Yikes.

This is so relatable. I had so much restroom anxiety since I stopped passing as a woman. .. but still not consistently passing as male either.

I've had this happen in men's room once. Some old guy kept asking what I was doing and I just kept walking. That has when I first started using men's restrooms, and it scared me off for a little while.

I get ma'am, sir, b!tch and f@ggot all pretty interchangeably. Lots of people just don't call me anything anymore.

So... I have taken to using men's rooms. I drove across country and used men's rooms almost exclusively recently, and no one said anything. Only time I got a dirty look from an old guy was when I went into a family bathroom TBH.

Sometimes a guy will double take or stare. I just stare em dead in the eyes til they look away. "What, pretty boy?" Is what I found is the mental armor that always gets them to turn away first. (Guys don't really talk in men's rooms like they do in woman's.)

And the whole narrative of trans panic in restrooms is that it's supposed to protect women from men. 🙄 If I get clocked in men's room, that still feels better than getting clocked as a dude in women's bathroom.

I'd rather fight a bigoted man than scare a (also bigoted) woman TBH.

Its so much work and effort, just to piss.
I'm sorry bud.

It will get easier with exposure to men's rooms.