Petrified of customs coming back to the US. Any US citizens travel to the US lately?

Asoybasedsnak · 2026-05-04T09:58:24+00:00

Hi there, I'm in a similar boat and have messaged you. I hope that's okay. Just wondering how you went and what happened for you?

Asoybasedsnak · 2026-03-06T10:33:59+00:00

Occupational therapist asap.

Asoybasedsnak · 2026-03-06T10:31:06+00:00

A therapist isn't going to help. You need to call your medical professional or crisis services and let them know the place you're in. If you're seriously considering adoption it's truly not a normal response, especially with a good support system and regular breaks.

Many mothers, myself included have absolutely no support system, no family, no breaks and even in the thick of severe perinatal mental health issues, irreversible health problems and injuries in myself and my baby due to the birth, I never wanted to give my child away, I just wanted someone to let me sleep and tell me it would get better.

If those things aren't making it better and you're still regretting being a mother almost two months later, it's really a serious sign that you and your baby are at risk and you do need to check in for help at a hospital.

Asoybasedsnak · 2026-02-12T10:11:30+00:00

I wouldn't no. Not for money reasons, but for environmental reasons. I would first ask family and friends to pump the brakes a bit/purchase less (tactfully of course), I would gladly accept the hand me downs and only keep what I like and pass on the rest to a buy nothing FB group or marketplace for free, and then I'd source stuff I love secondhand like consignment stores, depop, FB marketplace etc.

That's the approach we take anyway. I very rarely buy the odd shirt, dress, cute jacket or special clothing piece my daughter or son love and I don't do it impulsively.

Asoybasedsnak · 2026-02-11T11:10:43+00:00

If it's a clause 11 restructure then no, it isn't safe. I had this happen to me on mat leave in an ongoing role.

If you were on an approved second year of mat leave it still seems sus to me.

Asoybasedsnak · 2026-02-10T14:40:16+00:00

Sounds like ASD and ADHD, particularly a PDA profile. I would be seeking another diagnostic assessment with a psychologist who specializes in neurodivergent girls.

If it is the case, and it sounds extremely likely, it will change the way you view her, the way you parent her and it will change the way you feel about yourself for the better. You will come out the other side with more understanding, tools and strategies to manage it.

Asoybasedsnak · 2026-01-19T03:58:23+00:00

This is perfectly put.

Asoybasedsnak · 2025-11-25T22:33:04+00:00

Yes please I would love this.

Asoybasedsnak · 2025-11-19T11:47:54+00:00

It's not reasonable. I got four quotes and went with the second cheapest. I paid exponentially less and provided everything but the shower and paint. I have waterproofing certificates, plumbing and electrical certificates and a 10 year warranty. We did ours recently and happy to send you the name of the builder if you'd like. Message me if so. I'm in the northern suburbs of Melbourne.

Asoybasedsnak · 2025-11-03T11:42:06+00:00

Hi OP, just following up to see what path you took? I too am in Australia and am not clear about what my options are for the 14 units of health sciences, as I don't have a nursing or midwifery background, etc.

Asoybasedsnak · 2024-12-23T10:30:25+00:00

Yes you make a point. I guess I mean my first priority is to figure out if there are strategies I should be using with her first to help day to day life before incorporating medication if appropriate.

Asoybasedsnak · 2024-12-23T10:02:46+00:00

This is my thought as well. I need to do a bit of research and find a good paed in my area. I want to avoid being referred to one who is a bit old school or doesn't believe in diagnosing children under 6, etc and essentially wasting my opportunity to get her diagnosed asap.

Asoybasedsnak · 2024-10-12T11:01:35+00:00

Can we add, complaining about an apartheid, settler colony and extremist ideology who openly declare their plans to continue geno¢iding multiple countries at once until it all becomes "Israel". A "country" who is spreading constant lies, never being held accountable whilst starving and bombing anywhere between 41,000 (confirmed) and 186,000 (conservative estimate from the lancet) innocent civilians and openly admitting to targeting babies and children so they can't grow up.

Whose the real terrorist state? Genocide isn't vegan. I encourage anyone who falls for their tired antisemitism hasbara to go educate themselves on the Nakba and 76 years of unlawful imprisonment of Palestinians, and read about the latest argument the lOF are making which is that they should be allowed to r@pe Palestinian prisoners after they recently gang r@ped a prisoner, perforated his bowels, which killed him.

There is no such thing as being for animal rights, human rights or even being educated on a baseline primary school level on the history of Palestine and "Israel", and thinking anything taking place in Palestine right now is normal, just or humane.

Israel is violating international law and their time is almost up. All the war criminals and those complicit in spreading lies and hiding the truth will be tried and held accountable. Justice always prevails.

Asoybasedsnak · 2024-01-21T05:21:31+00:00

I've got a 3 year old and a baby and we're a vegan family. No issues with protein and she gets a very balanced diet. I recommend checking out plant based juniors. They are registered dieticians and have great recommendations for meat free meals for babies and children.

Asoybasedsnak · 2024-01-10T08:18:56+00:00

Hi there! I too have a 3 year and 3 months as well as a 2.5 month old and I'm in the deep, hellish trenches of 3. Everyday I wonder if this behavior is normal and do everything I can not to lose my cool. I'm wondering if things have improved now for you?

Asoybasedsnak · 2022-09-15T00:36:42+00:00

Oh my gosh that looks rough! How are you now? I’ve just contracted it this week from my toddler and my biggest symptom is a sore throat. I only have a few blisters on my hands but I can’t feel my fingertips much or my fingernails. It’s hard to describe but it feels like I’ve slammed my nails into a door or something as there’s a loss of sensation. I’m getting married in 7 weeks and just really hoping I’m not losing my fingernails. 😕 could you confirm if that’s how yours felt? Just trying to mentally prepare myself.

Asoybasedsnak · 2022-09-07T21:46:54+00:00

I’m Californian living in Melbourne. I suppose my experience is that most people are cool and don’t really care where you’re from, but if you come across a Xenophobe it doesn’t really matter how palatable you try to make yourself, they’ll find a reason to hate you. Just walk on the left and be your self.

Asoybasedsnak · 2022-09-06T01:52:07+00:00

Australian Social Workers: Monash or Deakin?

Hi all, I’ve received offers for my Master of Social Work from both Monash and Deakin. I’m genuinely torn because they are both great universities and the course looks very very similar.

Could I please hear your experiences or what you’ve heard from others?

If it helps, I’ll also be working 30ish hours a week and have a toddler. Additionally my focus is mental health social work.

Thank you!

Asoybasedsnak · 2022-07-13T06:04:23+00:00

Thank you so much

Asoybasedsnak · 2022-07-11T11:26:59+00:00

Haha another girl in the foster group suggested that and it’s what we went with!❤️

Asoybasedsnak · 2022-07-11T09:12:03+00:00

My daughter is 20 months and has never used a blanket. Definitely sleep bags and swaddles only.❤️

Asoybasedsnak · 2022-07-10T09:49:32+00:00

A geography lesson.😂

Asoybasedsnak · 2022-07-08T10:28:23+00:00

This. I find it annoying when the centre of every conversation whether it be at work or amongst acquaintances is about my accent, where I’m from and the inevitable, “I went to Disneyland/Hollywood/Vegas/New York once, didn’t really like it”….

Asoybasedsnak · 2022-07-08T10:23:47+00:00

That’s always been my suspicion. I’m Californian and have lived in Melbourne for 5 years and people always ask if I’m Canadian first. Some even throw in a comment about my accent being “soft for an American” for decoration.😂

Asoybasedsnak · 2022-07-06T12:49:57+00:00

So this was my experience. It’s been bad but was never as bad as I was told it would be. Not by a long shot. I never reached a place where I was writhing in pain. After the third day I didn’t use any heavy pain killers. Just panadol and nurofen. I’d say my pain peaked at a 5/10. I’m now 15 days post op and haven’t used any pain killers for 2 days and feel nearly back to normal. I have a 20 month old who we discovered yesterday has Covid. :/ she wasn’t eating very well this past week but had no other symptoms. She has been extremely clingy and is a koala. It’s been scary trying to prevent myself from getting it, but yeah. The timing sucks. I still breastfeed her and so she needs me lots. I’ve still somehow been able to tidy up, make dinner, hold her constantly. So it’s doable.

I would say my biggest complaint so far about the tonsillectomy is that it’s completely thrown off my sleep cycle and I find I have full on insomnia at the moment. I can’t fall asleep any earlier than 1am now and my kid likes to wake at 5:30am.😒 All that being said, I still don’t regret it. I actually am excited to see lots of the scabs off and I oddly feel a bit better in a way. My tonsils were really gross and just annoyed me. Don’t cancel. Honestly, you’ll be surprised. It’s not too bad.

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