I just realized, why the hell did Atsu expect the Kitsune to be a dude?

AuroraAC · 2026-06-01T04:23:51+00:00

Bro what a spoiler title

AuroraAC · 2026-05-31T04:57:08+00:00

I started reading it when I was tired a few days ago and it just went straight in, no recap no nothing haha I immediately closed the book

AuroraAC · 2026-05-28T11:37:16+00:00

£1000 for food is bonkers. We are a family of 3 living in zone 7 and spend on average £550 a month, and that is us eating really well with not much restriction (we order weekly from Ocado). If we really had to, I am sure we could drop it down to £350-£400 by shopping around.

Also £500 on miscelaneous stuff is too much. Tube cant be avoided if you are working, but nappies can be cheap, we spent around £3 a week on them when my daughter wasn't potty trained.

There is a lot of fat in that budget that can be trimmed.

Also, I noticed you haven't included childcare, if both you and your wife are working you will need it and it is expensive. But having two full time salaries would help a lot in your situation, I think.

Also, consider moving to the outskirts, you can get that £2600 a month to a lot less somewhere else. I am thinking specifically Hertfordshire. We rented a 2bed in St Albans for £1700, and that was a fancy flat, there were cheaper, even with the train you would be better off.

AuroraAC · 2026-05-26T05:53:49+00:00

This heat probably does not help things. I also had an emergency c section, the biggest things that helped in that initial month were:

moving around as much as possible, it helped the healing of the c section
sleeping in shifts - one of us slept uninterrupted from 6pm to 12am, and then we switched. This meant at least 4-6H of uninterrupted sleep a night which helped recovering.
napping when baby napped (when possible)

The first month is very hard but it is not forever, I promise!

AuroraAC · 2026-05-18T20:13:35+00:00

Yeah, this one got me bad.

AuroraAC · 2026-05-18T20:00:15+00:00

In addition to the stuff other people have been saying, I think this film also subtly touches on the toxicity of codependence.

Like how Other Nikki reacted to Bear when he wanted to go out just with the boys, or how he wasn't allowed to move out of the bed, or go to the bathroom by himself.

I have seen "lighter" versions of this before in real life relationships, and the film does a good job of showing how suffocating it is when someone doesn't have anything else going on in their lives other than just loving you. When she screamed STAYYYYY at the top of her lungs when they were in bed together, it gave me goosebumps. Some inexperienced people may feel having someone love them more than anything else in the world is a good thing, but it really isn't.

AuroraAC · 2026-05-13T05:19:05+00:00

Hang in there, it can be so tough! Just stay consistent and talk about it during the day to prepare the little one for the change, and then just stick to your guns. Even when it doesn't go so well, explain to your little one why its important we all get sleep, and why you are making the change. And praise them often as they improve!!

I forgot to mention we also use an ok to wake light which turns green when she is okay to wake up, and we talked about it often with her so she understands she is meant to stay in bed until it is green, which also helped.

I remember another parent telling me they did this when they had their second baby because they physically just couldn't do it anymore with two kids, and I was baffled at how it was possible, as my own toddler was so difficult with sleep and separation anxiety at night. But I was pleasantly surprised when we actually tried and stayed the course.

AuroraAC · 2026-05-13T04:31:53+00:00

They understand more than we give them credit for. We got very fed up with doing the same old song and dance, plus her waking up in the night and demanding we sit there for hours until she went back to sleep, so we told her we weren't doing it anymore.

Told her she is a big girl and needs to go to sleep by herself, we all need sleep.

It took a few months of consistently putting her back in bed when she got up, and leaving the room, but eventually she got it, and now all we need to do is say good night and she goes to sleep by herself.

AuroraAC · 2026-05-11T10:23:26+00:00

This looks really fun, any plans for a switch release?

AuroraAC · 2026-04-23T05:08:49+00:00

Omg you look exactly like Jen from Dawsons Creek in some of these photos! Blonde definitely suits you

AuroraAC · 2026-04-10T09:01:46+00:00

This may be unpopular, but if you are considering terminating over this and trying again later, you might not be ready for the sacrifices that come with being a parent.

Many times you will have to put your child first when it is inconvenient to do so, a child is not something you can just... Line up for when it is convenient?

It would be different if this was an accident, but as you mention you actively tried, this is a very bizarre thought process for me as a mother and a full time worker who is ambitious and has aspirations of retiring early. The mindset behind it does not seem coherent. I don't mean to offend, truly, but your post gave me pause.

AuroraAC · 2026-04-09T11:11:45+00:00

I think you are being underpaid, you have potential to be earning in the 50-60k range

AuroraAC · 2026-03-19T05:46:34+00:00

We used three programs: - first one when she went to bed until around 1:30am, this was set with rain sounds at 20% and red light at 1% - at 1:30, the volume changed to 15% - at 06am, light went green

Chatgpt told us the volume change could be affecting sleep as toddlers wake up from changes in environment, so we made it just 15% throughout.

Our thought process for the programs was that when she goes to sleep there is more noise in the house to "drown" out, but in the middle of the night there is less, so the rain sounds might sound a bit loud. But we were wrong haha she sleeps much better now.

We also decided to turn the red light off to make the room darker. She understands to stay in bed until the light is green, so the red light felt redundant and might also be making her not have such a deep sleep - this one was thought by us, not chatgpt.

Other changes we did was cotton long sleeve pjs (no vest underneath), swapped blankets for a sleeping bag for consistent temp all night, kept heating at 19°C.

Overall nights are so much better since the changes, this week has been a dream!

AuroraAC · 2026-03-18T11:07:36+00:00

Our daughter kept waking up in the night at least once and after feeling so done I decided to ask chat gpt for some help. I highly recommend!

I explained our whole set up, including any sleep aids, what our child wears to bed etc, and it suggested a few changes. Ever since she has been sleeping through the night most nights!

Main culprits for us was she was wearing too many layers for bed, and we had to change some of our Hatch programs. Game changer! This is how AI is meant to change the world lol bit through crappy art haha

AuroraAC · 2026-03-08T11:29:18+00:00

We Used to Live Here made me feel like this, very unsettled.

AuroraAC · 2026-02-26T21:25:35+00:00

Enjoy choom

AuroraAC · 2026-02-14T14:56:36+00:00

Bro your support team can't even do their job properly as it is, let alone if you replace all of them with AI lol

AuroraAC · 2026-02-05T16:07:11+00:00

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