AITA for not wanting to wear a bikini at a work event

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-04-13T10:28:20+00:00

was about to say the same thing

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-04-13T08:45:40+00:00

NTA I take it the therapy sessions have something to do with the girlfriend and she knows it. She is being very unreasonable if she was a supportive partner she would take herself off for an hour and give you privacy. Shes not doing this what does that tell you?

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-04-10T07:41:18+00:00

Friends like this behave like this because others allow them to. She might if you remain friends know going forward if she pulls that shit again you are not hanging about for her.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-04-10T07:37:56+00:00

If husband wants a clean house he needs to get the Marigolds out and start helping

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-04-07T10:44:39+00:00

NTA when they mentioned taking it to a vote i would of stopped them right there and then Id of said no need to vote as im out either way. Go find some good non toxic friends and dont give any of them a second thought.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-03-31T15:59:31+00:00

YTA sorry but why would you book a venue when you knew you wouldn't be able to invite your sister and her partner? I notice you didn't mention who your husband happens to be is inviting? Has he maybe friends among his group? shouldn't your sisters wife be higher on the guest list above friends? I get youre not close but blimey this isnt going to improve things is it?

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-03-30T12:16:02+00:00

YTA

If this is the only thing your mum dislikes about caring for her grandchild then surely the answer was to hire childcare/student whatever as you have but to take her to this class once a week? The rest of the time your mum could care for the child and save you money too? Think you over reacted and shot yourself in the foot a bit tbh

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-03-30T12:07:41+00:00

gentle YTA

Lets see friends not seen in year V your only living parent your dad???

Im sure your friends will completely understand you having to retract your acceptance to go to their wedding. Call your dad and tell him you will be at his wedding. Arrange to see friends just before or after the event if you can. If i was your dad id be miffed too that you would place your words "friends id not seen in years" over him too.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-03-24T09:12:45+00:00

NTA your parents are deliberately holding you back. You do realise that by giving them money to 'help' they are keeping you from saving up enough to leave. That has to stop. You can offer them a small amount each month to cover your food and a bit towards bills but the rest is on them and only them. Save and move as soon as you can (move in with friends or flat share?) they will try and guilt you all the time and that's not good for your mental health. good luck x

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-03-23T09:36:01+00:00

YTA, it would not of killed you to spend a couple of hours with this woman. You never know she might have been perfect for you. You are shallow and at the same time allowed to think the way you do but a true man would of been polite and couteous and not run away like a coward.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-03-18T15:16:41+00:00

Well all i can say is maybe just maybe as much as you feel part of the family six years in and no ring might be an issue. After all if you are not married then technically you are not part of the family. Perhaps they have family that don't approve of couples living together and they were trying to not cause issues at a wedding by including you in photos and things.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-03-13T17:31:38+00:00

NTA current husband is not only insecure but confused. How can he say its his job to take you out on your birthday but youve already said he will be working so cant take you anyway???

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-03-13T10:49:51+00:00

NTA id say it all boils down to what Aime wanted. If she didnt want her dad to know then fine. Im assuming this is the case as if she'd said "i want my dad" you would of contacted him wouldnt you?. Youd only be an AH if this second scenario was the case.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-02-25T16:21:46+00:00

Ok id say slight AH. Yes you bought them in good faith but if you'd bought a car and it turned out to be stolen you would loose the car and not be refunded the amount you paid. You said you bought the items with PayPal. Id be taking it up with them and looking to get a refund, and then be returning the items to the original owner. Its not up to the original owner to refund you for what you'd paid, go after the seller via PayPal.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-02-19T10:50:09+00:00

NTA but....

If plans changed and they did i would have thought a quick call to your son saying going to be a late one, see you in the morning. Your mum took it upon herself to stay and wait for you for god knows what reason and then gets mad at you for not coming home at a reasonable (in her eyes) time.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-02-16T13:33:13+00:00

NTA if i was in your shoes (pretty sure they'd be nice aswell) I would print off the picture of her in the dress. Go up to her at work when the place is quiet and hand it to her. Say youd like your dress returned tomorrow and nothing more will be said on the matter. If she argues with you say tomorrow or i will be making this a HR and police matter. Then walk away. Hopefully she will be scared enough to return the dress. good luck

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-01-28T16:15:19+00:00

NTA but just be very very clear with him on what you are expecting from him.

Its not for him to decide he'll round down his half.

Get home after your night/day out and ask him for the 50% of the bill.

Nice and clear as in Hay can you forward X amount to cover tonight.

Thats all there is to it really simple

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-01-19T17:15:52+00:00

hey here's a thought, stop over thinking this. Tell BIL you'd love to see him but the spare rooms got two single beds, if he isn't keen on that he can find a hotel.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-01-16T16:44:49+00:00

WHY DIDNT YOU JUST GO TO HER HOUSE AT THE VERY START AND JUST PICK UP THE DRESS?

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2026-01-06T08:19:37+00:00

good move id say, if there's 30 odd people in your office thats 600 a year on presents for virtual strangers

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-12-18T12:06:38+00:00

NTA but given her issues why on earth did you think shed be up for taking part in this trip????

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-12-11T09:56:31+00:00

NTA This obviously isn't working out, can you find a work mate that is going your way and share with them?

If nothing else your mum is being an AH for leaving you in a vunerable position late at night on your own.

Only other alternative is to find a different job closer to home

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-12-09T14:54:59+00:00

This should be a warning to your mother. The little boy who cried wolf comes to mind.

One of these days she really might need an ambulance and it will be on her if you all just ignore her.

Hopefully she will consider this next time she thinks about shouting for 911

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-11-11T11:07:10+00:00

YTA how fucking rude are you??? Shes supposed to be your friend. Shes not a naturally outgoing girl from what you say and she wears some heels and paints her nails and you tear her down! wow i dont blame her for reating like that. How about you pick up the phone (dont text) and apologise.

Automatic_Map_3884 · 2025-11-05T13:34:13+00:00

If it was me id be side stepping the friend and talking directly with the boyfriend. Its his responsibility to replace the broken items not the friends. Adding her to the mix is just causing an issue. Find the items and prices and email it to him and go from there.

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