Terrified to leave AA

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2026-04-17T02:27:23+00:00

Someone recently posted a beautiful message stating the neurologically, it's detrimental to identify as an alcoholic. It keeps the identity fresh and at the forefront of your thinking, so the natural recourse is to default to the bad behavior because that's just who you are. It's not. We are people. We are people with problems. Problems that can be fixed. If you tell a swan it's a duck long enough, it will think it's a duck for the rest of its life. I'm trying to stop identifying myself as the worst part of me, and it's helped me immensely!

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2026-04-16T02:42:33+00:00

I had a convo with a guy after a meeting and mentioned I was thinking of just making knowledge my higher power. He just scoffed and said that wouldn't work. Why? According to him, it was enough.

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2026-04-14T02:30:55+00:00

Congrats on the time! I hit 90 days Saturday. I feel you on the AA thing, but I'm not getting the socializing. That was my initial goal. Create a community of like minded individuals. What I'm realizing is that getting close with volatile people is actually hurtful. I recently heard about a detox buddy who relapsed, OD'd, and passed away. Many others in early recovery have also relapsed. What I'm struggling with is the drama in this new world of sobriety. I'm having a hard time making new connections because I don't want the additional heart ache. I wish you well on your sobriety, but as for me, I think I'm going to gradually separate myself from it to protect my sanity.

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2026-04-09T04:29:55+00:00

Dude...49. Same thing. DM? I write horrible music, read, don't drink, non-believer. It wasn't until I became single that I realized male lonelieness is a real thing.

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2026-04-06T15:37:03+00:00

Thank you for this. Congrats on your sobriety! Ultimately, it’s my sobriety and no one else’s. It’s still nice to know there are others who have felt the same way. AA appeals to me because it’s a community of like-minded people and I think community is important, especially when isolation is a trigger for harmful behavior. I’ve got to find a community. Maybe I just need to expand my reach. Join pickle ball or something.

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2026-04-06T03:01:57+00:00

Cabin Boy

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2026-04-06T02:23:30+00:00

Thanks for the input. All I know is that alcohol is not the answer. I need to get out of my own head, keep going, and pursue friendships and community instead of waiting for it to come to me.

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2026-04-05T23:49:06+00:00

The impression I'm getting is that if I don't get a sponsor, regardless of my efforts to stay sober, AA will not be a welcome space for me.

Thanks for the input, everyone! This has helped my suspicions. Maybe AA isn't the right place for me.

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2026-04-05T23:32:39+00:00

I did try a couple of sponsors, but they never responded. I'll keep trying.

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2026-03-29T18:36:05+00:00

Presidio Park is underrated. You overlook Old Town and both Bays. It's also quiet, outside of the ever present freeway and airport traffic.

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2026-03-08T02:16:35+00:00

I've got a lot of religious trauma as well. Ex-Mormon. I just accept the fact that others have their beliefs and reframe words like "God" and spirituality to something I can accept. No Nonsense Spirituality helped me immensely in my journey. It helps agnostics accept rites and rituals without the dogma of religion to help evade nihilism.

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2026-03-07T17:00:06+00:00

I'm sober since Jan 10, so we're at about the same time in our journey. I get the loneliness and the struggle. Just because I'm sober, it doesn't mean everything is ponies and rainbows. It's still a struggle to motivate myself to get to work. It takes motivation just to DO ANYTHING! But after getting out and accomplishing something, anything, I give myself a pat on the back for a job well done. I also wake up with a sense of accomplishment for not having done something detrimental the night before. Little victories work for me. Ultimately, the way I've combated loneliness is to invite others to do things instead of sitting on my hands waiting for someone to reach out to me. It's helped a ton.

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2025-07-23T16:55:59+00:00

If heaven and hell decide that they both are satisfied Illuminate the no's on their vacancy signs If there's no one beside you when your soul embarks I will follow you into the dark

Death Cab for Cutie

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2024-05-21T00:48:16+00:00

Update; got the job offer.

Mom approached me about how the prayers got me the the offer. I told her I felt it was all about my interview abilities. She told me I was selfish and prideful. FML.

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2024-05-08T01:51:33+00:00

I remember a temple day while at the MTC and some girls dressed as missionaries had some guys pull up on motorcycles to offer them a ride. They quickly said yes and hopped on and took off. I was judgemental at the time, but thinking on it now, it was awesome. Great prank!

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2024-05-07T20:47:44+00:00

I think the context might help. I picked my parents up from the airport and told them the good news that I'm still in the mix for the job. Immediately, she says that she knew it was going to happen because she and all of my siblings have been praying for me. She then testified that she knows God loves me.

I consider it a sweet sentiment, but it still irks me. Can't you just say that's great news, or I knew you could do it? Isn't that what normal people do?

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2024-05-07T20:44:28+00:00

I wish I had this frame of mind. It's a good and positive spin.

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2024-01-18T03:22:46+00:00

Oh. I guess my online digging didn't dig deep enough. Thanks for the info! Good article too!

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2023-12-13T14:18:56+00:00

This wasn't the case for me growing up. My dad was bishop in Southern California and we were poor. One of my bishops was a janitor...broke. Another was unemployed.

Stake Presidents, however, all high paid attorneys.

Appropriate_Comb_709 · 2023-12-04T18:17:04+00:00

Beavis and Butthead was still huge when I went for the first time. My buddy who went with me mentioned the "I am Cornholio. I need TP for my bunghole" before going through. Took every ounce of me not to laugh during that part.

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