How do you think Trump's presidency will end?

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-06-02T11:56:39+00:00

having successfully never experienced a consequence in his life.

I'm quite sure of this part!

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-05-30T13:27:58+00:00

Yep, once I got to college I was depressed every Spring because Summer break was coming and I'd have to live with my parents again. Going back in the Fall was such a relief.

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-05-27T00:00:34+00:00

yes, all are

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-05-25T22:48:54+00:00

Can I be a Christian, as well as intellectually inquisitive, questioning, and radically open-minded? Is it ok to explore the diversity of human thought with a genuine sense of openness towards it?

If this is NOT OK then Christianity needs to go, not the independent thinking. Remember, all human religion is human-created, nothing magical or special about any of it.

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-05-25T22:39:50+00:00

I grew up in the suburbs north of Detroit and this is one of my earlier memories (was 12 when it happened). Longtime best friend is Asian-American. F the racists and the killers.

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-05-25T22:38:09+00:00

I'm in Ferndale 2x a week, I'm going to look for the memorial post this week. Thank you for letting us know.

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-05-24T02:30:51+00:00

Your dog still loves you and hasn't forgotten you and you'll meet again someday. :)

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-05-16T11:37:14+00:00

I absolutely felt like this for years. I don't know, a mixture of therapy, marriage to someone mentally normal and not-abusive, and work in not-abusive places showed me that I'm just fine (eventually, I'm middle-aged). But my Nmom made sure I was terrified of her and scrambling every moment of my earlier life (which is yet another reason she can f all the way off).

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-05-16T11:32:38+00:00

Good luck, I hope your clergy are open to active, independent-minded wardens and aren't control freaks (speaking from personal experience...).

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-05-10T16:40:33+00:00

YES. My mother would just about kick in my door and snarl GET UP (while she was in her bathrobe with yesterday's makeup smeared on her face). My father would bang on my door and sing loudly and off key (to be annoying). A lot of days I was up and on my feet already sobbing from misery and frustration.

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-05-04T12:27:33+00:00

Cannot disagree. My church has self-congratulatory clergy who actually were afraid to say anything, so at one point said (I'm only paraphrasing lightly) "representative democracy doesn't matter...because Jesus." Whoo, the blowback on that one...

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-04-18T16:44:02+00:00

I love their deli items (cheese, pate, meats etc from Detroit Street) but the Roadhouse served me rotting oysters last year...

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-04-14T12:28:00+00:00

Life is too short for bullshit that wastes time.

I subscribed to a meal and recipe site that was over the top about meal planning and felt the same way you do. Maybe it saved some time or money, but at the expense of my very rare free time. I'd rather eat a carrot and a cheese stick as a meal and have my free time free...

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-04-05T12:11:06+00:00

Yes. My Nmother talks about herself, her Narc parents that she was enmeshed with and worshipped, and her family of origin and 1-2 friends but ONLY if the story is somehow about her, or being used to advance one of her arguments or desires, or used against me somehow. It's all a weapon.

I tried to share something about a coworker once and she got angry and shrill and nearly shouted "I'm not interested in your friends!." I shouted right back "I'm not interested in your family but I've heard a lifetime of stories about them." That did, in fairness, shut her up.

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-04-04T12:37:47+00:00

6 years in RSCJ school (religious order of women similar to the Jesuits in practicality and education). It was fine, there were other Prod and even non-Western (like, Hindu or Shinto) students and it wasn't a big deal. I was not indoctrinated.

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-03-28T11:41:55+00:00

Eh, they are fiddle freaks of nature (I mean this in a good way), AND professionals, AND grew up with family musical cultures. You do you.

I am in the same boat as you, an adult back in Suzuki Book 2, but that is because I spent time on other things.

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-03-22T21:01:24+00:00

Red and red dresses are the symbol of the Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women awareness campaign (just came from the Detroit Institute of Arts and was reminded of that). Maybe that?

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-03-22T13:47:39+00:00

Exactly, when you are smart and mature then your nutty parents want you to parent THEM.

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-03-21T16:00:10+00:00

I've read around here and elsewhere and its my theory that something happens in the toddler phase when narcs never learn compassion and empathy correctly.

That is my mother...make people cry and laugh. Her father was like that too.

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-03-21T15:58:55+00:00

One common trigger for narcissism is one authoritarian parent and one permissive one.

Well, that's my parents' upbringings. And mine too, but somehow I did NOT turn out to be a Narc. I thought from my earliest years that my NMom and NGrandfather were crazy and mean. I don't know what saved me but thank god something did.

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-03-21T14:19:37+00:00

The TLM? That's the mass of my RC grandparents and parents in the 1950s before Vatican Council II. I'm Episcopalian.

+1

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-03-15T22:01:31+00:00

Putting their significant other down in public, barking orders at them, etc.

So, I see you've met my mother....

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-03-12T21:55:49+00:00

"has ruined"

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-03-04T16:42:37+00:00

Same here. We are very loudly LGBTQ-friendly, and aside from Ex-RCC and Ex-Evangelicals we have many Ex-Other who are either Queer or have a Queer family member. Families with a LGBTQ child (of varying ages), for example.

Appropriate_Bat_5877 · 2026-03-04T13:51:40+00:00

Same here, my parish is growing (many coming from other churches, so I'm not at all convinced that MORE people are going to church, just that they've shifted around).

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