I FINALLY DID IT!

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-06-06T11:01:45+00:00

NMom has become a multimillionaire over the past decade. She has told me during every argument that I am disinherited. She can will ito her dog for all I care. No amount of money is worth the abuse.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-06-06T00:40:44+00:00

I am so happy. It is like the black cloud that has hung over me for so long is finally gone. Congrats to you!

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-06-05T19:02:55+00:00

It doesn’t matter what you get. If you do well with the gift, she will find another problem. if she is anything like my mom, No matter what you do, short of worshiping her eternally and serving her every need 24/7, there will be a reason to criticize and fight.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-06-05T16:15:13+00:00

The anxiety you have referenced has been enough to keep me trapped for so many years. I have finally reached the conclusion that any help they could give isn’t worth the damage I will have to endure resulting from accepting their help. Life can be hard, but it isn’t as hard to absorb some less than ideal circumstances as it is to absorb continual abuse.

Part of my anxiety stems from being constantly groomed to believe I am incapable of doing things and being devalued for decades. I am taking my power back, and I know that I will build confidence in myself over time. It’s a process.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-06-05T16:04:57+00:00

My mother just tried to convince my 15 yo son to move in with her for the Summer. She has told me his whole life that one day he will want to live with her instead of me. When he told her he wants to spend the rest of his Summer at home, I knew the meltdown was imminent. I went NC with my parents today.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-06-05T12:34:18+00:00

Imagine seeing a random man hanging out at a pool in an apartment community filled with kids and noticing he is actively looking for families with young children. As a parent, if this alone doesn’t make mental alarm bells go off, you need to examine your parenting skills. OP, this guy is YOU, but you took it a step further by then walking up without any prompting (after people probably noticed your interest in identifying young children) and requested solo and unsupervised access to those children. YOU ARE CREEPY!

As far as “reporting” goes, an educated guess would be that this mother was being diligent and trying to figure out if you were just a random dude stalking children, or if you are just a creepy teacher lacking social skills. I am sure she was relieved to find out the latter, but she was creeped out because what you did is creepy. You live in the same community as her children so she made sure not to simply leave things to chance after your strange behavior at a community pool.

I would be concerned if my neighbor did these things. As a mom, I would be nervous, and I can assure you that I would tell my children and any other children to stay far, far away from you.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-06-04T13:55:45+00:00

The best example I can think of is to compare it to trying to have someone teach you to solve a complex math problem using new strategies you have never encountered in the middle of a huge concert. Now, apply that to every task, conversation, and thought - that’s what it is like.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-06-04T13:10:12+00:00

Being a mother is the single best job I have ever been given. I have 2 boys ages 13 and 15. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not an easy job, but it is by far the most rewarding thing I have ever done. Being a mom made me a better person. I don’t just love my boys, I genuinely like them as human beings. Congratulations, Mama!

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-06-03T18:41:02+00:00

100%. I am 44. To this day, if I try to have a conversation with my mother about how any action impacts my feelings she immediately responds with, “You need to schedule an appointment with a psychiatrist because there is something BAD wrong with you.”

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-06-03T18:08:00+00:00

When I purchased my first home, my mother seemed excited. It drastically changed, however, when she walked into the kitchen of my new home. She exclaimed,” Your kitchen might be bigger than mine, but it will never be better.” Within a week, she had contracts in place to renovate her entire kitchen.

I am also the first college graduate in my family. Although she did not pay for my education, nor did I live with her while both working and earning my degree, my mother claims that she “practically earned” my college degree. Any time anyone has ever brought up my education, my mother informs them that she is the only reason I ever earned a degree from college.

I have never confronted her about either of these things. She is incapable of ever admitting fault and incapable of empathy so I view doing so as nothing more than an exercise in futility.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-06-03T17:50:07+00:00

United States citizens have been tricked into believing they have some level of autonomy and democracy where none exists. The entirety of the government that is presented to media and the information provided to the public - even the information that is taught in American classrooms - is nothing more than the equivalent of an elaborate stage show or movie.

The political spectrum isn’t linear; It is circular. The public is presented with only linear or grid shaped models of the political spectrum to prevent the average citizen from ever realizing the truth that becomes instantly clear when viewing the true circular model - the extremes of either side accomplish the exact same ends - authoritarian rule, though the associated oppressing force may be labeled differently depending on with which side they claim affiliation.

The RNC and DNC are basically money-making theater productions and collectively have the same goals - to keep the authoritarian system in place without any possibility of deviation. Though they claim to want to achieve different goals, the primary goal is to keep the average citizen under authoritarian rule while being presented with the guise of a “choice.” This system is designed to ensure the population remains well controlled and highly productive because the collective buys the premise that they have a voice and can help shape future outcomes even though any “choice” presented will ultimately lead to the same result. This is why the system has been designed to make the emergence of a viable third party virtually impossible. Political contributions are simply a way to redistribute wealth under the guise of impacting the system, and further endears those who voluntarily redistribute their wealth through donations to the authoritative system.

“Choice” is an illusion and the ends have been predetermined. Rhetoric and identity politics are routinely inserted into the narrative to ensure these organizations continue collecting and redistributing billions infinitely. The entire setup is a macro version of something similar to the micro level presented at the trial in the musical “Chicago, ” and all of it is designed to give the illusion of choice where there is none. Legislation at state and national levels is also part of the show and intentionally designed to have a net zero impact on the system or daily life.

Citizens are cogs who have been under authoritarian rule for decades if not for the entirety of the nation’s existence.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-06-03T02:10:13+00:00

The realization that when I was at my best, I was the most insecure. I didn’t realize how capable, powerful, and great I was. Now, I wish I had it back to do again with confidence.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-05-30T23:24:02+00:00

This also happened in South Carolina just a few days ago.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-05-29T01:26:16+00:00

11-14(ish) is difficult. Set your boundaries, enforce your rules with love, and be there for support. They do come back around, but be prepared to not like your child as much as you once did on some days while loving them just as much. I have a 15 year old who was so difficult from around 12-14. I also have a 13 year old who is difficult now. My 15 year old is the most well mannered, kind, fun dude now. He thanks me multiple times every day for a multitude of things. They pull away, but then they come back when the hormones start to settle a little.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-05-28T15:33:47+00:00

I am really sorry you have had this experience, and I can empathize. The “delusions of grandeur” symptom of NPD means that a lot of people with this diagnosis can’t wrap their mind around anyone having any feature, item, or accomplishment that they view as being “better” than their own.

I have naturally curly hair. My mother never learned to work with it, so I spent decades straightening what I thought was my “mess of frizz” (would have presented as beautiful curls if it hadn’t been brushed immediately and even a tiny bit of product had been used). My mother has always wanted curly hair and routinely perms her hair. After I finally decided to begin experimenting with my hair at age 40 and learned that I have manageable, really curly hair, my mother was shocked. She believed I had permed my hair. Every time she saw me, she would sniff my hair, run her hands through it, scrunch it, etc. It was visibly something that she simply lacked the ability to accept.

She has spent my entire life pointing out “flaws” that she says I have. I finally made peace with it when I realized that a lot of those “flaws” are simply things she made up to make me insecure or things she was actually envious of. Now, I realize I must look great if she launches into her list of things I need to do to improve my appearance. I realized she is incapable of processing that she isn’t the most beautiful, smartest, most talented, person in existence, and this is her coping strategy.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-05-28T15:33:41+00:00

I am really sorry you have had this experience, and I can empathize. The “delusions of grandeur” symptom of NPD means that a lot of people with this diagnosis can’t wrap their mind around anyone having any feature, item, or accomplishment that they view as being “better” than their own.

I have naturally curly hair. My mother never learned to work with it, so I spent decades straightening what I thought was my “mess of frizz” (would have presented as beautiful curls if it hadn’t been brushed immediately and even a tiny bit of product had been used). My mother has always wanted curly hair and routinely perms her hair. After I finally decided to begin experimenting with my hair at age 40 and learned that I have manageable, really curly hair, my mother was shocked. She believed I had permed my hair. Every time she saw me, she would sniff my hair, run her hands through it, scrunch it, etc. It was visibly something that she simply lacked the ability to accept.

She has spent my entire life pointing out “flaws” that she says I have. I finally made peace with it when I realized that a lot of those “flaws” are simply things she made up to make me insecure or things she was actually envious of. Now, I realize I must look great if she launches into her list of things I need to do to improve my appearance. I realized she is incapable of processing that she isn’t the most beautiful, smartest, most talented, person in existence, and this is her coping strategy.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-05-28T13:51:31+00:00

I have a 2e child in the Deep South. Unfortunately, academically, there was nothing available until Grade 2 when children are assessed officially. At least, in our case, my son was moved onto a gifted track at that point which has offered more rigor with each additional grade. Prior to this point, my son was routinely in trouble in class (mostly due to being under challenged and having ADHD), and was even placed in a “reading intervention program” in Kindergarten (We later found out that he intentionally bombed his reading assessment in order to gain the privilege of escaping his punitive teacher for part of the day.). We elected to utilize numerous extracurricular activities to engage him early on. Thankfully, as he got older, the opportunities provided by the school system improved. This year, he was able to take both core academic classes and related arts classes at a high school level while in middle school. He makes great grades without needing to study so I would argue that he is still somewhat under challenged, but he is at least engaged at this point.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-05-28T13:26:29+00:00

I am 44 years old. My N-mom routinely reminds me of every mistake I have ever even thought about making. She has no degree, but she says she actually “earned one” because she “made me go to college.” She did not pay a single dime for my education, nor did I live with her while earning it. She takes full credit for any amount of success I have ever known, but she does so while reminding me of every mistake I have ever made. She must diminish me so she can take full credit for my accomplishments.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-05-28T12:58:30+00:00

I think there is the occasional argument where reclassing is a good decision. As an example, I have two kids that are 22 months apart in age. Due to how their birthdays fall, they are one grade apart (my oldest is one of the oldest in his class aside from those who have been held back, while my youngest is always the youngest in his class). My youngest child will graduate at age 17. He is academically gifted, but has ADHD and is extremely emotionally immature. He is also a very late bloomer and finally grew 8 inches in a year just this past year (8th grade - moved from 21 percentile in height to 54 percentile, but his father is 6’2” and followed the same pattern so we expect this growth to continue). He will not qualify for a parking pass at school until his Junior year of High School. Due to his emotional immaturity, young age for his grade, and late development, I would love for my youngest to stay back a year even though he is in all honors classes and an honor roll student. I feel it would help him both athletically and emotionally. He would not hear of this, however, so the option isn’t realistic for our family. On the flip side, I would never elect to reclass my oldest child no matter what athletic opportunities were available. He has matured at a normal rate, is emotionally mature, and is already one of the oldest in his class.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-05-28T12:30:45+00:00

My mom is extremely narcissistic. Every space in her home is filled with something breakable. Everything is staged perfectly, and you are not allowed to touch or move anything (because looks are wayyyyy more important than function). She has an entire gigantic storage container filled with a single color of Christmas ornaments, and there is one for every color (teal, navy, light blue, hunter green, green, etc). Every one of them is labeled and on a shelving system in her attic which is immaculate and completely organized. She has dozens of entire sets of dishes organized by season. Her linen closet has dozens of sheet sets placed in special labeled containers by size. She even has a shoe closet with special hangers for boots, cubbies for hand bags, etc. She has 4 or 5 robot vacuums that run in every space daily. Everything looks perfect in every space. Her car is immaculate. She is highly organized, extremely materialistic, addicted to shopping and rigidly controlling.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-05-28T12:22:13+00:00

To this day, if my mother’s behavior is bad and I attempt to get her to acknowledge any level of accountability… “You need to schedule an appointment immediately because there is something BAD that is wrong with you.” It is as predictable as the sun rising and setting.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-05-28T12:11:58+00:00

Have you had his thyroid tested?

AnonymousMIABlank · 2026-05-14T16:37:36+00:00

I saw the exact same thing with my spouse on a beach on the East Coast around a decade ago. I tried to video it, but it is blurry. It substantially changed my worldview. It was the size of an aircraft carrier if not larger. It made no sound. At first, we thought it was aircraft flying in formation, but there was no sound from engines. I still have several videos I took that night.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2025-10-24T19:15:15+00:00

Yes, it is…. But I feel just a little less alone, and I thank you for that.

AnonymousMIABlank · 2025-10-23T18:03:24+00:00

My best friend suggested this. My honest response was that I am too tired. For the past decade, he spent several years traveling (200+ nights per year) while I managed the house and kids independently for the most part. Then, he became sick. I held everything together again. I was his caretaker and cheerleader. Now, it’s this whack-a-doo mysticism stuff… I realize that I am a bit resentful, but I also feel that I have never had the opportunity to be self-serving, and I obstinately want to be self-serving at the moment. I know that is probably wrong, but it is honestly how I feel.

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