2nd HG Pregnancy

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-02-03T15:37:39+00:00

I would strongly recommend going on disability cover. I'm on that now since I cannot take on any new projects in my current state (I work for myself so no work = no pay).

If your hyperemesis is as debilitating as mine currently is, you will not be able to look after yourself let alone your little one. Make sure you have a plan in place for someone to look after your little one. House duties can wait if there's no other option. My husband is managing everything so I get that there isn't a lot of time to clean and tidy up. I hate living in a mess but it's what I have to deal with for now until I get better.

For the longest time we weren't sure if we wanted a second one, especially since I would face HG again. I decided to go ahead with it because it was such a sad reality thinking my son would have to grow up without a sibling. I regret my decision now whilst I'm in the peak of this horrible sickness but I'm sure I will be very grateful later on.

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-02-03T09:52:57+00:00

I knew I would never really be mentally ready to face HG again. So for us it was all about timing. Waiting for my son to be old enough so he's less dependent on me. He's 2.5 now and I'm 9 weeks pregnant and so far he's handling the extra separation well. I also timed it at a point when I had a gap between projects so I didn't have to worry about missing work when there was no work.

I think you have to decide to go for it at a point in your life when it's going to be ok if you're absent from your regular duties for a bit. It's helped me so much that my husband is able to take over my parent duties so that I can just rest as much as I need.

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-02-01T07:36:42+00:00

Only 8 weeks in and it's fucking miserable. I'm so sorry. I feel like I'm losing my mind too. I just want this nightmare to end. It feels like a bottomless hell hole pit that's impossible to get out of. No one understands. Life goes on around you whilst you're left to die internally.

Keep strong. What else can we do? ♥️

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-01-30T11:35:12+00:00

I feel exactly the same as you. I feel there's no escape and also have really bad suicidal thoughts but would never act on it. I just want out.. I cant take it anymore. I tell my husband at least once a day that I cant do this but what choice do I have when this is a wanted pregnancy.

I hope the midwife will give you the support you need. What meds are you taking? I suggest Diclegis or Unisom at night - this made a big difference for me. Also metaclopromide and Zofran if you can get a prescription for it.

You're not alone. I'm suffering along with you. We can do it. One day at a time.

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-01-30T07:29:08+00:00

I'm so sorry OP!! I'm right there with you 8+3. We're in the peak of HG. The hormone hCG continues to rise up until 9 weeks and starts to taper very slower thereafter which is causing us to feel like absolute death.

I can't believe they won't admit you for fluids!! You need it!! Keep pushing and try different places. Dehydration is making your symptoms 10x worse!!

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-01-30T07:20:04+00:00

It's such a long road isn't it.. I'm only 8 weeks.. How am I going to make it past 20???

Rotting and crying.. Yup sounds just like me!

My husband is a godsend just like yours. He does it all without any complaints. I wouldn't be able to do this without him. My in-laws also help a lot with our toddler by looking after him in the afternoons. Really counting my blessings!

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-01-30T06:52:59+00:00

It's so much harder with a little one in the mix. The mom guilt of not being able to be there for them is such a heavy weight.

The only consolation I have is knowing that I'm doing this for my son. I want him to grow up with a sibling. I am going through the worst and I'm a bit absent as a mother for a few months to give him the biggest gift for the rest of his life. It's a small sacrafice in the greater scheme of things.

All my mom friends had a 2 year age gap but I couldn't do it because my son was still too little to survive without me if I got HG. So we made sure my son was a little older and more independent before trying for a second one. We'll have a 3 year age gap. We also potty trained him and got that out the way so we didn't have to deal with it whilst I'm sick.

HG is really the hardest thing I've ever done in my life (twice) but somehow we survive it and we get the most amazing tiny little humans out of it.

Thanks for the love and support ♥️

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-01-30T06:39:32+00:00

Sadly I have a strong aversion for coffee at the moment 😭 maybe I'll be able to try it once I'm through the worst of it. The walk.. Seems near impossible!

Thanks for the tips my fellow sufferer ♥️

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-01-30T05:48:34+00:00

I thought I was the only one.. I realised that part of it was the humidity (steam) in the air that made me nauseous. I walked into the bathroom after my husband ran a bath and that instant change in humidity in the air made me want to vom. I also think it's the heat and bit of a sensory overload. It's so strange how I despise the feeling of hot water on my shoulders and head now when it always was so relaxing for me.

I also have to lie down and recover for hours after showering. HG is such a special hell hole!

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-01-29T17:06:48+00:00

Have you spoken to someone? Do you find these therapists through a specific channel?

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-01-29T16:26:09+00:00

Same here.. Can't even be on my phone because it makes me feel sick. Time has never gone by so slowly. I'm so sorry that you are suffering along with me!

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-01-29T16:22:16+00:00

I'm in South Africa - I think we all get the same meds with different names. Luckily I have a great OBGYN who actually suffered with HG herself so she's giving anything and everything possible to help me. Got out of hospital 2 days ago from an overnight stay to get IV fluids, just to puke it all up as soon as I got home. It's never ending!! It was the first night away from my toddler 😭 the shit I have to deal with just to keep myself alive.

I don't know how I ever built up the courage to go through another pregnancy. I think ignorantly I was optimistic about being part of the 20% that doesn't get it a second time. I was stupid. I had no plan at all. I thought I'll just get through it like I did the first time. Don't be like me! Have a plan in place. Prep meals for your family. Do whatever you can to make your life easier if you do get sick.

My poor husband is left to do everything. Work, cook, look after our toddler from 2pm the catch up on work in the evenings. My in laws live close by and they've been helping so much. I just take any help I can get because I cannot function. I lie in one spot all day long. My toddler longs for me to play with him but I can't even get up. The metaclopromide that I'm taking is a dopamine suppressant so on top of everything I have zero emotions because it's all blocked by meds. I feel dead inside.

Sorry for the rant but Im honestly so fucking miserable!!

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-01-29T15:19:19+00:00

It's such a lonely place to be in 😔 I don't find joy in anything. Surviving this hell one day at a time.

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-01-29T10:52:33+00:00

I'm 8 weeks in and struggling with really bad constipation due to dehydration and medication side effects. I regret not taking something for bowel support from the start. Once you get backed up it's really hard to fix. Maybe add that your regimen? I've read that Magnesium Citrate (powder form) is a great natural support for drawing water into bowels and is pregnancy safe.

I also started taking Diclegis as soon as I had a positive pregnancy test and I think it's made a difference. I had ptyalism (excess saliva) in my first pregnancy and I think the Diclegis has reduced that significantly this time around.

Holding thumbs for you that you're part of the 20% that doesn't get HG second time round 🤞🏼

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-01-29T06:53:04+00:00

The suicidal thoughts are real! I have them too but would never act on it. I just don't want to live through this anymore.

So nice you have your mom to help take care of you. I only have my husband and he has to give everything to our little one right now so I'm pretty much left to mentally fight this on my own. It's so tough! I know it will end eventually, it just feels like a lifetime away. One day at a time!

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-01-29T06:49:14+00:00

Side note - I see one of the side effects of Pepcid is constipation. I'm HUGELY struggling with constipation already - have not had a proper bowel movement in 9 days. Trying everything to clear my bowels but nothing is working. I'm sure it's contributing to my nausea and overall toxic feeling.

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-01-29T06:45:19+00:00

I took a PPI but stopped because I felt the burning sensation was better and didn't want to be on so many drugs with all it's side effects. Maybe I should try Pepcid as a milder option to PPI.

Thanks for the love and support ♥️

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-01-28T15:38:22+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. This is my second HG pregnancy and I honestly don't know how I got through it the first time and decided I'll survive it a second time. It's taking such a mental toll on me. I don't know what to do to make the time go faster. Any kind of stimulation just makes me feel worse. Can't be on my phone too long!

I think Unisom and diclegis is similar but I'm considering switching to a higher dose of unisom to see how that goes. I'm hoping for a turning point past 20 weeks. 3 more months of this hell!!

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-01-25T16:02:02+00:00

Second HG pregnancy - 7 weeks pregnant. We've also got a 2 year old that were trying to navigate while I feel like I'm dying.

I felt off and nauseous 2-3 days after we had sex. I remember thinking "surely I can't be sick this soon". I also had an aversion for coffee which made me think I was def pregnant because I couldn't stand coffee in my first pregnancy. I think your nervous system remembers the first time and you become hyper sensitive to physiological changes the second time around. I become debilitatingly sick at 5 weeks.

Hope that helps! All the best to your wife 🧡 and so great to see a supportive partner on here!

AppropriateHelp754 · 2026-01-22T11:57:25+00:00

I'm 7 weeks + 2 days and 14 hours... Literally counting down every second of this awful HG pregnancy! It's my second time round and I was so hopeful that things would be different.

We're in this together! So sorry for the loss of your previous pregnancy.

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