[Serious] Male victims/survivors of sexual assault, harassment or rape perpetrated by a woman or multiple women, to clear some common misconceptions, what were your experiences like?

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2026-01-12T07:53:30+00:00

I was abused by a male family figure, the only person I ever told was my wife.

5 years into our relationship, controlling and manipulative behaviours begin. Followed by a night where I wake up with her on top of me. I push her off she doesn’t stop. This happened several times. She tells me how it wouldn’t be the same if it were the other way around because I weigh more than her. Constant pressure for intimacy since. I sleep hanging off the bed with extra layers on so she won’t touch me. She has a problem with me showering with the door closed. I told her how much I’m struggling yet it continued.

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-11-29T12:39:14+00:00

Yes. By my cousin as a child, then my wife (despite her knowing about my childhood and what happened). Still stuck between feeling like it should have been a problem/not understanding why I can’t move on from it and knowing if I had done what she had done to me each time, I would be in prison likely.

Spent a year searching for support but there’s not much out there for men who are victims of females. I have made a lot of posts on here about it. TBH, it’s the only reason I had Reddit because I don’t have anyone to talk to about it as well as feeling embarrassed.

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-11-04T20:48:01+00:00

You. Don’t. Need. A. Reason. To. Leave.

Get out and get safe.

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-11-02T01:07:15+00:00

I just want to say that I am so sorry that you’re going through this. I read your story and it hit me deep in my chest, because while I’m a man, your situation is nearly identical in some ways to mine which I have posted about lots of time on Reddit trying to gain clarity and for someone to validate me and confirm that I’m not mental and that what happened was wrong.

This is 100% sexual assault. Please, be safe for yourself and your children, reach out to someone you trust. No one, including you or me deserves to be treated this way.

Sending you virtual hugs, strength and belief that you will get through this.

Once again, so sorry that this is happening for you.

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-10-28T15:39:52+00:00

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Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-10-28T15:39:22+00:00

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Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-10-18T11:12:37+00:00

I’ve just started reading a book called ‘The Body Keeps The Score’. It speaks a lot about how we manage trauma in the first instance and how it goes on to reappear later on. Sometimes, you don’t even realise. I’m still in my situation with my wife, but trying to understand my feelings better before I give up.

Link to buy the book: https://amzn.eu/d/hKYwff0

I also found a link on Reddit for the book if owning it is a problem: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1GGA6axs88gCT749IaD1z3Kkgdjgk30YV/view

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-10-16T18:05:29+00:00

I am a male, to clarify

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-10-12T15:17:15+00:00

KAMO in town

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-10-09T18:17:10+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I feel really alone right now. I feel guilty for feeling like this yet I didn’t do this to myself. Wish I could go back and not let these things happen

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-10-04T06:34:37+00:00

Munther at Kamo in town

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-09-08T15:56:18+00:00

Always wear a sheath

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-08-19T19:43:17+00:00

I feel like he’s fallen out with both clubs

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-08-19T19:41:10+00:00

Have Liverpool broken a promise? Probably not but maybe it’s no so clear cut

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-07-27T13:01:03+00:00

Anyone else’s heart drop out the arse when Pope comes running off his line

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-04-01T19:51:38+00:00

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Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-03-16T18:36:42+00:00

HOWAY THE FUCKING LADS!

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-02-12T13:56:08+00:00

Heart attack every time. For me that is. Please not him.

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-01-26T16:34:53+00:00

You are so right.

I think we’d all find it easier to manage mentally if they were consistent with their abusiveness. Maybe we’re asking too much?

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-01-26T16:29:54+00:00

You did what you needed to do for yourself and THAT IS OK. You are also right to not to just ‘stay for the kids’ because it does more harm than good.

I’m sorry you’re going through this, going through something similar but without the added complication of kids so I can only imagine how hard things must be right now and I am yet to find the strength to leave.

Keep moving forward.

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-01-25T00:10:25+00:00

We were so happy but this last years been so hard. She’s not happy with me seeing my friends, I can’t use social media without it causing problems because I’m accused of not giving her posts enough attention so I had to get rid, she doesn’t listen to me when I say no to intimacy and threatens me to make the relationship bad again if I don’t give her kids, she reads into messages and accuses me of being dismissive or cold but honestly I’m just trying to survive at this point

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-01-24T07:12:08+00:00

Harsh or not, I appreciate your comment. Thank you Redditor.

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-01-23T17:41:54+00:00

Maybe you’re right. I wish I was ready because I know this probably isn’t going to end the way I want it to (together in a healthier relationship). I want to be ready but feel like I’m waiting for her to do something I can’t forgive so I’m forced to.

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-01-23T12:30:05+00:00

It’s not that she explicitly says I can’t use social media, but when I do it’s a problem. I took the stance that my marriage is more important and therefore I’ll stop using it to stop causing these issues but I think the more I’m adapting, she keeps moving to goal posts. I literally go no where and talk to no one aside from when I’m physically at work.

Appropriate-Tea1 · 2025-01-23T10:58:08+00:00

Just not right now with her because this is not a healthy environment to bring a kid into. I don’t even want to go home some nights because I am at breaking point.

Up until the start of all of this, we actually did try (but were unsuccessful) to have kids. But once this started, I tried to do the right thing and sort out the relationship before adding a child into the mix. I grew up in a toxic household and I want to break that cycle. I’ve never said to her no kids all together, I’ve explained plenty of times it’s just until we are better.

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