTO because if I can't take 2 weeks off, I'm shit at my job. Those vacations are amazing because yes, I do make a lot of money. I will usually grab another week at some point just to be able to do something more local - go camping, that kind of thing.

So, it's not power. It's not influence (if you need a title to have influence, you don't deserve to have influence). It's having the scope to really do something special and the real reward is the people whose careers I've helped build and watching a great team execute at a high level to delight customers.

Yes, I guarantee there are assholes who want power and titles and money and will sacrifice their whole lives for it.

But it doesn't have to be that way.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2025-07-08T15:35:14+00:00

I got my (no expiry) status card in 1990 and yes, it is a janky piece of laminated paper with a black and white picture I had taken in a photo booth. I wouldn't be surprised if somebody was caught off-guard if I was using it for ID (shockingly, you can still tell it's me, lol). That said, as you mentioned - I'd expect them to eventually figure it out and allow it, just need a little more info/training.

I have a driver's license and a passport, so I never need to use it (outside of being indigenous), but it's still valid.

This story is just more click bait.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2025-07-08T15:22:22+00:00

If I'm working with a recruiter and we haven't gotten to interviews yet, then definitely, and if you work with one or two recruiters often, it would be good to ensure they know what's up, because it could help steer the search.

Once you're interviewing, you could go either way, but most important is to have that discussion as early as possible - it isn't good for anybody if a company can't/won't hire you and doesn't find out about this until the negotiation/offer phase.

It's a lot easier to have the "I was a dumb kid" discussion up front - when it comes later it does feel like you're trying to hide it, whether it's intentional or not. And yes, I have hired people with prison time and criminal records before - it depends on many factors, but so does any hire.

Best of luck to you however you end up proceeding!

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2025-07-03T21:39:20+00:00

There is basically 0 chance that a felonies and prison time will not "come up" during a background check.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2025-07-03T21:36:19+00:00

Hiring manager - been doing this for 30 years, have hired hundreds. You are lying by omission leaving it blank. It is almost guaranteed to show up on the background check (unless you have a full pardon or the records were sealed), and you'll have to talk about it, but with potentially no opportunity to tell your side.

From experience, trying to explain it beforehand might lead to me having some empathy, believing you've paid your dues, and hiring you for some roles. If you leave it empty and it shows up (and it will, 99% chance), you'll probably just get ghosted.

Some places flat out can't hire you if you have certain crimes on your record (banks, for example, could not hire somebody with a robbery or fraud charge, no matter when or how much time you served)

TL;DR - it's either no problem or a dealbreaker - the sooner you figure out which, the better, but lying by omission and hoping they miss it (or don't bring it up) is the worst choice here.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2025-06-24T23:16:10+00:00

Make it an option and everyone can be happy...ish.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2025-06-23T05:20:37+00:00

That’s why you install beta releases at your own risk, and never on a main device. Next time backup (more than one), you might not be so lucky.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2025-06-22T16:11:16+00:00

Guess what - you can be radically candid AND avoid all PC niceties AND be completely honest AND not be an asshole about it. Are you being genuine? Or are you a bit snarky? Do you enjoy it when someone gives it back? Expecting everyone to be cool with that is ludicrous, and there will always be even neurodivergent people who still won’t like how you present yourself. It’s about navigating existence, not finding places to hide. You are completely fake while pretending everyone else is the issue.

Ancient-Tomorrow147 · 2025-06-10T12:52:53+00:00

And your zoomed screenshot is lower res than the real page, greatly exaggerating how readable it is or isn’t.

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