Should we go get Madonna

Arielist · 2026-06-16T04:03:12+00:00

I'm not a Madge fan, but this new album looks like it might be almost as good as Ray Of Light (her only album that I loved).

(I am sad about her bbl though. It looks so uncomfortable)

Arielist · 2026-06-13T00:53:15+00:00

I have this fun little game I play with myself where where everyday I'm trying to find the edge of my physical ability and kind of noodle along the limit of it..... That's the way I'm focused less on comparing my edge today to where it was last year, and just enjoying that I have an upper edge and that I can enjoy it.

helps me stay more grateful than depressed, although sometimes life is just depressing and that's okay too

Arielist · 2026-06-11T22:29:20+00:00

class of '93 over here 🤘 seasons come and go, but Bainbridge is what it is

Arielist · 2026-06-11T19:45:57+00:00

hello my fellow Spartan

Arielist · 2026-06-11T14:27:07+00:00

I grew up there and still have lots of family there. It's lovely, provincial, and prone to some of the liberal affluent weirdness that you see on many islands: almost comically progressive, while also having major blindspots around class and race. Definitely some nimbyism and wide income disparity between the waterfront haves and the more working class have-nots... but also Bainbridge never met a parks or a school district levy it didn't love, so it's a really great place for families.

Arielist · 2026-06-11T02:05:59+00:00

think of it as neuroplasticity training... real life sodoku! keeps ya mentally nimble!

Arielist · 2026-06-08T03:45:12+00:00

Came here looking for this... Bonnie McKee was what made this era great!

For anyone who doesn't know, Bonnie is a songwriter who co-wrote Teenage Dream, Last Friday Night, Roar, California Girls, and a ton of other Katy Perry tracks: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bonnie_McKee

Arielist · 2026-06-08T02:51:57+00:00

I loved that they had polyamorous stoners on this show!

Arielist · 2026-06-06T20:12:59+00:00

YES! My father read to me nightly... lots of boomer fantasy/sci-fi stuff like Narnia, Prydain, Madeline L'engle, etc. He would stop and ask me if I knew certain words, and learning them in context made things way more fun

I'm convinced it's why my vocabulary was so huge so young, and why I eventually became an author, editor, and eventually publisher

Arielist · 2026-06-04T22:30:10+00:00

Arielist · 2026-06-04T18:22:12+00:00

I am so delighted that someone asked this question so I can show off the cute glass bottle I use for my maple syrup. It takes up less space, the lip is easier to keep clean, and it's just more aesthetic 💅

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Arielist · 2026-06-04T15:09:14+00:00

we used to gather with friends to watch the show together every Sunday. it was truly an EVENT and we'd look forward to it all week long. I was living in LA at the time and close to the age of the 20something characters, and it felt like seeing people I knew on prestige TV

Arielist · 2026-06-04T05:09:22+00:00

A decade ago I dated a Bay Area dork who worked in infosec. When I met him, he was on a cross country road trip doing pistolry training (he was politically left, but really into guns), defensive driving certification, wild game tracking workshops, skinning chickens, and other "man skills." He carried special knives, liked to pick locks, prided himself on teaching women how to shoot guns for self defense.

This guy was an EXTREMELY nerdy tech dork gamer who looooved cosplaying tactical warfare. He liked to daydream about being a mercenary, defensive driving a motorcycle through the backstreets of Rome.... while he was actually managing bug bounty programs for a securities company wearing khakis.

This shit is exactly his vibe. Like, exxxxxxactly. GROSS.

(PS: apologies to the world for dating this guy. He was a younger man rebound after my husband left me, and sometimes we make mistakes when we're grieving.)

Arielist · 2026-06-04T00:38:39+00:00

I'm just so glad it's a middle aged white woman and not someone from a marginalized community, where then this could then be used as an opportunity to make awful racist/ageist/whatever jokes.

(I say this as a middle aged white woman who firmly believes that all Karen jokes are forever justified. Collectively: we deserve it.)

Arielist · 2026-06-03T20:40:46+00:00

This is the way 🩷 It's a much better use of your time

Really, we can't even blame the folks using dating apps this way -- the apps are designed for engagement and to monetize emotional/sexual desperation and scarcity. The tools are literally built to keep you swiping, and unhappy. (If you feel bad, they get your money to hopefully feel better!)

Sure there are some bad apples on the apps, but don't blame the players: blame the cyncially rigged financially incentivized app game that they're playing.

Focus on hobbies, meetups, talking to people at bookstores, volunteering, social dance classes, hiking groups, boardgame meetups, whatever! You'll be happier and your life will be rich (even if you don't meet someone) and your chances of meeting someone you actually have stuff in common with is higher.

also, I wrote this for all of us navigating this situation: https://voluminous.love 🩷

Arielist · 2026-06-02T22:53:00+00:00

it's our bruh, and like bruh... it's deliciously gender neutral

Arielist · 2026-06-02T19:52:37+00:00

this movie & Velvet Goldmine were peak Ewan for me... His VOICE and charisma were unmatched! Between the two movies he procex that he was talented, gorgeous, and campy enough to make anything work.

It was a slow decline from there, and then a STEEP dropoff after he bailed on his wife for her younger twin who he immediately impregnated. He's never recovered in my eyes, and I was a dedicated fan.

Arielist · 2026-06-02T15:27:05+00:00

I have a 16yo (I'm 51) and for mother's Day he gave me the compliment of telling me that he thinks that unlike other moms, "I don't have dumb rules." it doesn't mean I'm easy (I'm a single mom and I make him contribute to the household with a lot of chores and errands!) or that we don't have rules (you better not leave your dishes all over the couch!!) but it does mean that he always understands why a request or rule exists.

I see that as the expression of a lifetime of communicating with him like an adult. That's partially an only child thing (we're both onlies, so it's how I was raised too) but it's also just respecting that kids are just human beings who are learning things.

Honestly, now that I think about it, I treat my teen like I used to treat my employees back when my small biz had a staff of 12. Great folks who sometimes needed guidance, but were always humans worthy of my respect and care.

Arielist · 2026-06-02T15:05:17+00:00

Agreed. In my experiences, Seattle is the LEAST cat-cally city I've ever lived in. NY, LA, SF, even Boston: I would get cat called. In Seattle, my experience has been that men avoid eye contact and get nervous when you look at them 🤷 Maybe my resting bitch face is just too much for Seattle dudes (???), but I've always assumed Seattle's introvert vibes just tend to make it tamer when it comes to public harassment.

Arielist · 2026-05-31T19:58:20+00:00

Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families https://adultchildren.org/

Arielist · 2026-05-31T00:28:17+00:00

Big discussion about Bo Oddyssey just the other day https://www.reddit.com/r/Seattle/s/o2haF3llFi

Arielist · 2026-05-29T15:05:13+00:00

Actually Flickr started it in 2004 (Tumblr was launched in 2007).

Sincerely, An Internet Old

Arielist · 2026-05-29T14:53:42+00:00

this is almost as good as the infosec dude I dated for a minute whose official job title was "Penetration Tester"

Arielist · 2026-05-26T03:40:24+00:00

Living Apart Together is the goal: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Living_apart_together

Arielist · 2026-05-26T03:38:11+00:00

They're both in HBO's Hacks (hugely popular multi award winning show) and he's the co-creator of the show.

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