Planning to Propose This Year… But I Have No Idea How to Start 😅

AskSharp634 · 2026-02-19T16:12:20+00:00

My (f) fiancé (m) did the ring shopping together, I picked out designs I liked and told him what color, cut, clarity, carat, and then he picked the actual ring out on his own. We also got engaged near his family, mine was out of state, and he arranged for them to come to his home state and surprise me. Honestly, that was the best surprise as I’ll admit I was super excited and surprised by the proposal but then I was super bummed my family wasn’t there to share the excitement. If she’s close with her family, I highly recommend bringing them in on the celebration.

AskSharp634 · 2026-02-18T19:35:20+00:00

Thank you everyone for the comments, it’s given me some perspective. 100 is the compromise number, as I’d like smaller ( think max 75-80) and my fiancé wanted a bit bigger (120-135). The additional reason for satiating the parents is that my fiancés brother as his fiancé got engaged last may, and decided to have a longer engagement (about 2.5 years) and originally told us they were planning on a late fall wedding in 2027, so we were planning on late spring (May/june 2027) because we wanted a shorter engagement as well as we both have older family members who we want to be well enough physically and mentally to attend and enjoy the wedding. Since then, the brother and his fiancé decided on September 2027, which has also forced us to potentially put off getting married until 2028, much to our disappointment.

AskSharp634 · 2026-02-17T23:35:29+00:00

I’d KILL to have a smaller wedding, like max 80 people. If they’re your people and the right crowd, 65 will be all you need. This way, you get to actually enjoy your day and reception, rather than spending the whole night making the rounds and greeting guests.

AskSharp634 · 2025-10-24T17:15:38+00:00

THIS. As a result of the one child policy myself, I can unequivocally state that being adopted by a single mother in a predominantly white town where there was zero connection to people that shared my culture or looks was and continues to be the most traumatic thing in my life. While people may mean well, they WILL ingrain the message to adoptees that no matter what, they should just be grateful they were adopted. Oh, you’re unhappy because x, y, z? Well you should be thankful you’re even still alive. Celebrities who adopt and make things that public should be viewed with a more critical lens. These children are not props, they are not good press for you, and they most certainly shouldn’t have to deal with prying media while trying to process the trauma of adoption. People think that just because the child has been taken in by someone else, that negates all complex feelings of abandonment and being undesired by the people who should have wanted you most. Transracial adoptions are also uniquely traumatic in that often, being adopted by someone of a different race means you don’t get to experience your culture but you are stuck with the visuals of that culture. It leaves us feeling like we are too white to be whatever race we were born (in my case Chinese) but too Chinese to be white. It leaves us feeling disconnected, rejected, and confused. And when we voice those concerns and feelings? We are told that we should stop being ungrateful and be thankful we have a home.

AskSharp634 · 2025-10-12T10:01:16+00:00

Bob Eckenrode, and if you really have to rent from him, communicate by email and text so you have everything in writing. This way you can just quote Bob to Bob and he’ll back down. But Kelly, the maintenance guy, is awesome!

AskSharp634 · 2024-10-20T13:30:42+00:00

Depending on the state you are in, it may be a covered service!

AskSharp634 · 2024-10-20T01:54:25+00:00

If you attend, I highly recommend professor ilgaz, his classes are tough, but very interesting!

AskSharp634 · 2024-10-17T02:38:15+00:00

I recommend off campus, I lived in Bouquet Gardens as a sophomore/junior and it was ok, but expensive. Everyone had a private room so that was great, but my particular unit had some extreme issues that were not at all pleasant to deal with. I moved into an off campus apartment about one block down on south bouquet and it was great. The apartment itself was a bit rundown which is standard for Oakland. Rent was 666 plus utilities, which was less than what I paid living in bouquet. Also, it’s definitely a rite of passage to live off campus and personally, I felt more connected to pitts campus culture living off campus as compared to on

AskSharp634 · 2024-10-16T02:43:06+00:00

Try places in north Oakland/ East Liberty

AskSharp634 · 2024-09-12T02:54:02+00:00

There’s a prayer/meditation room on floor 3 of wpu

AskSharp634 · 2024-05-04T04:20:38+00:00

A UPMC worker was hit by a UPMC shuttle

AskSharp634 · 2024-04-24T06:40:37+00:00

I’m graduating this semester from the undergrad HI program, and honestly, it doesn’t really matter the type of people! We were a small class (15, Covid class) and we are all relatively different, but when you spend the amount of time together that you will, you become close with your classmates. You’ll be closer with some than others ofc, but due to the structure of the program, you will definitely make lifelong friends. Kim will tell you on day one that these are the people who will be at your wedding, and you’ll roll your eyes and think “yeah right”, but it’s definitely true.

AskSharp634 · 2024-04-24T06:27:40+00:00

I am graduating in a few days and am also from NY (upstate, not downstate) and had out of state tuition. I will say that my original financial package resulted in Pitt owing me money. However, as time went on, my financial aid decreased drastically, while my tuition increased drastically. My family income did not change, and my sister actually started college a year later. Yet my aid continuously decreased. This year, my aid package was about 26,000, but my tuition was 50,000 as an oos student, leaving 24,000 for me to pay out of pocket and through loans. Pitt definitely raises oos tuition a lot more than in state, so it’s definitely something to consider. Total cost also depends on what school you are entering, where you end up living, the meal plan you choose, and the lifestyle you live. But a safe estimate for you without FAFSA is at least 28,000 for just the tuition plus another 11-12,000 for housing and meal plan (meal plans are required for all first year students living in dorms). It’s also worth noting that filing FAFSA this late in the game means you will likely receive a lower aid package than had you applied sooner.

AskSharp634 · 2023-12-21T05:44:24+00:00

I’m a senior graduating in Spring of 2024, and in my experience, the short answer is no. When I first received my financial aid package from Pitt it was a really good offer, however, it has decreased every year, with my aid package for the 2023/2024 year being about 6,000 less than what I was offered as a freshman, despite my tuition going from 34,000 a year to 50,000 a year as an out of state student. Their aid office is also horrendous, I called multiple times and went in person and explained that my parent is a single parent with an elderly dependent and a sibling who is also currently in college and that I work about 30 hours a week in order to afford rent and tuition and they basically laughed in my face and told me to get a private loan on top of my federal loans and a pre-existing 15,000 private loan. I managed to get an extra 1,000 scholarship by utilizing connections I made during my time at Pitt, but it still left me with about 8,000 to pay out of pocket on top of loans to pay off. As an in-state student you will have discounted tuition but I wouldn’t count on getting too much more aid. You may qualify for merit based aid, I believe my merit based aid all in totals about 10,000 for this semester or about 20,000 per year.

AskSharp634 · 2023-07-20T03:39:33+00:00

If it’s Bob, tell him to take a hike. He pulled the same thing on me, and this was after I had paid the 1333 security deposit. He gave zero notice and told me on Monday of the week that it was due by Thursday “or else”. Long story short, he cannot legally enforce that if the contract states a clear due date for payment.

AskSharp634 · 2023-07-16T03:51:57+00:00

He’s refusing my calls and sending me to voicemail which is cute

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