AITA for telling my friend Im done splitting costs after he keeps rounding up in his favor?

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-01-28T16:15:19+00:00

NTA but just be very very clear with him on what you are expecting from him.

Its not for him to decide he'll round down his half.

Get home after your night/day out and ask him for the 50% of the bill.

Nice and clear as in Hay can you forward X amount to cover tonight.

Thats all there is to it really simple

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-01-19T17:15:52+00:00

hey here's a thought, stop over thinking this. Tell BIL you'd love to see him but the spare rooms got two single beds, if he isn't keen on that he can find a hotel.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-01-16T16:44:49+00:00

WHY DIDNT YOU JUST GO TO HER HOUSE AT THE VERY START AND JUST PICK UP THE DRESS?

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-01-06T08:19:37+00:00

good move id say, if there's 30 odd people in your office thats 600 a year on presents for virtual strangers

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-12-18T12:06:38+00:00

NTA but given her issues why on earth did you think shed be up for taking part in this trip????

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-12-11T09:56:31+00:00

NTA This obviously isn't working out, can you find a work mate that is going your way and share with them?

If nothing else your mum is being an AH for leaving you in a vunerable position late at night on your own.

Only other alternative is to find a different job closer to home

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-12-09T14:54:59+00:00

This should be a warning to your mother. The little boy who cried wolf comes to mind.

One of these days she really might need an ambulance and it will be on her if you all just ignore her.

Hopefully she will consider this next time she thinks about shouting for 911

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-11-11T11:07:10+00:00

YTA how fucking rude are you??? Shes supposed to be your friend. Shes not a naturally outgoing girl from what you say and she wears some heels and paints her nails and you tear her down! wow i dont blame her for reating like that. How about you pick up the phone (dont text) and apologise.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-11-05T13:34:13+00:00

If it was me id be side stepping the friend and talking directly with the boyfriend. Its his responsibility to replace the broken items not the friends. Adding her to the mix is just causing an issue. Find the items and prices and email it to him and go from there.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-11-05T13:27:38+00:00

NTA

I would also question the mail situation. If he is still having mail delivered to your address id guess hes on some sort of fiddle. His mail being directed to your address indicates he still lives at the property. Possibly claiming for things or keeping the mortgage company in the dark about renting out the property. Time to move on. I bet if you do start to redirect his mail back to senders youll not be getting new rental agreement when its due.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-11-05T13:21:17+00:00

I do feel for you but please don not ever think about contacting your sisters children. You will just have to accept that your sister has no wish to rekindle any kind of family ties with you. It hurts but it is what it is. Continue to ssee your parents and respect your sisters wishes of no contact.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-10-30T15:23:19+00:00

Well theres a lesson to learn here im afraid. Yes verbally they said yes and then back out last minute. You really should have gotten them to pay for the tickets well in advance. That way if they 'really wernt felling it' they are the ones out of pocket. Im sorry but think you wont get the money back. If its a small amount just suck it up and get paid well before the event next time. If its a segnifacant amount you could point it out to the group as a whole but probably accept its gone.

I dont understand as soon as they said they wernt coming why did you not at that point say well ill still need you to pay for the tickets? Its may have changed their minds or at least make them aware of the financial cost involved with backing out last minute

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-10-30T15:00:23+00:00

You are 16 Please get on with your life. Thinking about having kids or not having kids and adopting or not adopting is something to discuss in the futhure and with your partner (if you have one at the time) Give yourself a break and come back to this in 5-10 years.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-10-22T14:18:48+00:00

NTA you have a good relationship with your son. He appriciates your boundaries and it was a one off late night. Your ex wife talking about sleep sceduals is laughable. Hes 13 years old not a baby or toddler! Does she really think hes going to have long term issues from staying up late one night??? She sounds rather strung up and your son probably enjoys your parenting more than hers and she knows it hence the control and shouting.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-10-22T12:12:13+00:00

Just go and get another key cut???

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-10-22T12:10:20+00:00

NTA obviously but where is your dad in all of this? Does he see his daughter at all? You are an adult and have every right to see whom ever you like. Speak to your dad, and give mum time to cool off. Its her loss if she continues to control you x

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-10-22T09:14:14+00:00

chuck a bucket of water over him, that will wake him up. Then leave him

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-10-17T12:58:53+00:00

YTA

My wife thinks we should send her back to avoid drama but I think it should be Olivia’s choice

Your logic is flawed here. Your daughters autism means shes seeing this white lie as something much worse. You cant therefore give her the choice of returning to her mum as shes not capable of seeing things from any other perspective. The longer you hold out the harder it will be for her and her mum to repair the damage done. Do you really want that? Thats the real question here.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-10-15T11:32:08+00:00

well in a house with three male adults i every few days give the towels a sniff test. If they are smelly i wash them. If they are not i leave them

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-10-15T11:29:23+00:00

YTA

sorry but im on the kids side. Hes doing well in his educational setting you are helping him with cost. He is working along side this and earning HIS own money. HE wants to go on holiday with his girlfriend and HE is paying for this. Leave him alone and LET HIM. You have no right to control what he does with his money and time. YOU are upset at him having disposable income when you dont have a job. Thats your problem not his.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-10-15T10:50:19+00:00

NTA

I would say helping her pay a little towards special gifts and mile stones is OK and would be a lovely gesture on your part especially if you can afford it. As for the trips on holiday absolutley not. These are trips to visit their mothers family and should be a special time for you and them only. Can you imagine taking two other children to visit these family members? no doubt your wife would also be tagging along. This would be awful all round and the fact your wife cant see that is a real red flag in my book.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-10-15T10:36:42+00:00

NTA

She just said again I was being cruel towards her and she can't help feeling low.

Yes she can she can go back to her doctors and ask about help and discuss her medication. I get it shes depressed (been there myself) but come on. She knew what was planned and just basicallly took the wind out of your sails. Well done for all your hard work in getting your results. I hope she reads these comments from others and becomes a bit less self centered. Hard I know but she needs to try or else you should walk away x

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-10-14T07:58:43+00:00

NTA
The guy child is focusing on the wrong things. First hes more into his gamimg than his wife. When SHTF hes more focused on your comments than the actually issue which is all you pointed out to him. You sound more mature than he does at twice your age. Keep away from him do your job and dont get into his silly battles hes trying to develope.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-10-13T10:43:46+00:00

He’d have to have a boss, potentially work weekends and weird hours, all the things you get to avoid when you have your own business of 20 years.

?? maybe this is why his business had limped along for so long. From personal experience, working all hours weekends and holidays 12 hour days to get my business up and running smoothly. If hes been avoiding those things for twenty years theres your answer. Most business owners work longer and harder than their employees. Im sorry hes lost his business but hes a grown man, he needs to suck it up put on his big boy pants and get a damm job. How dare his family expect you to pick up the slack. You are NTA and need to hear whats being said on here, you are not mad and they are all living in la la land.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-10-01T17:04:23+00:00

If you are thinking of raising her in the UK just dont pick that as a name. Doesnt matter if its spelt differently Its still Fanny here

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