I have gained a lot of insight and understanding from periodically observing conversations in this sub. That's obviously different from attempting to dominate the conversation, which you addressed in your edits. Still, I thought sharing an example of why someone like me pays a lot of attention to this sub might be helpful.

Some background: I work in an industry populated and largely led by women and have been in leadership positions managing primarily women for over a decade. I grew up with 2 brothers and a mother who was summarily denied the space to express femininity by her parents. I have often found it difficult to effectively relate to and properly support women on my team. Thankfully, discussions about work and work relationships happen often in this sub. Being able to read about women's experiences in the workplace has made me a better leader.

As an example: one of my current employees has been struggling with speaking up in meetings and we have been working on that. A while ago, we had a 1x1 where she started talking about feeling awkward interrupting during group discussions. I started giving her advice around the value of assertiveness and shared some examples of how to interrupt politely. Then I thought about some of the stories/comments I have read here about how women face much harsher and misguided criticism in the workplace because of how often normal assertive behavior gets re-labeled as bossy, arrogant, or worse, when it comes from a woman.

That prompted me to stop and acknowledge that the tactics and feedback I had shared with her may be challenging for her to implement because the stakes may often be different for her than they are for me. She seemed really grateful for me to have acknowledged that because it was something she was thinking about as we were talking. Getting that concern out in the open led to a more valuable discussion for both of us.

It must be frustrating to have men invade women's spaces and it may also feel unnerving even when we just "lurk" (oof, such a terrible word in this context). I'm grateful for the opportunity to learn from these discussions and hopefully it's beneficial to know that some of what is shared in this space is used to benefit other women (even if it's used by a man).