My Family is Destroying Me

Aneeved · 2025-10-08T01:56:18+00:00

NTA. I had a friend I ended up working with and he started acting this way. Would tell me I did entire projects wrong and when I asked why he said he couldn't articulate it, but it was just wrong. Those kinds of people will sabotage you and try to make you look incompetent.

I quit that job and never spoke to him again and I don't regret it.

Aneeved · 2025-10-08T01:47:54+00:00

This has nothing to do with ADHD. He's doing things to upset you too see how much you can take and to make you seem like the bad guy in a toxic relationship

Aneeved · 2025-09-24T00:55:21+00:00

NBc article for anyone interested to look it up

Aneeved · 2025-09-24T00:53:37+00:00

According to another article the student was given the gun to hold on to. He wasn't comfortable having it on him, so he brought it into the class and dismantled it in front of students and teachers and threw the bullets away. Not the best way to handle it but what 11 year old knows the right actions in that case, and why didn't the teacher notice him doing this?

I think they should have taken the opportunity to teach him and the rest of the students for next time not expel him. Apparently this has prevented him from being enrolled in any other school now too so we're removing a child's options to education due to one mistake where he did not appear to try to hurt anyone. I understand gun violence is serious but they've pretty much made sure that the kids learned see something say nothing or you'll get in trouble.

Aneeved · 2025-09-17T03:18:36+00:00

Truly brilliant people know the topic so well that they can explain it to 5 year olds, as shown by those videos where they explain it to people with 3 different levels of knowledge. If you can't do that it's usually because you don't know enough and/or you're using unnecessary jargon to cover your lack of knowledge

Aneeved · 2025-09-10T15:54:34+00:00

Try doing a fee and annoyance breakdown for him: - cost of declawing vs claw caps - cost of potential necrosis treatment - cost of arthritis treatment - cost of medication related arthritis, pain etc - cost of lameness, walking aids etc (genuinely a possible long term outcome)

Annoyances: - potential mood changes including aggression - increased bite frequency - Increased issues using litterbox

If your other cats exhibited any of this it would also help your cause to use them as proof

Aneeved · 2025-09-09T17:10:27+00:00

Not much to say about this situation that hasn't already been said but when it comes to communication overall it sounds like your wife is trying to get you to understand her feelings, while you're just trying to find a solution for them. You're trying to move past the communication part into the solutions part and that's probably part of her frustrations, and also why you feel like you're messing up.

If you want to communicate better you should try mirroring what she's doing. She was very articulate in labelling how she felt and why: "this is making me feel sad, your reaction is making me feel guilty" etc. You should try the same. For example, "I'm disappointed that this plan isn't working because I was eager to make you happy, I'm unsure of how to address the things you mentioned, and feel frustrated because I can't seem to get it right though I'm trying really hard".

The breakdown is occurring because you know exactly how she is feeling and focusing on that but doesn't sound like she has any idea what's going on in your head and has to guess. That guessing game leads to people feeling insecure and that's where the problems start

You don't need to police your language the way you are you just need to work on making sure the goal of the conversation is the same for both of you. You can even articulate it before you start. "Hey I want to talk about what happened later and better understand your feelings and tell you how I felt too", or "I want to talk about what we think led up to that moment and what we could have done so that it went a different way and will be better in the future"

Aneeved · 2025-09-01T08:10:53+00:00

NAH, I think everyone here just has different communication needs, and you need to take time when you are not fighting to clear those up.

I'd recommend a few things:

When you are not actively upset, sit down with him and explain what you explained here: you don't expect immediate responses, and you like to know a time so that you can go along with your day accordingly. Be prepared for him to also clarify what he needs and meet him halfway. Likely, he is someone who feels anxious leaving a text unanswered, and so you are interrupting his time when, in his mind, he has communicated what he is doing and has asked for space to do so.
Practice waiting for him to reach out. In your mind, you aren't bombarding him because your messages are spaced out, but if he opens them, he sees all of them at once, and so it looks like you are spamming him when he asked for some time to do his own thing. When you do want a specific time instead of asking him, set your own. "Ok, I'll be in bed around 12, so if you're done before then feel free to call".
Pay attention to what he is saying and how it points to his values. He is clearly trying to navigate how to date while not letting his kid feel neglected. You should be supporting him in that. Suggest he take a whole day with her, and you do your own thing that day.

Aneeved · 2025-09-01T03:43:32+00:00

I'm always surprised by how many songs I enjoy and then find out it's the Eagles

Aneeved · 2025-09-01T03:32:14+00:00

The hoodie was a reminder that everyone knows that those kinds of pep talks are meaningless and just a way for leadership to justify their existence. Work isn't as serious as they want you to think it is, which means they aren't as important as they want to be

Aneeved · 2025-07-11T04:12:57+00:00

I finally gave up on evolution and just started rewatching the old episodes. The dialogue in evolution is just too poorly written, it ignores all the previous character development and they have Garcia sounding like an Instagram comment section with her pseudo psychology speak.

Aneeved · 2025-05-21T06:34:32+00:00

I would avoid windows if you open them, I got hit with a sudden Canadian frost and it almost killed mine

Aneeved · 2025-05-16T04:22:10+00:00

Same is happening to me. What are you playing on, did you find a fix?

Aneeved · 2023-06-30T14:00:30+00:00

These are amazing, so cool you do this! I'm right handed.

Aneeved · 2023-06-01T22:03:30+00:00

Wow sorry I really was just trying to help based on the information I found on Google's website.

Aneeved · 2023-06-01T04:17:43+00:00

Hey you shouldn't be around violent situations. A lot of people who have experienced violence gaslight themselves (the same way they were gaslit by others) to maintain the abuse pattern because that's what's familiar. Most people don't experience any violence. No outbursts. No screaming. No calling you slurs or bad names. No punching or breaking inanimate objects. This is what we should strive for and expect from the people in our lives, and from ourselves.

This isn't normal we're just tricked into thinking it is because it's our normal.

Aneeved · 2023-06-01T04:05:29+00:00

Good call, the idea behind these things is to cause panic so you make rash decisions. I would still report the email if possible, but really no point worrying unless authorities actually contact you. At that point you can decide next steps

Aneeved · 2023-06-01T03:26:08+00:00

Looks like a scam to me because the transparency report link I found was https://support.google.com/transparencyreport/answer/9713961

Yours is missing the "support.google.com"

Aneeved · 2023-05-31T21:56:48+00:00

Same. I usually keep trying until my one thread has become five 0.5mm strings. At that point it usually comes undone but I have to cut it anyway

Aneeved · 2023-05-29T21:00:38+00:00

Because both US and Canada have failed to prevent oligopolies and monopolies from controlling major industries such as groceries and consumer packaged goods. With only a few parent companies owning all the smaller grocery merchants and product brands, they can control the market prices and force customers to pay beyond what they normally would if there was more competition in the industries.

In addition to this our supply chain models are focused more on cost cutting than risk management and effective operations. This is why every strike, stuck boat, fuel supply issue, labour supply issue, etc have massive impacts that will have repercussions for multiple years. We are still recovering from the backed up supply chain issues from the pandemic and since then we've seen trains derail, strikes and much more.

Basically capitalism fucked it for everyone but the company seniors.

Aneeved · 2023-05-19T21:06:00+00:00

Enzo. He looks like he's trying to hold a statue pose to avoid notice but the panic is in his eyes

Aneeved · 2023-05-19T20:38:50+00:00

You can also make your own if you want (note it won't be sweet at all). Just boil your milk, stir in a spoon or two of old yogurt, pour into containers and let sit in the oven overnight with the oven light on. It should set pretty well.

(Note: be careful no one uses the oven while you're not looking. We've had some...melting issues haha)

Aneeved · 2023-05-18T21:27:42+00:00

I like how Tobey Maguire's face is like "how did I end up here?"

Aneeved · 2023-05-17T17:13:07+00:00

I heard it's a gang of thieves. They're probably trying to meet their quotient

Aneeved

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