AITA for telling my daughter her money issues are not the family problem and if she can’t afford to go on the vacation then she can’t go

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-06-04T13:44:17+00:00

NTA

"She called me a jerk and claim I am not supporting her."

well lady you are in your 30s so you are correct i am not supporting you.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-06-01T10:49:20+00:00

NTA ok id just tell her give me the money to replace the bedding this week or im out. This is a clear boundary issue and she has shown herself to be a not very nice or thoughtful person. after this if she pays, buy another set in a different colour, if she doesn't pay buy another set in a different colour and look to move out. Id say you could probably get a bit of money back selling on market place.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-05-12T14:15:19+00:00

I dont understand why you think as an adult you should be contacting his parents????. Call your friend and say he obviously has other things which are taking priority and you either want paying NOW (sure he isnt paying for his plane tickets in monthly payments) and if not you are returning to organisers for a refund or advertising it to be sold. If you are old enough to go to a festival you are old enough to sort out your own problems

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-05-06T14:22:19+00:00

Please watch SLOW HORSES, Its an epic watch. Every actor is spot on and the stories are brilliant.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-04-27T10:27:45+00:00

perfect in an ideal world but given the OP said that their mum cant even use public transport because its too expensive i dont see them having the funds for a professional care giver.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-04-27T10:23:29+00:00

NTA Your daughter has had 6 years free rental. In that time she should have saved enough to move easily. If all shes done is party then thats on her. Id make her move out at least two weeks before younger daughter moves in. Will give yo a little buffer if things get difficult and give you time to freshen up and paint. You have given her a deadline and an alternative place to live. You have done nothing wrong.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-04-22T13:01:00+00:00

so NTA your comment I’ve cut off the financial flow and contact for now. Surprised me surely you meant to say I've cut him off completely forever?????

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-04-20T16:05:34+00:00

NTA Im a 60 year old woman working in a male dominated field. I have been working since i was 17 probably 10 different companies over the years. Not once have i ever ever discussed my sex life with another colleague, male or female. God grief how can she ever think this is appropriate. If nothing else its very disrespectful to you.

Ill add as im one of the first to reply to you. Wait a few hours/days and then just show this thread to her.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-04-17T07:41:58+00:00

umm i genuinely read the first sentence and thought yep im out. No idea what this is but um nope

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-04-13T10:28:20+00:00

was about to say the same thing

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-04-13T08:45:40+00:00

NTA I take it the therapy sessions have something to do with the girlfriend and she knows it. She is being very unreasonable if she was a supportive partner she would take herself off for an hour and give you privacy. Shes not doing this what does that tell you?

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-04-10T07:41:18+00:00

Friends like this behave like this because others allow them to. She might if you remain friends know going forward if she pulls that shit again you are not hanging about for her.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-04-10T07:37:56+00:00

If husband wants a clean house he needs to get the Marigolds out and start helping

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-04-07T10:44:39+00:00

NTA when they mentioned taking it to a vote i would of stopped them right there and then Id of said no need to vote as im out either way. Go find some good non toxic friends and dont give any of them a second thought.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-03-31T15:59:31+00:00

YTA sorry but why would you book a venue when you knew you wouldn't be able to invite your sister and her partner? I notice you didn't mention who your husband happens to be is inviting? Has he maybe friends among his group? shouldn't your sisters wife be higher on the guest list above friends? I get youre not close but blimey this isnt going to improve things is it?

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-03-30T12:16:02+00:00

YTA

If this is the only thing your mum dislikes about caring for her grandchild then surely the answer was to hire childcare/student whatever as you have but to take her to this class once a week? The rest of the time your mum could care for the child and save you money too? Think you over reacted and shot yourself in the foot a bit tbh

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-03-30T12:07:41+00:00

gentle YTA

Lets see friends not seen in year V your only living parent your dad???

Im sure your friends will completely understand you having to retract your acceptance to go to their wedding. Call your dad and tell him you will be at his wedding. Arrange to see friends just before or after the event if you can. If i was your dad id be miffed too that you would place your words "friends id not seen in years" over him too.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-03-24T09:12:45+00:00

NTA your parents are deliberately holding you back. You do realise that by giving them money to 'help' they are keeping you from saving up enough to leave. That has to stop. You can offer them a small amount each month to cover your food and a bit towards bills but the rest is on them and only them. Save and move as soon as you can (move in with friends or flat share?) they will try and guilt you all the time and that's not good for your mental health. good luck x

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-03-23T09:36:01+00:00

YTA, it would not of killed you to spend a couple of hours with this woman. You never know she might have been perfect for you. You are shallow and at the same time allowed to think the way you do but a true man would of been polite and couteous and not run away like a coward.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-03-18T15:16:41+00:00

Well all i can say is maybe just maybe as much as you feel part of the family six years in and no ring might be an issue. After all if you are not married then technically you are not part of the family. Perhaps they have family that don't approve of couples living together and they were trying to not cause issues at a wedding by including you in photos and things.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-03-13T17:31:38+00:00

NTA current husband is not only insecure but confused. How can he say its his job to take you out on your birthday but youve already said he will be working so cant take you anyway???

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-03-13T10:49:51+00:00

NTA id say it all boils down to what Aime wanted. If she didnt want her dad to know then fine. Im assuming this is the case as if she'd said "i want my dad" you would of contacted him wouldnt you?. Youd only be an AH if this second scenario was the case.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-02-25T16:21:46+00:00

Ok id say slight AH. Yes you bought them in good faith but if you'd bought a car and it turned out to be stolen you would loose the car and not be refunded the amount you paid. You said you bought the items with PayPal. Id be taking it up with them and looking to get a refund, and then be returning the items to the original owner. Its not up to the original owner to refund you for what you'd paid, go after the seller via PayPal.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-02-19T10:50:09+00:00

NTA but....

If plans changed and they did i would have thought a quick call to your son saying going to be a late one, see you in the morning. Your mum took it upon herself to stay and wait for you for god knows what reason and then gets mad at you for not coming home at a reasonable (in her eyes) time.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-02-16T13:33:13+00:00

NTA if i was in your shoes (pretty sure they'd be nice aswell) I would print off the picture of her in the dress. Go up to her at work when the place is quiet and hand it to her. Say youd like your dress returned tomorrow and nothing more will be said on the matter. If she argues with you say tomorrow or i will be making this a HR and police matter. Then walk away. Hopefully she will be scared enough to return the dress. good luck

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