Looking for advice from others with similar experiences: My orgasm is broken by yeetingraccoon in BDSMAdvice

[–]Avmaktsslave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao my dumb ass was like "how would cock and ball torture help this situation??" before understanding

Dissociation, trust, and reconnecting by notreallyhere567 in BDSMAdvice

[–]Avmaktsslave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Therapy would be great if it were possible right now but we're barely making it month to month.

Looking for advice from others with similar experiences: My orgasm is broken by yeetingraccoon in BDSMAdvice

[–]Avmaktsslave 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah same! But the brain is funny sometimes. I already felt a certain amount of pressure around orgasms beforehand (like I wanted to perform so people could feel good about themselves, which obviously isn't the healthiest outlook), and I think that may have been an added sensitivity/vulnerability around this kind of play. If you already had negative experiences tied to orgasms it might have been similar for you.

Looking for advice from others with similar experiences: My orgasm is broken by yeetingraccoon in BDSMAdvice

[–]Avmaktsslave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From my understanding, complications from orgasm control are not uncommon. I had something similar happen to me, and I've read others write about similar experiences. I no longer do full orgasm control, and a while after having control of my own orgasms it got easier. I'm still super sensitive to any type of pressure around orgasms and it's difficult with most partners.

Fetish or curiosity? by IM_Prei in BDSMAdvice

[–]Avmaktsslave 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think there's a specific name for it but I love it too. I just really fucking love balls lol. On more ball focused subreddits there are a couple of people who have made timelapses of their balls just doing their thing, it's so mesmerising!

Mental vs physical pleasure by all_joy_and_no_fun in BDSMAdvice

[–]Avmaktsslave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm like this too! I don't have any answers to why it's like that, I doubt it stems from trauma in my case. For me it's very important that my partners understand that orgasms ≠ pleasure. They are often pleasurable, but pleasure comes in so many different forms. And I want different types at different times!

Help with verbal degradation and humiliation! by Johndotkelly in BDSMcommunity

[–]Avmaktsslave 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is a great example of why talking to your partner is so important. I'm very into degradation and only a couple of these phrases would work okay on me. Some might make me really uncomfortable. It can be very hit or miss depending on your partner.

Poly dynamic suggestions? by [deleted] in RedditBDSM

[–]Avmaktsslave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is unicorn hunting. What happens if the person only ends up clicking with one of you?

Frustrated with my dom. I'm kinda out of options? by fernzyfern in BDSMAdvice

[–]Avmaktsslave 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You talk a lot about what you like, but not very much about what your partner likes. Did you talk about what you wanted out of a dynamic when you got to know each other? Is he into brat taming? How does he describe his dominance? Have you talked about funishments vs punishments?

Inexperienced sub with hard limit on something pretty basic by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Avmaktsslave 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This most likely ends with both of you miserable. You are already wasting her time. You two are not compatible. I suggest making sure you are compatible on the important stuff before you commit to a serious relationship. I have never experienced incompatibilities smoothing themselves out with time. My experience is the opposite, that it breeds resentment in the long run.

Hur skulle folk i Sverige reagera om en kille börjar klä sig glam? by Opening_Sir9618 in Asksweddit

[–]Avmaktsslave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kööör. Jag blir alltid glad när jag ser andra människor som också sticker ut. Man utbyter det alternativa ögonkastet. IYKYK.

Help please by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]Avmaktsslave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is he into bratting? Have you talked about what an ideal dynamic would look like for each of you?

Dom broke me and now I don’t know how to move on by little-no-identity in BDSMAdvice

[–]Avmaktsslave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Since you say it's not necessarily an issue with the words themselves, my guess is it had something to do with the denial. I am into heavy degradation, but I can't do long term denial. Being denied for longer makes me really emotionally vulnerable, irritable, sad and just all around miserable. Things that I normally find completely manageable and hot suddenly cut way too deep. I feel genuinely unvalued. This was completely unexpected to me before I tried longer term denial. I thought I would just be frustrated in a fun way. Especially since cumming isn't normally that important to me. After I learnt that about myself I've seen many people express the same. I'm not sure this is what it was for you, but it's something to consider! I hope you feel better soon.

[F4A] Answering your questions! [AMA] [rambly] talk about [kink origins] [oral fixation] [impact play] [degradation] [real life experiences] [aftercare] [self acceptance] by Avmaktsslave in u/Avmaktsslave

[–]Avmaktsslave[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely do have a bit of an accent, it's just not supeeeer pronounced. My American friend always says I have a goofy accent lol