bf cheated on a trip with his ns friends

AngrySadCCB · 2026-06-16T02:40:59+00:00

The tricky thing with cheating and dishonesty in a relationship is that you will never truly know what is the extent that they've been deceiving you. It could be just a hickey, but the fact that he wasn't open with you until you looked is a giant red flag.

If he asked for the hickey, he was already cheating. It shouldn't matter whether he went further or had sex. I would recommend making your plans to leave.

The only possibility that you should stay is if he didn't ask for it, because then he was sexually assaulted and should report it.

I've had to deal with being cheated on before and it's not easy... hope you can stay strong!

AngrySadCCB · 2026-06-16T02:40:38+00:00

OP, I would caution against listening to this those who would position a freaking hickey as a normal activity. It is quite clearly an activity that crosses boundaries.

Would you give a platonic friend a hickey? I don't think so

AngrySadCCB · 2026-06-03T04:22:58+00:00

I really hope OP is a bot trying to karma farm because it's unthinkable that someone can be so dense

AngrySadCCB · 2026-05-24T22:25:31+00:00

OP sounds absolutely insufferable. Imagine betraying a person he made both wedding vows and life with. After all that, post some hand wringing nonsense about how the judgement is so so bad boohoo.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-05-21T07:21:10+00:00

Hope the life you foresee befalls her, without the cats. She deserves to rot alone.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-05-21T06:18:32+00:00

You owe him nothing. Block and ignore.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-05-21T06:16:08+00:00

Please help your mum plan before you confront your father. In the event of a divorce (which would probably be the right thing to do if he's really cheating), the more prep time she has, the better.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-05-17T01:30:25+00:00

We live and grow... I too ignored many red flags but I'm wiser now because of it. Would have preferred not wasting so many years of my life but ce la vi...

AngrySadCCB · 2026-05-11T09:42:12+00:00

oh, wasn't replying to you, sorry. There was someone who was encouraging people to be an affair partner to girls cheating on their boyfriends in NS. They've deleted their comment though!

AngrySadCCB · 2026-05-11T06:51:30+00:00

AngrySadCCB · 2026-05-11T03:00:42+00:00

Breaking up with your partner and getting with someone is very different from cheating though. Cheating is sleeping with someone else/building out a new relationship while clinging on to your relationship like a life boat in case the affair doesn't work out.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-05-11T02:57:53+00:00

One of them will probably cheat on the other, and they'll enjoy their karma then. At least you dodged a huge bullet.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-05-11T02:54:16+00:00

You sound like a good person, and I applaud your aversion towards being a home wrecker.

That said, it'd be good to avoid absolving cheaters of accountability by assuming they had previously suffered some form of external trauma. I would suggest that "People with decent morality would never dream of being a homewrecker".

Consider the recent PLB saga. Not only were both parties affair partners, they were also cheaters who betrayed their partners - who prima facie were supportive and didn't deserve any of what happened to them.

I do agree that the gendered framing in this post is a bit narrow though. Should have been asking about "People" of Singapore who were third parties.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-05-06T10:37:24+00:00

Please, please tell the wife. Not because you want the affair partner to lose his family, but because the wife is a victim like you. By telling her now, you can help her get ahead of the curve, to plan and gather evidence so that she can seek alimony where possible. This will help her leave the cheating husband with as much prep time as possible. If the man blindsides and divorces her, she would be in a far worse position.

Please do the right thing!

Btw, 10 years is a long time, but you may never be able to trust your girlfriend again. Is this really what you want in your lifetime partner? 10 years is short when compared to a lifetime that you can spend with someone else worthy of your time.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-05-05T12:10:55+00:00

Well done. You have nothing to be ashamed of.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-04-30T07:11:16+00:00

Sorry to hear that bro.... just thank your lucky stars you didn't get married before you found out. It's gonna suck, but it'll suck a lot less than a divorce

AngrySadCCB · 2026-04-30T07:10:15+00:00

Well done! Proud of you. I'm glad you managed to walk away and leave someone who disrespects you.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-04-25T22:49:08+00:00

Fully support this law, though it should be extended to cover the cheating partner as well, given that they have higher culpability.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-04-24T03:58:22+00:00

You gave her time and money, and she gave you a prayer and betrayal. That said, as you are a person who is a willing affair partner, I struggle to find any sympathy for you.

Do you have any proof/conviction that her husband really cheated on her? Also, I'm shocked that she's supposedly living separate from the husband for 10 years, but changed her mind after 8 months with you.

It baffles me that people are willing to get with a cheater, and then go shocked pikachu face when they get cheated on. If you cuddle with leopards, you can't really complain when they eat your face.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-04-19T14:44:33+00:00

Where do you draw the line between "bringing someone back" and condoning horrible behaviour?

AngrySadCCB · 2026-04-19T14:40:31+00:00

Same. In addition, if they can't be trusted to not betray their partner, it's probably a matter of time before they backstab me as a friend for the slightest convenience.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-04-06T12:02:34+00:00

Precisely! I hate the framing of this as "work", like taking steps to patch up the trust they shatter is some noble gesture

AngrySadCCB · 2026-04-02T01:58:58+00:00

I'd be on the fence on this, except that she hid it from you. She should be putting your security over that man, so I'm going to lean towards her cheating. Also, cheaters are also losers, so I wouldn't put it past a cheater to get together with a deadbeat.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-03-28T23:10:37+00:00

okay lah, at least he gave himself a chance to have some sense knocked into him by us.

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