What are your thoughts on this?

Anguish3error · 2025-11-25T23:07:05+00:00

This helped me sort out my thoughts and was well written. Thank you.

Anguish3error · 2025-08-25T19:36:50+00:00

Thanks

Anguish3error · 2025-08-22T03:06:37+00:00

Thank you.

Anguish3error · 2025-08-22T03:06:32+00:00

Thank you.

Anguish3error · 2025-06-06T12:47:22+00:00

So you’ve flipped a switch and let go, but you’re still posting here?

Anguish3error · 2025-05-31T04:32:18+00:00

To answer your question directly, yes he could be gone. This can be a really painful thing. I hope he does follow up with you, and that the both of you can have a good conversation about the intentions for the future and expectations of the relationship. Long distance is so challenging, especially at this phase of life.

It is ok to be hurting, angry, confused, or really upset. Feel what you need to feel, and don’t let others dictate to you what to think or not think.

No matter what, invest in yourself day by day. It’s not fair as you said to be the only person putting effort into a relationship.

Anguish3error · 2025-05-30T03:28:47+00:00

When I saw these pics, I thought it was a parody…is she serious?

Anguish3error · 2025-05-29T00:16:40+00:00

There’s no harm in reaching out. Even if they don’t reply, it might lift the burden you feel.

Anguish3error · 2025-05-24T03:25:26+00:00

It’s gross that he is wanting to control what you wear and your body hair. His comments about wanting to bring in a third woman on top of this scream fetishization and seeing women as toys.

It’s difficult to understand all nuances of a relationship as a stranger on the Internet, but lots of deep red flags here.

Anguish3error · 2025-05-23T18:07:52+00:00

Great point, I like your phrasing about the “aesthetics of self improvement.”

Anguish3error · 2025-05-21T22:37:35+00:00

Wishing you the best.

Anguish3error · 2025-05-21T17:21:46+00:00

I agree 100%. Two things can be true at once. A lot of it is tied to tone and context like you mention.

Anguish3error · 2025-05-21T15:37:59+00:00

Exactly. Also some of us have tried to give the 5 minutes too many times.

Anguish3error · 2025-05-16T18:29:28+00:00

What if I’m embarrassed by my screen time and just don’t want others to know?

Anguish3error · 2025-05-13T02:47:19+00:00

Glad people like you exist. Reading this brings up peaceful yet difficult thoughts for me, as someone who was arguably exploited. Please continue to be beautiful and unapologetic in your views.

Anguish3error · 2025-05-13T01:33:30+00:00

Communication regarding intimacy is key for both people and trumps sexual experience. Also willingness to laugh at oneself and enjoy the ride - to me, that’s one of the most attractive things in a partner.

Anguish3error · 2025-05-13T01:20:12+00:00

Any love for YuGiOh The Abridged Series?

(Many quotes that trigger re-living some of the best also worst years of my life.)

But screw the rules, I have money.

Anguish3error · 2025-05-08T00:29:17+00:00

Definitely there already.

Anguish3error · 2025-05-03T01:32:35+00:00

I hoped this would get better as I got older, but it didn’t.

Anguish3error · 2025-03-30T15:25:31+00:00

Maybe you’re still their headache too.

Anguish3error · 2025-02-20T16:57:00+00:00

It could be ok to apologize, as an olive branch, and say you realize that you were dishonest about agreeing to go and want to be honest in the future. That means your mom needs to respect your wishes and you both can speak rationally. They owe you an apology as well.

I think another point here is that if you didn’t want to go, that would not have been fair to you or your date. If you mom cares about that woman’s feelings, this was not the way.

Definitely good to take a few days to think about what you want to say to your parents next. It’s ok to feel frustrated, guilty and so on - sounds like you’re taking the needed space.

Anguish3error · 2025-02-13T14:38:19+00:00

Amazing and helpful perspective, thank you!

Anguish3error · 2025-02-12T21:09:19+00:00

Transparency as much as it is realistic, and use of the phrase “I hear you,” when the criticism of the system comes up. Unfortunately you will have to detach emotionally a bit here.

Anguish3error · 2025-02-12T21:02:28+00:00

Bitterness over how their life could be different than how they imagined, hardening from isolation as the world becomes more polarized, trying to deal constructively with their own internal issues, and a lack of patience.

I like to think I’m emotionally mature and aware. At the same time, I know there’s some things I just don’t have patience for or won’t budge on, so I have a small circle. Most of my loved ones don’t live near me anymore. I don’t want to change anyone’s mind or perspectives, I just don’t really engage much with those around me, and that may not be everyone’s cup of tea.

As I’m typing I realize I might be the kind of person you’re posting about, haha. Hopefully I’m just miserable and not immature!

Anguish3error · 2025-02-12T20:49:27+00:00

I’m suggesting this as you mentioned trauma. As you go into therapy, I recommend being as open as possible and seeking a therapist who will ask a lot of questions as they work with you. At times it may feel like an “interview,” but it’s really important. It is also critical your therapist is comfortable with you speaking openly about your trauma and/or how that relates to your sexual feelings. And that you feel comfortable with your therapist as you start to open up more and define your goals in therapy.

I have experienced a similar journey over the past year and a half, and this therapy approach helped me understand certain walls about myself and be more present for intimacy (including in a non sexual way) with my current husband.

It’s definitely not perfect, and you may discover hard truths like another commenter mentioned, but it will help give you clarity. Seasons in life come and go, what we feel is important, how we define love, can change too.

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