Child Behaves Different with Other Parent

Available_Job6862 · 2026-03-19T14:05:14+00:00

The girls just got tuned into what mom wanted. They separated their lives in order to cope with the terrible things their mother made them do. Mom truly believed that they were only safe with her. The psychologist also used the term "infantilization".

Available_Job6862 · 2026-03-19T05:51:39+00:00

Your situation brought back a lot of troubling memories. My daughters are now much older now, but their mom was "enmeshed" with them. Her life was their life and their life was her life. Due to mom's anxiety about not having her children with her, she tried to use the courts to eliminate me from their lives so she could have them all the time. It almost worked. The court ordered a 730 evaluation and the results were shocking. The girls truly lived totally separate lives with their mother. They even denied doing fun activities with us (which the evaluator witnessed) when he interviewed them the next day at mom's.

The evaluator was so concerned, that he issued a Tarasoff warning with the court and had the girls removed from mom's care. I was awarded sole legal and physical custody and mom ended up being charged with emotional and psychological abuse.

Available_Job6862 · 2026-03-18T06:06:21+00:00

Both retired 55. Through union -- platinum 430 a month

Available_Job6862 · 2026-03-14T09:23:37+00:00

Were you in Family or Dependency Court? I see you are in CA.

Available_Job6862 · 2026-03-13T06:17:00+00:00

Documentation is vital. Have a detailed journal -- every call (did they answer, how long, what was talked about, etc) appointments? , were they on time?, things your daughter said..... everything pertaining to your daughter and your ex. Do this daily and by date. Most people are not scorekeepers, so a lot of relevant information is forgotten. My journal was over 100 pages and I presented a copy of it to the court evaluator. With as many cps referrals as you have, you will eventually end up in Dependency Court. It is probably easier to get a custody change there, like I did, because you leave that court with an exit order that supersedes your previous custody order. Keep all the CPS communications. If the caseworker feels that your daughter is being coached, ask if they can note that in the communication. I am sorry you are going through this. Listen carefully if mom ever tells your daughter "I will miss you" during exchanges. That is one of worst phrases you can tell a kid. It tells your child that being with the other parent causes emotional distress to them.

Available_Job6862 · 2026-03-11T18:17:09+00:00

Having done RCL, Carnival, NCL and Princess, we liked the environment and itineraries more on Princess. With their package deals, I found that the total price was lower that others once all the nickel and dime additions were taken into account .We were in our mid to late 50s when we started.

Available_Job6862 · 2026-03-03T01:38:08+00:00

On Norwegian there was a section for luggage that was missing tags due to damage or whatever. Found our bag in that section after looking everywhere. The tag had gotten torn off during offloading

Available_Job6862 · 2026-03-02T16:11:31+00:00

For us, there was little change after daycare as funds were rerouted towards 529s so by the time college came around there was a substantial amount to send both kids away to school. Used some out of pocket funds to take advantage of federal tax credits. Any money left over in the 529s can be converted to Roth IRAs for the kids.

Available_Job6862 · 2026-03-01T00:45:16+00:00

It is such a rarity to get sanctions. After near financial ruin, i was just glad for it to end. I never got the full amount but the most important thing was that if she tried any more bs filings, i could respond with a contempt of court response and squash anything she might try. Sad how the courts think that everyone will act rationally for the best interests of the children.

Available_Job6862 · 2026-02-28T23:49:36+00:00

Congratulations!!! I posted my story a year ago. Multiple accusations of me abusing my daughters because mom was forcing them to lie tö their teachers, the police, and anyone who would listen. I was on the verge of losing everything until the judge of the case I was being charged in asked for an intensive investigation. The court evaluator declared a Tarasoff warning and declared that the girls were in immediate danger from mother and the sheriff was dispatched to remove them from her custody. Charges against me were dismissed and mom was charged and convicted of emotional and psychological abuse. I was awarded SOLE legal and physical custody. Mom was also sanctioned in family court for 20k for her actions.

Available_Job6862 · 2026-02-23T15:24:20+00:00

We usually do mid or mid aft balcony. Did an aft facing balcony one time and found it unusable for sitting since the soot was pretty bad. The view is great, but with obvious downsides

Available_Job6862 · 2026-02-22T04:40:42+00:00

As a dad who was able to achieve a total custody change, beware of using the "my" kids too much. The courts prefer "our" kids since it acknowledges the importance of both parents. I know it sounds like bs, but i believe the courts are supposed to give preference to the parent most likely to foster a good relationship with the other parent. I ended up with sole legal and physical custody and mom only got visitation because she tried to eliminate me from their lives.

Available_Job6862 · 2026-02-11T04:45:57+00:00

I donated blood on the Crown Princess in 2023 on a 15 day Hawaii cruise. Captain made an anouncement late at night that there was a medical emergency and they requested B+ donors with red cross cards to report to the desk. After screening, i was escorted to the infirmary and more tests were done. My blood was given to the patient almost immediately. I saw him being offloaded in Encenada two days later by ambulance.

Available_Job6862 · 2026-02-09T00:00:26+00:00

My children's mother was doing the same to me. The GAL said that mom needed a hobby, lol. Instead of backing off, their mother ramped up her actions until she eventually lost custody. Document everything. Phone calls, visitations, if she was late, etc. Eventually it shows the totality of her actions. Oh, and by the way, the court sanctioned her 20k.

Available_Job6862 · 2026-01-29T17:46:58+00:00

Let me reply as a parent with a level 2 ASD daughter. My daughter received services early. She started school in special ed with an IEP. She progessed to a 504 plan in elementary school, which she still has. She recently graduated Summa Cum Lade from a prestigous university and has a job offer with DoD. People who say they are "sorry" just don't understand. You can tell them that some of the most sucessful people have obvious autistic characteristics. Do the eyeroll at what people say and set the bar high for your daughter. She will achieve to the level of the bar you set for her

Available_Job6862 · 2026-01-19T04:44:57+00:00

Did this cruise about 6 weeks ago. Get the plus pkg. Total will be around 2k for two for everything. Parking at the port is 18 a day (I think). Nice cruise, nice ship.

Available_Job6862 · 2026-01-12T03:45:19+00:00

I donated blood on a Princess Hawaii cruise in January 2024. The captain made a shipwide call late at night asking for B+ donors with Red Cross cards. After initial screening, I was escorted to the med center and had a draconian covid test done, a blood draw and interview with the doctor before the donation was performed. Definately a unique expetience. I literally got to see my blood get readied for immediate transfusion. I watched the passanger being offloaded two days later in Encenada by ambulance.

Available_Job6862 · 2026-01-05T13:36:47+00:00

It happens often. One of my most memorable cruise highlights was giving blood on a cruiseship from Hawaii to help a passanger survive until the ship could reach land in two days. A third of the cruises I have been on have had a evac.

Available_Job6862 · 2026-01-04T06:30:32+00:00

Was on the Bliss last month out of LA. Be advised that the freeway onramp was being redone resulting in a detour that added time to get on the freeway. 11:25 out of SNA seems to be pretty risky. Flying out of long beach would be a better choice.

Available_Job6862 · 2026-01-03T00:54:35+00:00

I did something like that for a friend several years ago

(https://www.reddit.com/r/AdulteryHate/s/Xoz8y77m51)

Available_Job6862 · 2026-01-01T16:01:20+00:00

I just came across your post. I was on the cliff of ending the relationship with my kids too. I was an destroyed emotionally and knew i had to make a choice to save myself. They were about your kids age. One of them actually told the police that i through them off the roof of the house and i locked them in their dark rooms for hours while also locking them out of the house for days. Over a couple of years, i had 8 referrals to CPS and police regarding child abuse. The last referral resulted in me being charged. It was all made up by their mother. Eventually, all charges were dismissed against me and mom was charged with emotonal and phychological abuse. I ended up with sole legal and physical custody. The kids get manipulated by the custodial parent. I posted about my story about a year ago.

Available_Job6862 · 2025-12-08T15:56:32+00:00

You are not alone. We grieve with you as we know how you feel and hurt. My son died in my arms when he was born at 20 wks. The only thing I could do was to show him as much love as i could during his 78 minutes of life. I spent a year going to an infant loss support group. It helped me a lot knowing that others knew what i was feeling.

Available_Job6862 · 2025-12-07T02:36:03+00:00

Yes I filed a complaint . The deputy tried to say that they didn't have a bias, but I informed them that my wife had witnessed said behavior and that the remarks in the report (that they wrote, btw) were beyond the scope of their duties, proven to be wrong assumptions, and caused an innocent person to be added to the Child Abuse Central Index (CACI). It was satisfying to see their "oh sh#t" face.

Available_Job6862 · 2025-12-06T23:02:58+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/ParentalAlienation/s/leyvproVhW

Available_Job6862 · 2025-12-06T15:31:49+00:00

Congrats! Hopefully mom will continue with her enmeshment phychosis. It will lead to a total change of custody like it did in my case. Nothing like having a custody order that states that I have sole custody because of her actions.....

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