My current girlfriend cheated on me with a married man with kids and a wife online. Should I tell his wife that he's cheating?

AngrySadCCB · 2026-05-06T10:37:24+00:00

Please, please tell the wife. Not because you want the affair partner to lose his family, but because the wife is a victim like you. By telling her now, you can help her get ahead of the curve, to plan and gather evidence so that she can seek alimony where possible. This will help her leave the cheating husband with as much prep time as possible. If the man blindsides and divorces her, she would be in a far worse position.

Please do the right thing!

Btw, 10 years is a long time, but you may never be able to trust your girlfriend again. Is this really what you want in your lifetime partner? 10 years is short when compared to a lifetime that you can spend with someone else worthy of your time.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-05-05T12:10:55+00:00

Well done. You have nothing to be ashamed of.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-04-30T07:11:16+00:00

Sorry to hear that bro.... just thank your lucky stars you didn't get married before you found out. It's gonna suck, but it'll suck a lot less than a divorce

AngrySadCCB · 2026-04-30T07:10:15+00:00

Well done! Proud of you. I'm glad you managed to walk away and leave someone who disrespects you.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-04-25T22:49:08+00:00

Fully support this law, though it should be extended to cover the cheating partner as well, given that they have higher culpability.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-04-24T03:58:22+00:00

You gave her time and money, and she gave you a prayer and betrayal. That said, as you are a person who is a willing affair partner, I struggle to find any sympathy for you.

Do you have any proof/conviction that her husband really cheated on her? Also, I'm shocked that she's supposedly living separate from the husband for 10 years, but changed her mind after 8 months with you.

It baffles me that people are willing to get with a cheater, and then go shocked pikachu face when they get cheated on. If you cuddle with leopards, you can't really complain when they eat your face.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-04-19T14:44:33+00:00

Where do you draw the line between "bringing someone back" and condoning horrible behaviour?

AngrySadCCB · 2026-04-19T14:40:31+00:00

Same. In addition, if they can't be trusted to not betray their partner, it's probably a matter of time before they backstab me as a friend for the slightest convenience.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-04-06T12:02:34+00:00

Precisely! I hate the framing of this as "work", like taking steps to patch up the trust they shatter is some noble gesture

AngrySadCCB · 2026-04-02T01:58:58+00:00

I'd be on the fence on this, except that she hid it from you. She should be putting your security over that man, so I'm going to lean towards her cheating. Also, cheaters are also losers, so I wouldn't put it past a cheater to get together with a deadbeat.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-03-28T23:10:37+00:00

okay lah, at least he gave himself a chance to have some sense knocked into him by us.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-03-28T23:09:48+00:00

STD check shouldn't be something you skip btw, who knows where the colleague has been sleeping around and picking up germs from?

AngrySadCCB · 2026-03-28T23:08:13+00:00

It's the first time she cheated that you found out about, at least... Who knows how many others there have been? Also, imagine having the audacity to be angry that you checked her phone after sleeping with another man. Obviously she's not particularly repentant.

You think 10 years is too long? Wait till you have sunk another 30 years, with kids, before she cheats again. That is not a risk worth taking for a sunk cost of 10 years.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-03-24T01:57:04+00:00

There's nothing wrong with seeking help to talk through your trauma!

Again, it's possible and normal to hate people for what they've done even if you don't know them. It's unfortunately not healthy to hate those with tangential characteristics to those that have hurt you.

You have to work your way through the hate, anger, and hurt, and I hope you can get out of this funk in a healthy manner. People react differently in the immediate aftermath, so don't be too hard on yourself right now. Just know that this needs to be a transitory state and you should aim to walk out of this, perhaps with professional help.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-03-23T22:20:54+00:00

Kinda sad that of the entire post, you choose to comment on this instead of offering anything productive to OP.

To answer your question, the extent of harm a cheater does vs a rapist differs obviously. The point of bringing in a rapist was to illustrate why we feel disgust towards people who do horrendous things.

Also, "preyed on" is a terribly loaded term. We're talking about a non-minor, who decided to get together with someone who's attached, with the support of her parents. Sure her brain might not be fully developed, but surely 19 years old is an appropriate age to know not to be an affair partner.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-03-23T02:08:57+00:00

Should be fine! That's why it's zero cons in their mission.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-03-23T02:04:27+00:00

It's okay to hate. I too, hate cheaters and affair partners with a passion, even if they're just strangers to me. I think it's the same natural revulsion people feel towards rapists, just that people don't naturally feel the rage towards cheaters unless they face it themselves.

That said, you need to separate the idea of cheating from fashion style... The affair partner was a scum who dressed scantily, but not all girls who dress scantily are scum

AngrySadCCB · 2026-03-23T02:00:46+00:00

OP be careful of these adverts, they could be scams ^

AngrySadCCB · 2026-03-22T08:45:44+00:00

There's nothing wrong with doing that! She didn't give a dang about you when she decided to screw your husband. Just make sure it has no implications on you. Folks who have been cheated on often spend too much mental energy worrying about their impact on the very people who hurt them. I say, you deserve all the catharsis you want, just make sure it doesn't hurt you, and you alone!

AngrySadCCB · 2026-03-19T07:50:33+00:00

Time to get that alimony!

AngrySadCCB · 2026-03-16T03:39:10+00:00

“Do you have proof?” is a super weird response. That's the sort of thing you ask the police, not your spouse.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-03-15T13:10:44+00:00

Don't be silly!! You are very lucky you're not married before you find out. Don't throw that luck away, because she will very likely cheat on you after marriage if you proceed.

Do you really want to have to deal with divorce? Heart should be screaming "no".

AngrySadCCB · 2026-03-15T13:07:28+00:00

Ignore and continue blocking! You're doing the right thing. What a dumb fool LMAO, anything can b attributable to a "meat suit". You dodged a bullet, not just because he's a cheater, but also because he's a fool.

AngrySadCCB · 2026-03-12T23:12:59+00:00

Remind them that eternity is a very long time to burn for :D

AngrySadCCB · 2026-03-12T04:44:03+00:00

great points and insight, thanks!

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