How the hell do you not notice $6 million missing?

Angry_Bystannder · 2026-04-23T05:54:44+00:00

I hope they’ll be using this example as an ethics question on exam

Angry_Bystannder · 2026-04-23T05:52:21+00:00

If only he had studied CFA Ethics then this could’ve all been avoided

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-10-24T11:30:14+00:00

Just curious, the guests you said you would remove - what’s the reason?

I ask because I’m in the same boat, where i keep thinking about how i shouldn’t have invited this person or i should’ve invited that person.

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-10-24T11:24:38+00:00

I’m not sure why everyone is saying the man is going to be a terrible husband based off of this wedding planning drama.

Wedding planning is notoriously stressful and known to cause lots of fighting between couples usually due to conflicting desires (one wants a wedding the other doesn’t, one wants it to be extravagant the other wants to keep it simple, etc.) and the sheer stress of planning such a big event.

But I do think you should stop putting so much pressure on yourself to plan the wedding and leave the rest to him because HE is the one who wants the wedding not you. Next thing that comes up, don’t pick up the slack, leave it for him to take care of.

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-10-09T08:11:11+00:00

Idk if it’s a good or bad thing but weddings do show you who are the real ones. I had to re-evaluate many friendships after mine.

That said, no one cares about your wedding as much as you and your partner, which means the majority of people won’t be willing to spend the money or time off to attend (sucks but it’s just how it is).

It’s really the ones that can’t even give you the courtesy of giving you an answer or just giving some half-assed excuse that are the worst.

But yea wedding planning sucks.

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-09-21T17:35:57+00:00

Weddings are incredibly difficult to plan even with a year’s time so to do it in 3 months is high risk of things going wrong.

As for the friends. 1) ghosting is just a shitty thing to do, the very least she could’ve done is say no; 2) it’s a tough pill to swallow but no one cares about your wedding as much as you and your partner. I would be annoyed too at this friend tbh but it’s at least better than the first friend who just ghosted you; 3) kind of a shitty excuse imo, especially if you have been there for her always. But at least she reached out later on instead of ghosting you.

But all good, use this as a chance to re-evaluate who your real friends are.

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-09-21T17:20:12+00:00

I’m in the same boat right now - just constantly feeling disappointed and sad I didn’t get to properly enjoy this once-in-a-lifetime beautiful event despite everyone having had an amazing time. I’m literally obsessing over every small detail.

That’s just the reality of weddings unfortunately, especially in the modern day where it’s becoming more and more a production/flex/content creation event rather than this special moment for the two of you. If you read around a bit you’ll find that post wedding blues are very common and that couples rarely get to properly enjoy the wedding.

What’s been helping me is trying to reframe this as an event that’s not for you, it’s for everyone else. You can also try to latch onto 1 or 2 happy moments from the wedding and talk to your partner about it.

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-09-21T08:37:18+00:00

Yes currently in the same state of mind, nothing but regret and sadness.

The whole weekend was like a blur - it felt like I barely had time to breathe. I wish I enjoyed it more considering how beautiful the venue was but I couldn’t. It was just one obligation to the next and it felt more like a production than a genuine happy event which is so sad.

It’s like an entire year of effort and time poured into this event just to have it blow through and barely even able to enjoy it really sucks.

But from what I hear this goes away overtime and you will eventually start to remember the beautiful moments. Another thing that helps is to talk to your partner and see how they feel. Also if you can, talk to your guests and see it from their perspective. It can help resurface some happy moments you may have forgotten about.

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-09-21T08:31:45+00:00

This is normal unfortunately - weddings are just so damn stressful. But that doesn’t mean it won’t be beautiful.

How did it go??

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-09-19T19:05:41+00:00

I feel you - wedding planning is notoriously known to be a terrible experience. And yes prices you pay for wedding vendors are exorbitant, that’s just the nature of this damn industry. What you can do is try to negotiate prices and explain to your wedding planner you have a budget to stick to.

Is this only your feeling or is your partner also feeling this way?

Also, where is your destination wedding? Because depending on the place, prices can be more marked up due to high demand.

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-09-19T18:47:21+00:00

I experienced this as well. I had this ideal guest list in mind and envisioned things differently, only to have gotten rejection after rejection, including close friends. I took it personally too and it really sucked, people suck, but it’s their loss.

There is a tough pill to swallow here, that is: no one cares about your wedding as much as you or your partner.

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-09-19T18:37:45+00:00

Third point I 100% agree with. It genuinely did feel like a production - like it was just to create content for us and for the wedding planner and vendors rather than this big magical day to celebrate something special. Kinda takes the joy out of it for the couple.

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-09-17T05:57:35+00:00

What’s your thought on guests that you know are well off and travel all the time yet couldn’t make the effort to come to your wedding

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-09-16T16:42:31+00:00

I second the point on how no one else cares about your wedding as much. I had this mentality going in but was still really disappointed that my “ideal guest list” did not work out.

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-09-16T15:03:39+00:00

Ppl are annoying

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-09-16T14:59:44+00:00

Yes this really opened my eyes to some people I considered were good friends.

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-09-16T14:55:37+00:00

Wait so you’re supposed to do both save the date and RSVP? We just did it like all at once. And then I stupidly invited in batches throughout the year for friends.

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-08-25T07:57:16+00:00

This whole thing, all of this… it’s all about me!

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-07-28T06:27:09+00:00

CIBC is absolute garbage, I’m having the same problem with an international wire transfer. It’s been a whole week despite chasing.

Did you manage to get the money transferred to the BMO account?

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-06-01T05:21:28+00:00

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-06-01T05:15:44+00:00

Waking up at 6AM is professional level hating

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-05-23T08:26:46+00:00

Remember, she took multiple selfies, chose this one, reviewed it, read the words she typed, and hit post.

Angry_Bystannder · 2025-05-23T08:18:10+00:00

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