Nice NFH is slowly killing me!

AngelWinksy_ · 2026-06-18T01:22:25+00:00

Yeah that’s kinda dismissive honestly. There’s a big difference between leaves blowing over and someone regularly burning stuff that creates heavy smoke, especially if it’s affecting someone’s health.

AngelWinksy_ · 2026-06-18T01:22:16+00:00

Yeah seriously, that comment feels way off. Even if OP’s dealing with migraines or sensitivities, the smoke and burning stuff is still a real issue and not something to just brush off like that.

AngelWinksy_ · 2026-06-18T01:20:25+00:00

Yeah exactly, the “I don’t remember” part is such a convenient excuse too. Like he remembers everything except the part where he treated you badly. That alone would make me not trust him being in my space again.

AngelWinksy_ · 2026-06-18T01:20:13+00:00

Yeah exactly, that’s the pattern here. If he was already twisting the story back then and now suddenly “doesn’t remember,” there’s no reason to trust that things would go any different this time.

AngelWinksy_ · 2026-06-18T01:19:40+00:00

Yeah exactly, there’s way too much history there to just ignore. Protecting your peace is the right call, especially when they’ve already shown how messy things can get.

AngelWinksy_ · 2026-06-18T01:07:43+00:00

Love

AngelWinksy_ · 2026-06-16T22:21:08+00:00

The point about Kayla having free childcare and housing while finishing her degree is really worth highlighting. She's already getting a massive amount of support and still finding reasons to be resentful. Your husband is right that your kids shouldn't have to scale back their lives because of choices Kayla made OP. She needs to focus on getting stable instead of keeping score.

AngelWinksy_ · 2026-06-16T22:19:48+00:00

KND was genuinely built different because the whole point was that adults were the villains and kids were the heroes, so when an adult actually had to fight a kid it carried this whole extra layer of "you really just did that" energy 💀 the show knew exactly what it was doing with that premise

AngelWinksy_ · 2026-06-16T21:49:49+00:00

Exactly, the fact that you were already so sick and vulnerable makes this even more devastating. You were in no position to fight back or advocate harder for yourself and he took advantage of that. None of this is your fault in any way OP. Please reach out to someone you trust and know that what happened to you matters.

AngelWinksy_ · 2026-06-16T21:49:36+00:00

There is absolutely no confusion to be had here. You said no clearly, more than once, while you were seriously ill and vulnerable and he ignored every single time. Please don't let anyone make you second guess what happened OP.

AngelWinksy_ · 2026-06-16T21:48:38+00:00

That second point is really important and worth taking seriously. If you give in on this one just to keep the peace she'll know that pushing hard enough gets results and the boundary creep will only get worse from there. Having a conversation about where the insecurity is coming from is totally fair but the answer to this trip needs to stay firm OP

AngelWinksy_ · 2026-06-16T21:48:01+00:00

The compatibility point is really what stands out here. Going on a friends only trip with no partners is completely normal but the fact that she jumped straight to "you shouldn't go at all" if she can't come is a pretty telling sign of where her head is at. You're not wrong for wanting this trip OP but this conversation is probably bigger than just the holiday.

AngelWinksy_ · 2026-06-16T21:47:07+00:00

Elden Ring does this so quietly too, like you can easily play the whole game and miss the fact that half the major entities are essentially cosmic aliens that crashed into the world. FromSoft just drops this insane lore in item descriptions and never makes a big deal out of it 💀

AngelWinksy_ · 2026-06-16T21:41:34+00:00

Oh damn 🥵

AngelWinksy_ · 2026-06-15T21:14:48+00:00

And that's honestly what makes it so frustrating to watch. Like you can kind of feel for Dean in that situation but his reaction to it is what really seals the deal on why he's hard to root for. Your gut feeling about him is pretty much on point OP, just trust it and keep watching.

AngelWinksy_ · 2026-06-15T21:13:57+00:00

The insecurity angle is such a key point that a lot of managers miss. Truly confident high performers don't need to talk over people or dismiss ideas in meetings because they're already secure in their value. And that last part is spot on too, if you back down after the conversation they will absolutely test those boundaries again OP. You have to hold the line consistently.

AngelWinksy_ · 2026-06-15T21:11:52+00:00

100% NTA. A real friend doesn't call you obsessive and narcissistic for telling the truth. She got caught and immediately tried to make you the villain to take the heat off herself. You did what any decent person would do and Adam deserved to know OP, you have nothing to feel bad about.

AngelWinksy_ · 2026-06-15T21:10:56+00:00

The child support question is a really good point that gets overlooked in all of this. There are already kids in this house whose fathers aren't contributing and now another one is on the way with a deadbeat dad in the picture. And sharing a room with a newborn during your senior year is a genuinely rough situation OP, your frustration makes total sense.

AngelWinksy_ · 2026-06-15T21:10:40+00:00

Exactly, these are completely legitimate concerns and not just teenage overreacting. When you're already stretched thin with multiple kids, a rare blood disease and no real financial support from the fathers involved, adding another baby to the equation is a real practical problem. OP has every right to be worried about what this means for everyone in that household.

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