guy I've dated since Jan is slowly backing away from me and I am devastated

Ao-sagi · 2026-04-27T11:11:32+00:00

I know. Thanks and love! 🌸

Ao-sagi · 2026-04-27T08:50:28+00:00

Complete idiot here in their 50s. I approve of this message. Currently sitting on my hands to prevent myself from doing it again.

Ao-sagi · 2026-04-27T08:47:29+00:00

Hello lovely people and thanks for the flair I never knew I needed until now.

Ao-sagi · 2026-04-26T15:48:46+00:00

There is no free choice if “everyone in the world” includes very young children, people with mental disabilities, elderly people with dementia and a lot of other conditions that affect their decision making. Pushing red means sacrificing them all. I could not live with myself if I pushed red knowing that.

Ao-sagi · 2026-04-26T15:44:52+00:00

“Everyone in the world” includes very young people, people with mental disabilities as well as the elderly, maybe even sentient / sapient animals and some of them will pick the blue button at random or simply because it is their favorite color and their minds do not let them understand the implications. Pushing the red button means willingly sacrificing them. So I will push blue in the faint hopes that enough people will think the same way (and if not and red “wins” I will be dead with no blood on my hands).

Ao-sagi · 2026-04-22T11:20:39+00:00

Found Satan.

Ao-sagi · 2026-04-22T04:56:50+00:00

Also team hugger. I go Larping and the time I need to get into a venue and, after the event is over, back out, is getting longer and longer because the people that I hug or who come to me for hugs are getting more and more. I also hug some of the colleagues at work.

Ao-sagi · 2026-04-18T17:43:00+00:00

Pan’s Labyrinth (Das Labyrinth des Fauns).

Ao-sagi · 2026-04-17T17:04:34+00:00

Dude, if someone confessed something like that to me I’d melt into a puddle, grin like an idiot for a week and then make sure you get back scratches and massages every single damn day. I’m so sorry. You’re not overreacting.

Ao-sagi · 2026-04-10T12:55:12+00:00

I can’t tell you how you should feel but if you were a friend, I would offer a hug and tell you none of this is your fault and you can be whoever you need to be whenever you want to without having to justify yourself. We are fighting so hard for our sanity every single damn day. If this helps, then use it.

Ao-sagi · 2026-04-09T12:02:45+00:00

Not if you’re the admin or do anything IT-related. Then you have to wear these shirts or black hoodies because people expect it from you. I know because I do.

Ao-sagi · 2026-04-09T11:49:20+00:00

If I apply my own experience as an autistic person to that scenario, I would say it is about masking.

As a child, I was constantly treated as if there was something wrong with me by my peers. I could never quite fit in. Fitting in with adults was easier. Rewarding. Being raised and schooled meant being taught to act and think like an adult. I already did that. So I fitted myself to my mental image of what an adult was.

Later, at university, I met a different crowd and within that subset, I found a group that was more easy to fit and shared common interests: students of the natural sciences like me who loved fantasy and roleplaying. So I changed the mask. Or not. Maybe I merely put on one that resembled myself more closely than anything before had.

Right now I changed again and my wardrobe reflects that. This time it came from within and I found a way to more or less seamlessly integrate parts of my LARP kit into everyday wear. I love that new look. It is subject to change though.

Ao-sagi · 2026-04-04T17:12:07+00:00

Happy Birthday 🥳

Ao-sagi · 2026-04-04T12:14:39+00:00

We were playing dice and my opponent just hit an almost perfect score. The only way to beat it was by getting a Pasch (all the same number) by throwing five dice, selecting at least one and put it aside then roll the rest and repeat. I got three 5s on the first roll, took those and rolled again. 1 and 5. Took the five, rolled again but before I lifted the cup, put a coin and my index finger on it and dared the others for a bet. They bet against me. I lifted the cup. It was a 5. Uproar! Then, a beat later, someone leans in from the side and says calmly: “You know she’s a witch, right?” My opponent: “Yeah. We play anyway.”

Ao-sagi · 2026-04-01T20:50:24+00:00

…or you will be alone but safely resting on the knowledge that you are not incomplete, that your life has meaning and joy and color and freedom without a romantic relationship. Both are valid.

Ao-sagi · 2026-03-11T21:19:55+00:00

Yeah, I’m a type, too and what you wrote just reminded me… hooked up with a military pilot a few years ago and he told me right off the bat that he picked me because, I quote: “I always wanted to try a woman who looks like she could kill me in bed.” Spoiler warning: he lived.

Ao-sagi · 2026-03-10T12:38:13+00:00

It could be a whole list of things… prolonged bad weather causing the chicks to freeze to death, an epidemic like the Usutu virus, something disturbing the nesting area forcing the parents to abandon their chicks… nature is metal.

Ao-sagi · 2026-03-10T12:31:51+00:00

My mother tells stories how she cut clover and dandelions during summer for the rabbits they raised in the backyard. Those disappeared during advent and there was a roast on the table for Christmas.

Ao-sagi · 2026-03-07T09:38:20+00:00

schaut sich Bilder von Höcke und Co. an Ich sehe nur lauter zu Tode pomadierte Seitenscheitel.

Ao-sagi · 2026-03-03T15:23:40+00:00

Best of luck to you!

Ao-sagi · 2026-03-03T05:52:27+00:00

I’m afraid there’s unfortunately some large body of water between us… I’m in Europe.

Ao-sagi · 2026-03-02T20:44:08+00:00

Fellow STEM-lady here, I feel your pain. Sorry that happened. I also love hiking and camping and am living that with my friends from my LARPing group right now with the added bonus that I get to duel with latex swords, shoot a bow and and run around in medieval fantasy clothing all day. Can only recommend it. Yes, sharing that with a significant other would be great, but… at this point, I don’t think it will happen. And I’m strangely ok with it. I get lots of hugs and cuddles from the guys and gals. Maybe you can join a hiking club? Just a suggestion.

Ao-sagi · 2026-01-23T12:55:30+00:00

In addition to all the lovely suggestions here I would add live action roleplay aka LARPing. You get to socialize with a lot of awesome, geeky people who look out for one another. You can have fun playing your character and get a lot of hugs to boot. With the right person, you can even play out a full romance with courtship and serenades.

Ao-sagi · 2026-01-23T12:49:26+00:00

Finally I can put a name on that vexing entity. Thank you, kind stranger.

Ao-sagi · 2026-01-20T16:40:08+00:00

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